Who would you talk to??? Please give a fair decision...
By mr_pearl
@mr_pearl (5018)
India
June 2, 2010 11:24am CST
Dear fellows.. I am sorry that I couldn't come online yesterday. I am not doing well, I trust.. I feel lonely... I feel terribly lonely and helpless, due to the circumstances... I remember the past all the time.. I have made a few huge mistakes... Those were terrible mistakes and I ended up as 'Nepolean gone wrong..'
My ex girl friend has brought me to this pitiful stage... I feel trapped... and helpless... Had I had the same old might and power, I'd have loved to crush her into pulp... Well.. I am helpless... I don't have enough funds to reach my fiancee... There is so much pressure.. My family is against me... Seems as if, the world is against me.. This is the most painful stage that I am going through... And you know what, I need to talk to someone.. I need to tell my story to a nice friend... There is no one near me to hear me...
Have you ever felt the need of talking to someone close??? Do you always find someone like that? I never do... What do you do when you don't find someone???? Today, I feel that I should end this existence and get rid of the pain forever... Feel so tired and lonely... Do you think, I should act as per my instincts now??? Do I have the right to end my existence, if I find it miserable and unhappy??? What do you think?? Please share...
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15 responses
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
2 Jun 10
Sweetie, we are over 200 000 people here on mylot. We might not be your closest friends, but we are here to help, give advice and just listen when someone need to talk. Pick one and share that burden and loneliness of yours. It will make it better and lighter, you know. TATA.1 person likes this
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
3 Jun 10
Last I checked, it was 205,000++ now it's already 206,345... awesome.. 
Yes, pick someone to talk... like me or you.. 
.. just kidding, Saph..
Yes, pick someone to talk... like me or you.. .. just kidding, Saph..
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
24 Jan 11
whenever i feel alone and far away from my family or there is no one to talk to, i feel the same way like you.
as the medicine, i used to write down all the feelings inside and make a virtual discussion on my diary.
you have right to end it if you want to, but imagine many person need you more than you need yourself
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Jun 10
First you do have someone to talk to, Me! Send me a private message. I'll listen. I was lucky. When I felt the way you described last September,my close friend helped me. He made me see everything would be ok. And it was. Try to look at it this way. Your fiancee Loves you and is willing to wait, right? Then the money is the problem. It may take longer than yo want but you two will be together. It could be worse, You could Still be the b!tch of an ex! I know it hurts now but Hang in there. Can you call or write your fiancee? Wouldn't hearing her voice help you have hope? Or will make you feel worse?
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
3 Jun 10
Whatever it is, don't end your life..
Every problem has a solution, and sometimes the solution is not in front of our eyes yet, or that we haven't realized it. If you don't mind.. do share the details with all of us.. and I'm sure many including myself would be willing to offer some advices, the best that we can.
This always works for me. I take some deep breaths, listen to some music, have a cup of drink and then rest. Listen to some music again, watch some videos, sleep and the next instant, I'll feel as fresh as ever. Hope this helps.. anything, we are all here to offer advices, remember that.
@josga2008 (320)
• Canada
3 Jun 10
I talk to the closest of my friends. The reason I say closet of my friends and not just friends is that I only feel comfortable talking about serious things with people I'm really good friends with. After I narrow it down to the closest friends I next pick the one or two that I feel would relate to my situation. This can change depending on the problem. I feel best talking to someone who may have had a similar experience
@rastogisw (445)
• India
3 Jun 10
NO that will be not correct if you end up your life...as this is not solution for the things which gone wrong...you can scold her ...or you can take a photo of her and tore that like movie..you will really get help or talk to some friend who is close to you.
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
Please don't end your life. Just to make you feel better, every person goes a depressing state of mind. Even I, as I write is depressed over the workplace I belong because of these co-workers who are very negative about everything. But I still hold on.
I need to because God does not want me to loose faith. But instead He wants me to use this present situation I am into, to transform me into a better and stronger person.
Yes I am a catholic,and I can not say that I am perfect for that matter. But I am deeply holding on to my faith. Please do the same. If you just believe that tomorrow there will be sunshine after the rain, you will hold on, because it always does come out.
Dear, you can never change the past and the situation you have right now, but do you know what you can change? It's how you percept things to be and how you handles these problems.
