I am very very down right now

If you are still depending on your parents for your financial needs, you have to obey their rules. Otherwise if you're already an adult and are financially independent, you can do whatever you want with your life.

Hello friend!! Welcome to our sweet family, myLot!! Here you will have fun and you will earn as well. We will be like your family members and friends who will help you to solve your problems. Looking at your problem, I can say that of course you should go for love but first of all you should consider your resources... If you have just finished education and there too you will only study then how you will feed your girl friend means your future wife... just talks are not enough to fill stomach.. that needs food... Getting married is a big decision not a kid's game. Your family will never want your bad... May be they are not against that girl but they are against getting married now when you yourself are not settled and later your wife will also depend on your parents only... How you will keep your wife happy in another country when you will not have enough resources or income source... will you be able to feed yourself even...do you want to give a bad life to your lover... so many questions my friend... do not be blind now... Use your brain as well.... Just saying I am getting married is not enough...that is a big responsibility... Have nice time friend... I hope every thing will go right for you. I hope you liked our family and enjoying being part of it. Take care friend and good luck... take a wise decision... Happy myLotting!

There are many other considerations that are important for us to include in our advice to you. Your finances; the feelings of both parents; length of further education; what if you are blessed with children; and so on. I had a lovely girlfriend before I went overseas for a year but things changed while I was gone. It was not her fault but mine. I had changed a lot without realising it as my travel had broadened my outlook on life. I don't envy you your decision, but I do wish you both well for the future.

Hello Alan. I am wondering how come your parents think it is ridiculous for you and your girlfriend to get married before going abroad for further study since she is also an intellectual college student. I agree with you that you could make your own decision since you love your girlfriend for a relationship. Instead it would be greater for her to also receiver higher education abroad with you. Anyway, I wish you both smooth in your own decision. Good luck with you both!

Hello there! congatulations for finishing your studies. Your decision to go abroad for further education was so wise because it will create you a much better chance to compete with this very competitive world. However, along with this comes a quite difficult problem of yours. If i were you, i will take my time because being married was already a lifetime commitment. For me, it's better if you go there alone and assess the situation first. True love can wait, if in case that you can't stand being apart after sometimes, then make a decision afterwards. Good luck to you!

I reckon at the end of the day it is your decision, you have to do what you feel is right and not just what pleases others, if ur parents love you (and im pretty sure they do haha) they will get over it :)

hi there. so have you gotten a clear thought regarding your problem? the responses of our mylotters are really nice. i hope you get to put those into consideration. =) just my thought, your said that your girlfriend wants to come with you in China and the only way to make that possible is if you get married. if her entry to China is one of the reasons to get married, i think you have to take it a little slower first. you have to understand that getting married is a life long commitment. you have your life ahead of you. you are young. am not saying that getting married will put a halt into that. if you are sure that your gf is the one for you and that she'll be fully supportive of everything you want to achieve, then get married. however, you have to understand that being married, you have to sacrifice some things. little things like time, attention, distance, etc. if your gf really loves you and trusts you, she will wait and make ways for you to end up married at the right time for the right reasons. i wish you good luck. you have a special opportunity for a good education, don't neglect it. =)

What does your family think is ridiculous? The fact that you want to get married at this age? Getting married with this particular girl? Getting married in order to study abroad with someone? Or what?

Well, marriage really need much preparation- I personally think that you are still young for marriage. But that depends on you, are you ready for it? Can you support yourself? Is there no other way that your girlfriend can accompany you without undergoing marriage? But if you really love her and you are so sure that she's the one you would spend the rest of your life with- then I think it's alright..You should have a talk with your parents though..

Hi Alan, FOR ME, everyone has a problem to struggle in everyday life, as I am too, after the mess I had in my-life because of other people. The only thing we need to be strong more, faith in God, think more times before doing such action about our plans, to avoid more mistakes. Establish yourself in the place you wanted to go for your education and when u think everything is ok, then your gf can join you, china is not too far to go with, she can follow you anytime. Nothing wrong to be Obedient to our parents, you still have your final decision, just explain and let them know what you really want for and your purpose of doing it. Family is just concern, they are worried . Just be open to them and they will respect your decision no matter what. Best of Luck.

One day make you face the reality,what makes you request that I don't face the fact in 2 years.Once you promised not to leave me as you now say you won't leave me if I wait you. weather I should believe you? why don't you let me leave ever. I believe that "love drinking enough". So I am not afraid difficulties in abroad,because you are in my side.I know you want to abroad,that is your future.So I decided to go with you.But everyone even you say it's not practical.What can I do.Even know impossible,I only hope we adhere to the biggest effort .Maybe their attitude is determined,but we can more determine than them,maybe we'll success.But you don't with me together. It has been done, what can I say. You are so changeable. Since you have already say good-bye to me,please don't change you decision.