I'm 22 years old,but I don't have a boyfriend yet......
By Zw88121
@Zw88121 (7)
China
June 1, 2010 8:59pm CST
I'm a chinese girl, 22 years old. I have not a boyfriend yet. I find myself a little difficult in knowing boys and getting well along with boys. What's more, I find many men in my life are bad men with bad habits and disappointing behaviors, I'm afraid I will lose the confidence of loving a boy,what should I do?
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26 responses
@zukichucha (991)
• United States
18 Mar 11
It is said that good things come to those who wait! Do not feel pressured or anxious to have a boyfriend because then you will find yourself in one bad relationship after another. Try making friends that you share common interests with. Love blossoms where and when you least expect it!
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
12 Jul 10
dont be so afraid of meeting guys^^ go out with your friends and meet some guys^^ some guys are really sweet and im sure you will meet a special one also dont lose confidence^^ there is a guy for you. everyone has someone destined so why should you be different? dont worry^^ and dont be insecure ask your friends to go out one of these days and meet new people^^ for sure you will find the right guy^^ wish you the best^^ and dont be upsett^^
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Hi girl, do not generalize them. I think, not all apples are rotten in the market. In other words, you can find the right one in time. Do not rush. I have a cousin, who is the same age like yours, and she has not have a bf ever sine.
Acquaint yourself with guys. It does not necessitate that they will be your bf right away. Know them well and let friendship establish a good relationship. You just need to start mingling with guys and let them know you better too. By then, it will just come out naturally.
@Yori88 (1465)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
You just have to sit down and relax, no need to change the people around you but all you have to do is talk to yourself and ask what you really want. Are you really bothered not having a boyfriend yet? Maybe you should go out with friends and tell them your problem. Having is boyfriend should not be rushed. If the time is right it will just arrive. So don't panic, maybe you need to dress up or do some make over to attract others but no not rush to get a boyfriend. A good relationship should start with friendship because it is usually stronger than a rushed one. There may be men with disappointing behaviors but for sure there is someone out there who will suit your personality.
@chanlot (189)
• Indonesia
3 Jun 10
I've also been experiencing the same thing, but I am a man. I overcame it with a lot of discussions with people who have experience on how to find a good friend. Did you go to college or work? I think a lot of good people in your community and you can observe whether the people around you whether or not some features. The characteristics of a good person is
1. Not easily angered
2. Always apologize if done wrong
3. Enjoys helping people around
4. Always give a sincere smile
5. Can accept the lack of a friend
6. Always keep their promises
@SilverKing (1003)
• Canada
3 Jun 10
You should keep trying to find someone as soomer or later someone right for you will come along and you will be able to be happy. Im sure that some people you meet will not seem right for you but if you stick to it someone you like will come along trust me.
@zukichucha (991)
• United States
2 Jun 10
It might be a good thing that you don't have a boyfriend yet. Sometimes things happen for a reason. It might be that you are preparing yourself for a long relationship. I bet that when you do get a boyfriend you will be very happy together. Good luck!
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
Hello. You are still young to think about it. I suggest if you just go with the flow and enjoy what you have. There are still good men out there but don't rush to meet them. You'll find the right one at the right time. For now, focus on your studies or career, strengthen your friendship with your long time friends and know yourself more each day.
When the right person comes, you will find yourself in crossroads from to time. Sometimes, these crossroads might even make you think so hard because it might end up losing that person. But if you know yourself well and you know the person well for you, you can work it out.
Just take things slowly and the Mr. Right will come along when the time is right.
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
It is a well known fact that boys only love when they feel the girl deserve that kind of love. The question you have to answer is, why would they love you? can you do anything for a boy? If you pass this test I'm sure it will not take long for you to find a man who's willing to do everything for you. It's just a matter of refining your present qualities.
@ET28LV (1890)
• Latvia
2 Jun 10
Hello!
I agree with everyone who says this is quite normal that you do not boyfriend yet. I have brother who next month will be birthday, and he will remain at 20 years old. And he too do not have a girl. If you want to fall in love the best way is to do nothing. Your lucky guy find you when be the right moment. And love come too when be the right moment. Visit public and alternative places like cinema, shops, dance clubs etc. Do not think about love confidence. Everything will happen then come right moment. Have a nice day!
@himanshuorange (1145)
• India
2 Jun 10
just have faith in GOD because he has made someone for someone for sure...... and when your time will come you will surely get your someone.....
@Suminundu (192)
• Malaysia
2 Jun 10
I believe one day you will find your suitable boy friend...think positive about men. They are not all bad.Good luck.
@vanity666 (258)
• Spain
2 Jun 10
Well.. i dont have much experience yet,im 23,lol but i've had a boyfriend that hurt me a lot..i realized i was with with just because i didn't want to be alone and it was a big mistake in my life...so i just can tell you that there's no need to rush in these things, it's better for you and your heart to be sure that the person you choose is good for you and you really like him, those men with bad habits...don't waste your time with them, they wont't bring you anything good.
Best wishes for you, i hope you find the best person for you soon =)
@juanjuanlevin (147)
• China
3 Jun 10
Don't be worry please.I am a also a Chinese girl who lives in North China.I am a little older than you and I don't have a boyfreind,either.In north China,People tend to marry earlier than that in south,so my age is relatively older but I still have no mind to marry all because I have not find my best love.Others told me that I have no need to pursue and find my Mr Right tiredly,what all I should do is waiting freely the fate.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
2 Jun 10
Twenty two years is not a big age and you still have a lot of time to find the guy of your dreams. Don't be in a rush regarding searching of a boy friend. Take your time and find the guy you like. Remove the thought from the mind that all the guys in this world are bad. There are lots of nice people in this world and I am sure that you will find a good guy. Good luck to you.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
2 Jun 10
The one for you is out there somewhere, and destiny eventually will guide you to him, and him to you, so don't feel frustrated. There is a reason for the wait.
But it might help to speed things up a little bit if you go out some more, meet people, start with befriending them. You'll see you'll soon have suitors knocking at your door.
But patience is a virtue, so just pray and wait for the right one.
@jenzai (388)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
You are still that young to lose hope for having boyfriends. It will come, just love yourself first, improve your virtues, appearance, ask guidance from whatever your religion is and enjoy being single with friends and family. Then if these things occurs someone will notice that change.
@vikas_711 (106)
• India
2 Jun 10
Hi Zw, dont be so disapponiting. Its not like a game you have to play when you becom adult. You will get you best man when time comes. Everybody do have this in his/her life, some get (love) early some get it bit late. Need not to think much, enjoy the time.
@eveyoung (7)
• China
2 Jun 10
No offence but a little wondering are u still in China or you are somewhere else?
I am now working in China, and find an interesting phenomenon there. Girls of 22 years old, even though we say not big enough, are under the pressure of not having a boyfriends...The more interesting thing is that their parents are even more worried than the girls themself. An recently popular TV show, similiar to "Take me out", helps young people find the other half. Quite interesting :)
My advice is you just need to wait for the right person. And try not be so iealism. Men can not be 100% perfect, right?
I read a post that describe a bf that I cannot agree more,
A bf is someone you would like to talk with, someone you cruddle with, someone you cry on his shoulder with, someone you dine out with, and someone who you respect and who respects you. A bf should be the guy that is muture enough being commited to a serious relationsip instead of just having fun.
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