Laugh outloud. Learn to trust even just one or two persons. And most of all pray. This will keep you going everyday. God will, in His given time, make you meet the right people for your life.
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
2 Jun 10
hi mr pearl-god promised he would never put more on us then we could stand and i belieave this is true.there are so many people that are blind or cant talk and that are ill with things that they can not change this to is a lonely state to be in. i have had times i could not find a friend and yes lonleyness will sometimes find you even when you are around others.but do try to get out when you are feeling this way and see people and do things with others join a gym or some thing else where you can meet others stay busy every day and by all means say your prayers and things will change.god bless you.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
2 Jun 10
I am in a rough situation too. I have been so depressed and troubled. However, I don't want to end it here because it's not the ending. I want to wait and see if it gets better! If I end it today (or you end it) you'll never know if it would get better. Who knows what might be down the line for you? Maybe you'll win the lottery or a family member will pass and leave you bunches of money.. those are maybe way out there examples, but you never know what's up the road if you turn off of it now!
@sleepylittlerose (1648)
• United States
2 Jun 10
You are never alone when you surround yourself with your friends here on myLot. There are always open ears to listen and give you the boost you will need. Also I am sure that there is a crisis counselor in your area if you feel you need to talk to someone in a one on one setting.
Giving up and giving in to your darkest feelings of gloom will not make anything better. Try going outside and take a nice relaxing walk in the sun. Clear your mind and find the simple things in life that you can enjoy.
@kat001 (92)
• India
2 Jun 10
Hi Pearl,
I am writing this as a friend...
I really doubt whether you LOVE your fiancee and vice versa. Please do a soul search before you get married. I don't find any reason for you to long so much for someone to tell your story when you are in love with your fiancee.
Nobody can bring you to a pitiful stage unless you allow yourself to be so. Do you think you are weak & powerless, tired & lonely, miserable and unhappy to end your existence? What message do you give to your ex girlfriend, your parents and to this world?
You have the right to end your existence if you don't have the courage to be confident and happy.
What is your aim in life? How do you spend your free time? Do you find yourself utilizing your free time towards achieving your goal or just passing the time thinking of revenging somebody/longing to have more money?
I don't think any good parents would like to see their son in a state described by you in this post. There may be nothing wrong if you can contact them.
It is you who have to decide finally though. Please take decisions that you can stick to make your life meaningful.
@cheatedaphrodite (810)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
You are never alone, it's just that you don't know or don't want to trust someone. I believe that there's someone out there who could help you and if you think you don't trust them them try to share some of your problems here. You will be getting some responses that will help you ponder on what you are experiencing right now.
I had been in that stage before and you know what I did? I chose to talk with someone who does not know anything about me. A priest, yes he is a priest and after our discussion, his comforting words helped me a lot to ease the burden. I believe in what he said that the Lord carried half of what I have and left the other half for me to learn from it. I guess you better try it, nothing will be lost and I think you won't even think of it as a waste of time.
Also, let the Holy Spirit work within you. Pray and I know our Good Lord listens. I hope you will find peace of mind and a happy heart soon. Take care..
@KathysLaw (77)
• United States
3 Jun 10
Mr_pearl,
I'm sorry to hear that your doing so bad. We all have our moments that we feel awful and lonely. I can assure you that life is not over! Never think that ending your existent over another is the only way out, because is not. This is the reason that no matter how in love you are, you should always have a friend or friends, and have a life besides your relationships.
Life continues with or without her! If you need someone to talk to email me! I don't mind talking to you.
Kathy
@zsarhea (302)
• Austria
3 Jun 10
hey...i dont think ending your life will solve your problem...can u take the possibility that u wont touch and feel your loved one anymore?that one day u will have your own family?Sorry to tell u this but thats really a stupid thing to do,why dont u look at the brighter side?besides,u wont have that problem if u cant solve it.You may did some mistakes in your life before but make it as a lesson learned so u wont do the same mistake in the future.And about what your ex did to u,well i guess its her loss and not yours,dont let her think that u havent moved on yet ( but u really havent moved yet ) PRove to her that u can find someone better than her and i do believe that when someones gone then someones better will come...
I hope those advices will help you,send me a message here if you wanna talk to someone.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
I think that this is only a phase. You'll get through this soon enough. Work on picking yourself up first and everything will fall into place.
