Is "I don't know" or "I'm not sure" an option?

@Theresaaiza (10487)
Australia
June 2, 2010 2:33am CST
Do you answer discussions to which you vaguely have any answer to? Or do you google, or do a research before responding to make sure that the things you say don't embarrass you later on? How do you deal with a discussion to which you are clueless but you answer anyway for whatever reason?
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@amelly (1554)
• Malaysia
2 Jun 10
well i answered the discussion confidently because i try to pick the one i knew well about it and i try to avoid the one that use facts like the current issues with articles and politics..ya know since i'm 18 thereis nothing much i knew bout all that kind of stuff..frankly i always respond well rather than just saying i guess or i think that.....
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
3 Jun 10
Hi amelly 18! You can be 18 and be knowledgeable about many things. Age shouldn't stop you dear although when I was your age, current issues and politics...especially POLITICS...were the least of my interest!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
4 Jun 10
I used to hate Politics and avoid it like a plague. I used to wonder why older people wasted their time on it. But then I got to the age when I just couldn't turn my back on some issues without pondering on it or discussing it with other politically-inclined people. It's a headache sometimes, but it feels great to be aware on what's going on around you. But don't push yourself. Some things just come naturally in time.
@amelly (1554)
• Malaysia
3 Jun 10
well..that is true..i dislike politics and i'm not really into it..i like current issues though but i like to ask or answer the one i know well rather than just say anything i want..hehe..btw thanks..
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
I honestly don't try to participate in discussions that I have no idea about at all. I would end up just typing one or two sentences and that alone is alredy embarrassing for me. It would be better that I know something about the topic and then post my comments about it. Simply guessing and having no basis to whatever it is that I am typing to a discussion that I don't know would simply make me feel weird. Perhaps if the topic just made me interested, I guess I'll read some of the comments that other members have already posted. From there, maybe I would develop my own ideas about the matter.
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
6 Jun 10
Indeed. Its really annoying sometimes when you get to read a very interesting discussion or even perhaps start one that you really gave a lot of effort in explaining or describing examples and then, would just get comments or responses that aren't even that satisfying. Of course, there are comments that are really concise and with brevity, which can be an exemption but, there are those that simply leave you with that impression of their vague opinions.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
7 Jun 10
I call them responses that make me feel less loved!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
6 Jun 10
You are right, it's always a good read when a discussion or response had been poured out with effort and appropriateness. I can tell when a response was sincerely done and thought of.
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@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
4 Jun 10
I never answer a post for which I know nothing or just don't care. Sometimes I even ignore a post for which it would take me too long to answer. I know that's probably not nice, but it's honest.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
7 Jun 10
I also do the same. I skip it if i hate it.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
hi theresa, well, i think if you don't know the answer to a certain discussion,better eresearch it first or better leave it and move on to another discussion. i know,it's on the mylot guidelines not to respond with this kinds of responses. even in our daily lives,i know it is not certain to instruct people to certain areas and say you don't know. it's kinda annoying especially when the discussions are really important. so if you don't know the answer just research first to know some ideas on the topic to make the discussion make more relevant and lively.not just saying "i don't know,i just passed by" what kind of excuse,right?
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
6 Jun 10
Yes, true. When you try to come up with the appropriate response, that is also one sign that you answer discussions sincerely. Thanks.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
I usually answer only discussions that are pretty clear to me, but when I get comments that are not clear to me, I research on what the comment could be about. It is in the nature of my job to do research, and we were trained to never say "I don't know". So, I research.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
3 Jun 10
definitely. nothing beats a factually backed-up statement, right?
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
yep, i guess so. hahah.
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• Philippines
2 Jun 10
Greetings Theresa.. :) I don't really respond to posts or discussion in which I am not that much aware of, because I try to avoid any misunderstanding or another topic being deleted. Though I am quite new here, there's already one deleted yesterday. If I'm not much familiar with the topic, I might just read it and learn from, rather than respond to it without giving any clear explanation on my opinion.:)
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
3 Jun 10
Hi riskbreaker, welcome to Mylot! There are so many things that we can learn and pick up here on the Lot and I'm glad that I signed up for this site. Later on, you will encounter topics that will interest you, and you'll find yourself responding to them even if you are not well-versed on it but you know that you have tiny bits of info that you can share. Good luck and happy mylotting!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
4 Jun 10
Yes, enjoy! That, i can guarantee!
