Allowance

United States
June 1, 2010 3:40pm CST
Do you give your kids allowances? If so how much for what age? I used to do it in hopes that they would help out by actually doing their chores, it didn't work. We have decided to try it again now that it's been about a year. Whats your opinion?
2 responses
marguicha
@marguicha (223776)
• Chile
1 Jun 10
When my kids were little we gave them allowances according to their ages and needs. But it had nothing to do with chores. They MUST do their chores or they were grounded. Chores were not done for pay: it was their part of living in a family. I wasn´t paid for taking care or them nor was their father. We made clear that every meber of the house had responsibilities and it has nothing to do with money but with love and caring.
danielle101282
@danielle101282 (437)
• United States
2 Jun 10
Thats how it started but then when I took my son to his therapist (he has adhd and we go every month), he suggested we try the whole allowance thing, because my kids just wouldn't do them. I could stand over them but they still wont and I would end up doing it anyway.
marguicha
@marguicha (223776)
• Chile
2 Jun 10
I suppose every family has its way. If my daughters did not make their bed, they would have to sleep in a crumbled one. If they spilled their toys, I would sweep them to their room and have a rest of the house clean. If they didn´t do their homework, there was no TV or any sort of games. I´m old. Things are different now. Parents are way more permissive than what we were at my time. And I wonder about my grandson´s atention deficit (I don´t know if that´s the word in English). He has no problems when he is with me at my house. But he knows his limits here and I WILL NOT let him manipulate me. He knows that the ol´witch knows better . Still he loves me, we cook together, we talk. He chats with me via msn, but knows that I DO NOT accept new computer words with him. Of course I use all of them with my friends. LOL!!!
danielle101282
@danielle101282 (437)
• United States
2 Jun 10
LOL, my mom did the natural consequence thing with me and it worked great. It didn't work on my kids so well. Leave there bed unmade and their room a mess they were happy and just wont clean it. Things are different now, my daughter told me the other day she was going to call the police on me because I wasn't being "fair" as she put it. I told her to go ahead. Latter I asked her why she would threaten me like that and what gave her the idea and she told me that at school they taught her that cops were to be called if anything bad happened. I think maybe they should have elaborated on what they meant by bad.
dheckerz
@dheckerz (473)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
Hi, I'm not yet a mom by my mother used to give us allowance for our studies as early as elementary grades. And her rule was, if we spent all our allowance then we need to wait for the following week's budget. The reason for this is that she trained us how to budget our money and be responsible are early as possible and i believe that it really did worked. Since college, i've learned how to spend my money wisely.