how do you give your friend good advice when you in the same situation yourself?

Both go seek out another friend who can be of help. just kidding. I know it's tough being in love with somebody and getting to the reality of acknowledging their bad (cheating) habits. Worse when you're going through it yourself. But the fact that you care about your friend and her wellbeing is a great first step. But the question you want to be asking yourself is, do you want this cheating bfs with you or even your friend? It seems like he's causing damage and the situation is not going to get better. As a true friend and a person who respects your ownself, I would acknowledge that bf is not good and the problem needs to be dealt with soon. Who knows, those boys could be spreading stds or life threatening diseases. Are you going to sit there and let it happen? What if you girls get pregnant? Is he going to stay with you or being in the more "non child responsibility" girl? It's your call. I think the most important thing is for you two girls to realize the truth and make a decision together. What is the sole purpose of you girls keeping these guys around? Is it only for touching? companion? My definition of a bf is to have a male friend whom I can spend time with, like to cuddle with, cry on his shoulders with, dine out with, maybe occassionally get in little arguements with and just be someone whom I respect and him respect me. Not going to me and spreading other girls sweats and saliva that he carried back to me. Yuck! My final question I would like to ask you is, is your friend more important or the guy? Heck there are many fish out in the sea. They see us as fish, why can't we? This time, get a fish that wants to really stay close you at at bay. Good luck

Are you serious?? Why do you want to give her advice, don't you think she's okay in the relationship? If there's no problem for you then why would you think differently for her? I'd say to just tell her to stick with him, you can't advise different than what you are doing...

welcome to the wonderful world of mylot she. sometimes it is better to see or to have someone who is at the same situation as you are. you can help each other heal. you can be at each others side and both look after yourself and can be both strong to surpass something like this. there is a saying that you will never know how it was until you are in that shoe. as of now you re both at the same shoe then therefore you can both heal at the same time. you can cry together and laugh together.

There is no reason to stay in a relationship when you already knew that your partner is cheating. It is true that love is blind, we tend to be blind even when our partner already cheated us. Solve your problem first, by doing so you can emphatize your friend.

love is blind? No! But lovers are..are u? i can say yes but u have the right to go out of that situation all by yourself and seeing your friend with the same situation making thing worst. now u do it first! stop fooling yourself and be strong for u and for your friend. anyway there are lots of fishes in the ocean and not all of them are barracudas.start now!

I found from another post that said: A man cheats on you once, shame on him. A man cheats on you twice, shame on you. Your friend should leave this guy.It might hurt though. She deserves someone better and a better life ahead. Hope she can go through all this and wish her good luck!

I'm sorry this is happening to both of you. You probably all ready know this, but any boy that cheats on you isn't worth your time and worry. If he doesn't treat you like you want to be treated, he isn't for you. If he doesn't respect you, then you shouldn't be together. He needs to mature. It'll hurt. I can't guarantee that it won't. But it's the best for you, don't you think? I would try to solve your situation first before helping others. It'll make it easier on the both of you. Good luck! You can do it!