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
Thanks Theresa, I will do what I can to spend more time here and enjoy.:)
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• United States
2 Jun 10
I never give a response if I am "clueless" this against the myLot guidelines under the the Don'ts: give meaningless responses to try and boost your rating. I always research and give the link to any article or source I have used to substantiate my post as I know only too well that I have some myLot users who seem to be waiting to pounce on any posting I make if I have not posted the link to my source.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
3 Jun 10
"some myLot users who seem to be waiting to pounce on any posting I make if I have not posted the link to my source." So I see there are anti whiteheathers round here.
@ElicBxn (63664)
• United States
2 Jun 10
I don't respond normally. If the discussion has made me curious, I might look something up and see if I learn anything...
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
3 Jun 10
Yes, better be sure and safe than sorry...
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
3 Jun 10
Sometimes I see an interesting topic that I know nothing about and respond saying exactly that so that I can then go back and see what tohers said and learn something. I usually respond to those topics where I have personal experience to offer and rarely a topic which needs the help of a search engine. Surely whoever started that post could use the search in the first place? If I'm not sure or I don't know then I don't respond just to say so. I get enough posts deleted without adding them to my numbers too
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
10 Jun 10
We are told to read the previous responses before we post our own. That way we won't say the same thing as someone else. We can add to theirs but if we say the same thing, our response is liable for deletion
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
7 Jun 10
I usually avoid reading other people's responses before I make mine because I want my answers to not be influenced by ideas of others. Oftentimes I cheat though. Yes me too I read other people's responses because I find that I learn from them as well. I just usually do that after I have posted mine, and only then do I go butting in on other people's conversations.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
10 Jun 10
I regret it when I cheat (read other's before posting) because I only end up feeling insecure about my own ideas. If my response was similar to someone else's, I still would carry on with that response, sometimes pretending I never read what the other one had to say.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
3 Jun 10
Hey Theresaaiza! I do sometimes respond to discussions that I am not quite sure how to answer, but I always start off my response by saying so! I say what I think or feel anyway! If I totally don't have any opinion at all or totally have no idea or thought about the subject, then I obviously won't even bother wasting the posters or my time! Sometimes you think you don't exactly know what to say, and then the more you think about it you think you might have a thought or something that just might fit in or be slightly helpful so you take the chance and respond! But, I only do that after making sure the poster knows that I am just "going to give it a shot"!
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
6 Jun 10
That's exactly what I do. There are posts that I don't know how to tackle but after giving it a thought, I realize that I can give it a try!
@Yori88 (1465)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
I always want to answer discussions here that suits my interest. I prefer opinionated topics or suggestive topics rather than questions looking for a fact. I even close a topic after opening it as long as I find it boring or uninteresting. Questions from people here that just needs answers are fine with me as long as we will not argue with a fact. There is no room for argument if you simply ask "Is the earth the center of the universe?" something like that. So I do not feel embarrass even at some point I may have said something wrong as long as I am not questioning a truth.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
6 Jun 10
The beauty of opinionated answers is that it's not right or wrong. Opinion plus facts is even better because you have info to support your statement. What we need to be careful about is to give biased opinions that only show discrimination.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
2 Jun 10
We can all come up with "I don't know" or "I'm not sure" as a reply to any question. It is the coward's way out. You are not agreeing or disagreeing. You are not offering your opinion in any way. To answer so vaguely is to not answer at all.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
3 Jun 10
That is right. But in my case, if I really don't know anything, I either skip it or research it to offer help in a way. That also to also enlighten my own mind and learn something new. So there, there is always a way out other than plainly saying "I don't know"
@manojt2 (179)
• India
3 Jun 10
It depends on where you want to answer. I remember when I was working as am employee, to utter these words was sin. You didn't have that liberty to escape by just saying I don't know or I'm not sure. Instead we need to answer "I'll just figure out and report". Although I don't know or I'm not sure carries the frank answer and shows us how honest we are that just doesn't work in the professional work. For any other situation, you can just answer any of the above-mentioned quotes and escape. No issues.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
6 Jun 10
I had a chance to teach before and answering "I don't know" when a student is asking a question is a mortal sin. Instead I always tell my students that if they have questions that I could not give an answer right away, I would have to read it first and give an answer the next day.