Death and Grief
By TexLadyPj
@TexLadyPj (1328)
United States
June 3, 2010 8:03am CST
I was thinking of the people I had lost and realized three of the four special people in my life I "just missed" being at their bedside by minutes. My mother-in-law, we were at her bedside, I had to go to the bathroom. When I returned she had passed. My Aunt Linda passed in the ambulance going from the hospital to the care center for her care until death. I was not allowed in the ambulance. My question: have you ever "just missed" someones death and how did you deal with the grief process?
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@edorms36 (275)
• United Arab Emirates
3 Jun 10
Hi! You know your even luckier because you are there with them though you missed the time they had passed away, as for me, I was not able to say goodbye to my grandfather who had brought me up because I am somewhere here in the middle east working far from home and the very last time I spoke to him was Christmas day, I never knew it will be the last time I'd ever hear his voice, he passed away on March of this year just 13 days after his birthday, the load of grief is even heavier on my part because I missed his birthday, I was not able to call him to greet him because of work, and I was told that his waiting for me to call him, maybe that is the time that he plans to say goodbye to me but i missed it. Until now I am still in denial, I still cannot accept that his already gone, and whenever I got to realized that his gone, I feel the sharp pain of loss all over again.
@TexLadyPj (1328)
• United States
4 Jun 10
Thank you edorms36
Your denial is the first stage of the grief process, you are on target with grieving. My prayers are with you. If there is anything I can do to help you, please let me know.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
3 Jun 10
my dad passed away last February and there are still times when i still very sad about it. he had called the morning that he passed away to talk to us but i was getting ready for work and hubby was in the shower so we missed a chance to talk to him. He passed away just hours later.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
17 Jun 10
I can't say that I have, at least not in the kind of circumstance you describe. At least these deaths were not sudden and completely unexpected, though I don't know if we are ever fully prepared when the time of loss occurs.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
27 Jun 10
My condolences. I wish I could say it will get easier but there will always be a part of you that will miss them and no one can replace them for you. But at least you can still create wonderful memories and tell your own children and other young family members about your aunt and grandmother so they will know them through your stories.
@MRSSTEVENS (125)
• United States
4 Jun 10
I have never been in this situation, but i am so sorry for your losses. I can't imagine the feeling. maybe it happened for a reason, so you didn't have to be there when they passed. maybe it was a blessing.
@TexLadyPj (1328)
• United States
4 Jun 10
Thank you MRSSTEVENS
Thank you for your concern. I have grieved all of these losses, however there can always be another one around the corner. Each one is different.
@TexLadyPj (1328)
• United States
4 Jun 10
I would like to request friendship with you. I used to teach Psychology of Grief as well as my personal grieving, both people and pets. I even grieved a car I had to use as a downpayment due to extensive mechanical problems. I loved that Ford Taurus.
@qianyun6 (2067)
• China
4 Jun 10
My grandmother, who is my mother's mother, passed two years before, in October, 2nd.
That's out National Day and we have 7 days holiday then. But I stayed at school, didn't go home... That was the only National Day holiday I didn't go home in my four years university. Does God prevent me from meeting my grandma for the last sight?
My grandma looked after me till I got in the middle school, all my childhood was tended by her, We have deep affection.
@TexLadyPj (1328)
• United States
4 Jun 10
Hello gianyun6
I understand the relationship you had with your grandmother as mine was the same. I spent more of my childhood with my grandmother than my mother.
There is a possibility that God spared you. I believe that He spared me from witnessing my Grandmothers last breath.
