is it ok to hold grudge to your parents of what they did?

hey..i dont think he's doing the right thing,its his father and he's not living if not with his father.And he should not hold any grudge to his father.Lets put it this way,if his father is not happy with his mom anymore then divorced was really the best way.the relationship will be useless.About his fathers wealth i think they will get some from it coz they are still his fathers wealth and no matter how bad his father is,still on the end its his father,do i make sense?hehe

I really do not hold any grudges against my parents. But sometimes you do think about those stuff. But letting it go is really a good thing. I always remember they are my parents. They have done too much for me. And I respect them that much.

If it gives him something to work for... sure. But I hope he doesnt let this eat him up. I agree his father should pay but not at the peril of your friends sanity. He wont feel better if he wins in court. He will only feel better when/if he lets this go.

Holding a grudge for anyone is not good but this thing sometimes is hard to control. It is a feeling that one feels because of an event that probably hurt the person so much. It is up to the person really to heal himself. If he continues to carry the negative feeling in his heart, then this might affect his health. Learning how to forgive is a much better thing to do. In the recesses of your heart, just let go and tell yourself that you have forgiven the person. Then and only then can you breathe the clean air of happiness.

The question is if he's going to be a successful lawyer so he can revenge against his father. In this life, everyone commits mistakes, his father having an affair with another woman is now a trend or should I say commonly practiced either by a father or a mother. People are now easily tempted to do things like that because of so many factors only them knows why. If for an instance my mother or my father got into the same infidelity issues, I won't hold a grudge to any of them. What I will do is will try to fix things between the two of them, try if reverse psychology would work, try if the power of me, being their child, would work. If in case again, any of my parents do not listen to me, still, I will not hold a grudge against any of them, they are old enough, and each of them or each of us will and should suffer from the consequences of what we are doing. So I say, I don't have the right to hold a grudge to my parents, being a lawyer is not a solution, that might not really be your interest in life, the consequence will fall back to him. WE have God, let us just surrender everything to Him, in case you don't know, he makes miracle and He can change everything to your likes and wants and desires only if you ask for it.

well what his father did was wrong remarrying another woman when he had his own family to take care of and i think what the boy is doing thinks he is doing justice for his family. But the problem is he wants revenge. What would happen after he had his revenge? He would then think of his father each and every moment and then again life may become very difficult for him. Well if he can take good care of his family then well and good. I think what he is doing is right though. Parents should never leave their children under any circumstances.

It is not good to take a revenge on parents for the problem in their life, IF with the help of love and law if he had rejoined and led them a happy life than it would have been good, whatever may be the problem his parents and him lost the happy moments in life, now because of him they should not be in much more trouble

As I always say, hatred poisons the soul. It isn't easy to forgive and it takes a long time, but we must make a conscious effort to work towards making peace at least with what happened in the past if we cannot make peace with the person. We must forgive for our own sake. Holding a grudge against a person will never do anyone any good. If your friend wants to seek justice, he has the right to do so. After all, justice means giving someone what is due him or her. But your friend has to play fair and should not sue his father just because he wants revenge. If wants to sue his father, it should be out of thirst for justice, not for blood.

Holding a grudge doesn't really do anybody or any situation any good. It causes resentment and bitterness and jealousy all the way around. No one benefits from a grudge in the long run. The best solution to holding a grudge is to find a way to let it go. Find another release to lessen the burden you feel towards another person. You will feel much better for it.

I dont think it can be considered as a grudge.....he just wants to teach his a father a lesson for deserting his mom and siblings.he should be learning in the future that he was wrong and this so called anger on his father has encouraged him indirectly to take up law course than to completely avoid his studies which is good for his future.great day.

Grudges are just garbages. They are dirty, smelly and filthy. And they belong to the bins. They shouldn't be in our minds. Because they slow things down, make us out of focus and take away our strength and resources...

no i won't hold grudges to my parents what ever they did or what ever happens cause their your parents,they just want the best for us.parents don't want our life to be ruin,the revenge thing to a father maybe it's not a good idea i think if he does it his life will be miserable

well for me holding a grudge can only lead to self destruction and there will be no good result of having a grudge to other people can't find peace and love if he/she is holding such hatred, I know I don't have the right to say this thing as I don't know the whole story of your friends life, but as a friend I know you can feel the weights of the presence of your friend even though your friend seem to be happy or laughing. Being a friend to try ask your friend what will he get when he take his revenge on his father ask him will it change the past? or will it make him really happy and peace inside? try to make him realize what is he doing to his self.

It's okay with him I guess... It depends actually... If you know what your parents did was for your good, you don't have to hold a grudge against them, you'd be thankful actually. But if it was a hideous thing they did, then go ahead.

Time heals everything I believe that when he is going to complete and course and start practice maybe he will no more want to sue his father, now if the latter did really horrible thing and if he has not left anything for the family financially then the boy has a choice to sue his father to get the money he deserve as he is heir of the father.

Indeed what the father did was wrong. But I believe we are all bounded by our karma and fate and whatever comes to us, might be disliking for us at that time, but when we think of long term, we believe that is for the good of us. Your friend wouldn't had been a lawyer if his father didn't go wrong. He is a lawyer today due to circumstances. So good has happened to him. He shouldn't think of revenge. Instead he should try to focus on his career and see that he acquires more wealth than his father has got. I am sure he can do that.

Hmmm.. That's kinda harsh given the fact that they are blood related. Then again I have no authority to pass judgments in any way whatsoever. But if I were you,I had say I'll try my best not to let my friend take such a bitter journey. The road to revenge is always to appear sweet when it is in fact all bitter and fueled by pure anger alone. Though I have no idea what sort of motivation is your friend using to reach such a determine state but I don't think this effort will end with a happy ending. If I were you, I would do much in advising my friend to give up on such purpose and instead encourage him to actually be a lawyer for the people who are really in need of a counselor. I pray for your friend to be able to see the truth and not clouded by rage.

Fortunately, I've never had such problems 'cause I'm not sure how I'd react if I were in your friend's shoes. It's okay to be angry at first but never to hold grudge against your parents. Revenge is really consuming and it just destroys an innocent and pure heart. Though it may be difficult for now, the best thing to do is to support your friend, just be there for him and give him the unwavering care you could give him. Prayer will help too. After all, your parent will always be your parent. Forgiveness cures all pain and hurt and eventually, your friend would feel better if he will be able to forgive his father someday.

Holding a grudge is never good... I think your friend should attempt to discuss things with his father in a one to one conversation or something, maybe their relationship will be a bit better after some friendly chatting. Of course, if his father won't... then, by all ways, I'd say go for what he wants to do the most. If he's bent hard on revenge, I guess he has a reason to and everything.

let him grow out of it , as they say time heals all wounds but just keep an eye on him if he does something stupid:)