What your reaction when you learn your ex had not gotten over you?

What will i do?? Maybe i will feel happy, but at the same time, i will be feeling guilty?? Because what's over should be over.. pLus, he/she is the one who has not gotten over me, but that does not mean i'm the same too.. If i do still harbour any hopes of getting back with my ex, i wont have gone on to another relationship after the break up right?? hehe PLus, i will feel that i'm selfish and be letting down my current relationship too.. Everybody needs to move on and it's a matter of time.. Whatever his/her decision, i can only be advising them to move on.. haha

I used to have an ex whom was not able to get over me.. I thought that wasn't so, but I was told by a friend. I was shocked, and I went to confront, but things didn't help. So I had to force myself to go turkey, and after that, my ex didn't bother me anymore. Sometimes, they need a tiny encouragement on our part and others to make the leap or move backwards.. But for extreme cases, I've never encountered myself. I've seen it happening to others, and up to the point of stalking.. so that's not good.

Oh he got over me fast he married my cousin right off plus now he has married several others. He probably did to them others what he did to me and that was cheat on them . Dont think he ever loved me just someone to have around wehn he wasnt catting around got rid of him fast when I found out!

well what did i do? nothing. haha its his feelings and i can't control it. it don't make me happy or sad. unless i still have a feel for him. but if the case is he's the one who leaves me for something or someone and he's the cause of break up then i guess its just karma that strikes him. hehe and maybe the best thing to do is just avoid him specially if you two are not friends at all. acceptance should be the key and he just have to move on since nothing he can do to take me back since i am already married!

i will not care about that as that person did to me earlier.. i would get happy.. that the problems i faced.. those problems are coming in front of her...

several months ago he texted me that he wouldn't be in another relationship by the time he gets his master degree.he asked me for another chance at that time.I feel amused but I did not turn him down.OMG it will take five years or so for him to make it.should I wait for that long? but actually i don't love him any more,maybe it's because he is the first love in my life...it's all right to do like that? I don't know.

I am very happy with my relationship. I married a wonderful man. He is not perfect but there are lots of qualities in him, that makes me more in love with him. Therefore having a man like that in my present and in my future, My ex boyfriend who has not gotten over me, could not affect me anymore or I think I am going to gloat over his misery. HA HA serves him right after hurting me too much when I was with him.

I may not feel better but I would surely not try to contact him, which might give him hope and will be more painful for him if I am not going to be interested. If you have already ended the relationship then there must be a very good reason for that, no need to dig up the past... it's over.... he will also get over soon just it is taking a bit longer, think like that

Only reason I would care, is if I were single and I had still not gotten over him. But I'd approach it very, very cautiously. After all, there's a reason why we split up.

I know my ex husband has not gotten over me because I have called him to help me move out of my current situation 3 months ago. He and I were married for 17 years and we have a 20 yr old daughter together. We were always friends, in fact right now we are living together as friends with our daughter. He has helped me in so many ways, including co signing a car loan for me and taking me back and forth to various drs appts. I am currently separated from my husband, and I am grateful that my ex husband has been kind enough to step in and help when I needed it the most.

I would feel bad to know that my ex had not gotten over me. But, there must be a reason he would be my ex. All I can do in this scenario is think of my ex. I would never go back to him. He treated me horribly! I would still feel bad that he is alone, but at the same time, I kind of think he deserves it. He was not a good person. I have been told he has changed, but it is hard for me to believe. He did too many things that hurt me for me to believe he has changed.

A relationship is a serious part of anyone's life, especially if it is an intimate one. Consequently, this step should be taken after you have considered issues such as values, occupations, religious outlook,family orientations and perspectives on family life. When these things are address and a serious relationship starts then both parties will work through problems which will come and if there needs to be a breakup it is done decently. However, some persons takes a long time to overcome that relationship as they give themself time to heal. So, some will take time to be engaged in another relationship. The fact that he/she is not in a committed relationship does not say that he has not got over you. Remember that some relationship is going on for years so it takes time to move on. Remember the song "memories do not leave like people do, they always stay with you wether they be good or bad..." Personally, if there is a break up each party is to move on. Do not feel bad because if it could work there would not be a break up in the first place. Some break up is a wake up call to look at yourself and the other party and learn and see how life can turn for both of you. People change, their situation change and some people cannot adapt to these changes so move on. Look at it as new beginings. Many persons would have been alive today if they had moved on but looking back and holding on to nothing is foolish, so look at their story and learn. I started a friendship but as I examined it I realised that this was not the Lord's best for me so I called it a day and the answer was mutual. To move on always value yourself, as beautiful and valuable. Life is dynamic so change with it too.

i think in my opinion when relationship is end it means to say i dont have any more attachment to him even he cares still with me i don't care anymore because i am moving from the past relationship.

Hi maybe I would feel a little bit guilty. When I was a teenager, my boyfriend wanted to renew our relationship but I said no because I had an agreement with my parents to study first and no boyfriend. I really felt sorry for him when I learned that he got hitched with a girl his family don't like because of the girl's reputation. And the more that I felt guilty, because he always showed in my dreams. When we met on my mother's wake, we talked and there my guilt feeling's gone.

neelianoscet, Frankly, I do not think I could really do anything if the other party cannot accept the fact and still would want to harbor the impossibility of rekindling the relationship. Also, I do not think the other party would want my help or anything to do with me for their recovery. Not that I would not want to help if they really want mine to move on but most of the time they would rather do it on their own, if you know what I mean. On the guilt factor, I would not say that I would be solely responsible as the other party has an equal responsibility to move on, live for himself/herself and not disappoint his/her parents who have made so much sacrifices to raise them up. The song just help sums up some of what I have to say and think. Video: http://www.tudou.com/programs/view/Ir1kwm1FkIo/

I'm kind of in that situation right now. My ex is still not over me and he textsm e and always ask me to take him back etc or come to see him. But I avoid that situation because I don't want him to hurt me like he did before. he always cheated on me with every friend I would introduce him to. And I'm also no longer friends with that person too. So I could careless if he still likes me or not. I'm looking elsewhere and still trying to find Mr Right. Which I think I finally have but will see =). My Ex can go hurt someone else but Not me again..

I would find that discovery disturbing if I had completely moved on and he had not. It happened to me once in my life. An ex of mine showed up on my doorstep eight years after we broke up. He had an excuse; he wanted to give me some photographs of a trip we had taken together years before. I wondered why he would not part with the photos at the time of the split but was keen to share then now! It was clearly an excuse to see me again as I found out later! I did not want to go back there and I made the mistake of communicating with him again hoping we could be friends but that is not where he wanted to be, he wanted more and I was not prepared to give it to him so by allowing him back into my life even for a short time, I ended up hurting him all over again. I think when one partner has moved on it is better to stay away.

it depends..hehe if i still love him, well that's nice.. and if i don't, well he better move on. and it depends why we broke up. :) if its because of a third party by him, well again he better move on. :)

In my humble opinion, my reaction will depend mostly on the reason why we broke up and my feelings for that person at the moment.For example, if the reason for breaking up was that he cheated on me, I would let that person know that he ruined his chances and although I was flattered there was not a chance of reconciliation.But if the reason of breaking up was just we grew apart or for any other petty difference, I might consider trying again if he was a good person.

Not at all even though i got over her, its pretty irritating for me when she always calls me asking how i was, sometimes i just want to tell her straight that i dont want her to call me anymore but i couldnt i dont want to be rude to her and add more misery to her. I understand what she feels because ive been in her position too..