humour and attractiveness
By thogojames
@thogojames (161)
United States
May 31, 2010 11:27pm CST
I hate to sound so vain, but through out my life, i have noticed that girls who are not that physically attractive are the most interesting to be around. they seem to be so much more funnier than those that are attractive, they also make the best friends for guys and usually have a very pragmatic look at life. iv lost count of the number of times guy would avoid hanging out with his 'attractive' girlfriend to go hangout with his average looking friend who is a girl.
18 responses
@blindmoongoddess (426)
• Philippines
1 Jun 10
Sexiness have little to do with physical attractiveness. While pretty girls turn more heads, witty girls with vivacious personalities are the ones who captivate guys. I know some guys who ditched their pretty girlfriends and ended up with less pretty girls. Surely, there is something in those "less-attractive" girls that charmed them.
@blindmoongoddess (426)
• Philippines
1 Jun 10
Oops! I meant "sexiness has little to do with physical attractiveness."
@thogojames (161)
• United States
1 Jun 10
i get what you mean, sexiness is a ate of mind...i would take an interesting , less attractive girl anytime over a bombshell with nothing to interest me any day and twice on valentines day :)
@blue_thr3e (403)
• Philippines
1 Jun 10
it's the fact that we're not physically attractive that we try to emphasize our best features. it's also because of our experiences from being unattractive that helped us gain more positive outlook in life. we were not the center of attraction while growing up. we were being looked down and had been occasionally discriminated because we don't look good. BUT, same goes for the beautiful people. it's because of their past experiences associated to their physical features that made them what they are. if people weren't treating them special, they wouldn't have felt special and be conceited about it. if they weren't judged for being beautiful, they wouldn't have been bad a$$es who annoy most insecure people.
but some think they still have the edge and the world we live in still favors them. some think you can change someone's attitude and way of of life. you can even teach them to be smarter if they're no-brain. you can't make ugly people beautiful without surgery. and if you do that, as a catholic you'd feel like you had dishonor your God who made you look that way but if you try to change your attitude or the way you think, it's a commendable move. so i'm just glad you're one man who seem to really look beyond physical beauty. after all, it takes time to change an attitude or habit, but only some hundred thousand dollars to do surgery. hahahah... time is more expensive to me.
@thogojames (161)
• United States
1 Jun 10
thank you blue,,,, i tend to think that beauty is a state of mind rather than your looks. the most appealing people are have an appeal due to their personalities rather than their looks....so, if you have been blessed with goodlooks, that does not mean that you are appealing...but it is sad that most people tend to judge others by their looks....
@sweetyethot (1737)
• China
2 Jun 10
As a girl myself,I agree with u to some extent.So called "attractive"girls usually pay more attention to their appearances,but care less about their inside,which is more important in my opinion.As far as Im concerned,both inside and outside are important.Girls should not only beautify their looks but also their soul.A sense of humor will surely matter a lot when speaking of attractiveness.
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
1 Jun 10
I think anyone who gets by on looks alone will probably be rather shallow. But don't say that all attractive girls are uninteresting. I'm a model and I personally love sci fi, anime, comics, and I'm rather goofy. Ok I'm really goofy... But I guess that's because I never relied on my looks to get me by. And I've been thru a rough life so I developed a personality and strange interests along the way :)
@thogojames (161)
• United States
1 Jun 10
i hope you dint get me wrong... i dint mean, all attractive girls are dull and boring, far from that..what i was trying to imply is that guys tend to be more at ease with less attractive girls than with models....no pun intended ;)there is such pressure when talking to a bombshell as compared to talking to an average looking girl. good looks is like a double edged sword....i know very many pretty girls who are rarely asked out cause guys are intimidated by their looks...a goofy model...very intresting
@ohiocy (214)
• Malaysia
2 Jun 10
Haha.. and one wonder why is that.. It's all because of the different treatment they get from the guys around them, I believe. They are the ones that usually guys will not ask to go out on a date rather they are the ones that a guy will normally ask to talk about issues on intimacy with their own partners. That is why they have a better grasp on how guys thinks and they blend well with both genders. The world they live in have given them a perspective that changed them into someone that will not appear to the eyes of guys but rather to the heart of the opposite gender.
@cannarypepper (68)
• Philippines
1 Jun 10
I don't think it depends on how a girl/guy looks. Whether she/he is attractive or not, we all have different preferences and different interests. I really dislike it when people make prejudices about people's appearances and creates stereotypes.
@urbandekay (18278)
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1 Jun 10
You are right but you mustn't blame the attractive girls they have a disadvantage, their vision is so poor with their heads being stuck so far from where the sun don't shine!
all the best urban
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
1 Jun 10
Well we should not generalize because not all girls who are physically attractive are boring nor is it a fact that less attractive girls are all more interesting than an attractive one. As a matter of fact, we cannot even claim that MOST physically attractive girls are boring nor can we say that all less attractive women are more interesting. It is true that there are SOME physically attractive girls who are boring because all they can talk about is themselves or how they look or clothes they like and so forth but I can tell you that there more attractive girls who are quite witty and intelligent and can keep a guy's interest not by their looks alone but by their brains too. haven't you heard of beauty, brains and brawn which proves that beauty can go along with brains and even with sports. Maybe there are some who are so unlucky to have girlfriends who are just like the "dumb blonde" of American culture but look around you at all those physically attractive girls who hold on to the interest not only of guys but also of gals because of their intelligence and wisdom.One unattractive girl who holds a guy's interest is not a yardstick to hold against attractive girls.
@med889 (5941)
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1 Jun 10
What you are saying here is the truth and I appreciate it a lot though, I also found that boys were always around girls who has a great sense of humour and it is great to to have a genuine conversation with them no need to impress a lot.
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
1 Jun 10
Thats why God is fair...HE didnt give all those good assets... and yeah same here as a woman...well i admit that physical apperance is a big impact... but im more on somebody who can make me laugh and feel special...:)choosing a partner is not always how handsome or beautiful is he... but what he/she has to make you feel special:)
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
1 Jun 10
I am not attractive but yes I can attract guys to hang out with me. Since I am not attractive, I try to be flirty and gullible. Maybe guys attracted to beauty first, but guys also needs fun, humor, good conversations and being admired. You have to be more relax and try to be humorous. Beauty will fade someday, what will you offer a guy when it is all gone? Only a good conversation and humor. Good luck.
@jeanieous (107)
• Philippines
1 Jun 10
I think so! Ha ha. Guys get intimidated when they hang out with girls who have looks that are better than them and besides guys love to hang out with humorous girls because they're fun to be with and can talk anything under the sun.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
1 Jun 10
I think it's mostly because vain girls tend to cling to their vanity more and therefore pay more attention to their physical appearance than any other things. Yet, i don't really believe this to be generally true, I must admit that some pretty girls are also of substance and looks, they could be rare but they do exist. Sometimes, you just have to know the lady better.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
1 Jun 10
You're right. I also love to hang out with those not so attractive girls. They're more down-to-earth and that's a plus for me. It makes me fall faster for them than those pretty girls who has their feet higher than their heads while in cloud nine. Lol.
@cobrayogesh (174)
• India
1 Jun 10
wow is it so i just came to know that from you . are u such girl would u like the company of hot boys ? you seem to be a nice person
@Crisfannum1 (314)
• Indonesia
1 Jun 10
You're right. Take a look at Lady Di and Camilla Parker. Prince Charles is crazy about Camilla, though comparing to Lady Di, she's below average. But Camilla attracts more men than Lady Di.Still, I admire Lady Di, may she rest in peace.