Can suspicion kill a relationship?
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
India
June 1, 2010 8:56pm CST
As the age old adage goes: "Excess of everything is bad;" the same holds true for suspecting your partner all the time. Everyone wants to be informed about their partner's moves, but being overtly possessive may act as the deadliest wrecker that can even break a relationship.
Imagine someone following you all the time, keeping a close tab on whatever you do and wherever you go and trying to know your every whereabouts. At what point can you actually start suspecting your partner? Keeping a check on their mobile calls, messages, letters, E-mails, chat records etc, can these extreme methods help you come closer to your partner? Isn't this bound to inject a feeling of insecurity and misunderstanding between the two of you?
Can a habit of over suspecting your partner kill the trust you've built over the years?
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12 responses
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
3 Jun 10
Definitely not trusting your partner will lead to other problems.
thanks for the response.
@zengy57 (59)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
Hello ajay! suspecting your partner of infedility? it is bad you can't trust your partner how can you love her? Keeping a check of every move? can you sleep soundly or you might even suspect what is she dreaming during her sleep. oh my God!! do you want her do what your doing to her? my gosh !! you might end up crazy .. thinking of something beyond reality.. sleep soundly. dont be restless with your relationship.love a lot .. its better to love and lost than never love at all.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
3 Jun 10
Definitely if you do not trust cannot love and relationship will end. So trust and love.
Thanks for the response.
@Mitraa (3184)
• India
2 Jun 10
Suspicion is certainly the killer of many relationships! It develops many bottle-necks in understanding as well as inter-person dealings! So I may say with confirmtion that suspicion can kill any type of relationship! Next thing is then why suspicion? On this question, I may say that one's suspicious activities only invites suspicion among others surrounding the person. So we must be careful about such activities and by word and action there should be always transparency! On arise of any suspicion, it must be directly asked to the person concerned and without arguement! Thanks for this nice topic and have always suspicion free relationship. Just note, with this posting my counting now reached 2222 and there is no trace of suspicion in it!!
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
3 Jun 10
You are right, talk to the person and sort out the issues as early possible.
Thanks for the response.
@shaggin (72119)
• United States
2 Jun 10
If someone suspects all the time of doing things that you arent even doing it can definitly kill a relationship. People really need to be able to trust their partners if they dont feel they can trust them then they should not be in a relationship with them thats all there is to it. I mean to an extent its ok to be a little suspicious if they start sneaking out in the middle of the night or saying they are somewhere and finding out later on that they really werent there at all. Then you have a reason to be suspicious if you've caught them in a lie.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
2 Jun 10
Yes it can definitely. My ex was just like that having people watching my every move and then reporting it back to him If anyone's trust was killed though it was mine along with whatever love I had for him. People that do that have no reason to lose trust as they are the ones being dishonest.
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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
3 Jun 10
Trust is base for a realtionship to work, we should trust and than carry it.
Thanks for the response.
@chirag2006 (123)
• China
2 Jun 10
obviously suspicion kill ur relation ship dont do it i think the best way to keep ur relationship happy is faith on ur partner and love for ur partner if u have insecurity with one than u start suspect so dont do it
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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
2 Jun 10
Yes, faith and respect is must in any relationship.
Thanks for the response.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
2 Jun 10
Lack of trust can kill and relationship faster than money troubles, lack of passion , and abuse combined! If you need to spy on your partner then the relationship is over, period!
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
2 Jun 10
Well said, trust is the base to maintain good relation.
Thanks for the response.
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
2 Jun 10
Yes, of course. Suspicion or misunderstanding has a lot of part in killing or destroying a relationship. The firs thing to be done when you have a misunderstanding or suspecion is to enquire more about it or talk to the person whom you suspected directly. Don't let it have in your mind and keep thinking about it. If you keep it in your mind, it will expand and finally destroy the relationship.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
3 Jun 10
I completely agree to your point, if you keep doubt in your mind, it will do no good to anyone but harm you. Get the things cleared, may be doubt is true or false, whatever it is, will be clear and relationship will eaither become strong or will end.
Thanks for the response.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
2 Jun 10
I am a firm believer that suspicion can very easily kill a relationship. When you are suspicious, you don't have trust. Without trust, the relationship is doomed. It is like a row of dominoes falling one behind the other. One misundertanding moment leads to another and another. Get ride of suspicion in your relationship or you may not have a relationship to cling to.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
3 Jun 10
yes, tak to the person and clear all your issues or suspicion right away.
Thanks for the response.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
2 Jun 10
Yes! Suspicion kills a relationship Ajay! And over-possessiveness as well. Everyone needs a little space to breathe. Suspicion begets suspicion.
Otherwise, trust begets trust. If one is trusted, one tends to give his/her best to live it up to the trust. But trust can only work with people who are mature enough to give their best because of the trust they get.
Thanks for the good topic.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
3 Jun 10
Trust is a must in any relationship.
Thanks for the response.
@werty009 (404)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
yes it can kill a relationship cause jealousy has it's two side the bright one and the ugly side,well the bright side is being jealous just sometimes is good cause it's give the relationship a certain twist not be dull while for me it's ugly part is being jealous all the time it can lead to misunderstanding or quarrel cause being suspicious to your partner's every move or doing or stalk him/her is a bad thing it feels like there is lack of trust in the relationship,when a relationship has lack of it that's a vital concern the relationship should be built with trust
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
3 Jun 10
I clearly belive that one shouldalways speak truth and do not leave any room for doubt so that there is enough clarity on things.
Thanks for the response.
@iloveme01 (79)
• United States
2 Jun 10
If you start thinking all the time as what your GF or BF doing at all the time that you are not together then my friend you will go crazy. Let go and let it ride.
If you are not married couple then what is the sense of bing suspecious. As far as I am concerned I don't care what my GF doing when she is not with me as long as she is not catching some sort of desease LOL
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
3 Jun 10
I think being married or not, everyone is an individual and deserve enough space and no one should narrow the space.
Thanks for the response.
