What is the reason for the growing divorce rates?

I believe it's because of Pride, selfishness and insensitivity of either side.

I don't think couples don't put enough work,dedication,which includes {heart and soul}, into marriage in today;s society. It takes all of the above to make it work for any amount of time. Unfaithfulness is a major problem, and unforgivable,{in my opinion}.I'm no expert, but I have been married to the same woman for 34 years!

I think my birth rite is now Everyones and I'm glad. Being an American we are born with the rite of the " Pursuit Of Happiness". I think many go into marriage thinkin they will be happy and when they get married they find out they are not. But instead of sticking it put like Many couples did back in the day, they divorce. I think the main reason is expectations. One partner thinks marriage should be one way , and one partner thinks it shoud be another way. they can't blend the two , so they fight and fight , each thinking the other should yield but they don't . Then they reach out for something or someone else and the marriage is broken.

1. earnings of wife more than husband ----- which makes the wife to dictate terms to her man(not in all cases) 2. extra marital affairs 3. domestic fights 4. in-laws presence 5. dowry(here in India its more) 6. being with the same partner for too long.

i think the fact that divorce is now accepted and is now big deal that is why this is in full blast. anything can be a reason to get a divorce. if killing another person is that widely accepted already i bet the world's population wouldn't be this big. peace .

I think we have so many divorces today because people are considering divorce as the very first option to be separated with their partner where once this mean was considered the last one so they have to go counseling first. And communication is very important in a relationship and maturity too so we must spend time with the other one to know him/her more before getting in a couple which demands many compromises and understanding.

You laid down very good questions of your observations, on the increase of the divorce rates today. There is only one root cause why there is unfaithfulness, difference of opinions and no respect towards each other. That is selfishness. The problem lies not in the institution but in the married people involved. They choose to give up on each other, rather than to continue fighting and working on their marriage. Commitment is the highest quality decision we make, especially in marriage.If only the people who are getting married will think what they can give rather what they can get from the marriage, there will be no divorce.

When my husband and I married, 55 years ago, we took each other "For better, for worse, for so long as we shall live," and meant it. Divorce was not an option. I can't say that it has always been a bed of roses, or maybe it has been a rose bed - the kind with a few thorns. We just plucked out the thorns and went on to smell the roses. Eventually, there were very few thorns left. The young of today want to quit at the first thorn.

dear keep_onwatch, i would say it is the lack of commitment to the relationship. marriage is committing oneself, for better and for worse. but it seems that when the worst comes, they get to become selfish. and they forget to respect each other. too bad, isnt it? ann

I have read many books and researched this matter online during my own marriage. My thoughts are that it is because of a lack of communication and a failure to realise what each others primary emotional needs are. In most couples you will find that the husband has different emotional needs to the wife. Some of their emotional needs will be the same, but the most important ones which make them feel the most loved are usually different from their partners emotional needs. So you get one partner trying to please his or her spouse by applying the emotional needs that they want themselves, when these things often have no meaning at all to their partner. For example a husband might try to make his wife happy by helping out around the house and by making himself attractive, but her most important needs might be having conversations and his openness and honesty. This creates a misunderstanding on an emotional level and unless these issues are understood and communicated openly, then the relationship will fail or be a miserable one. It is also more commonly accepted these days that couples will split and then end up with someone else. People are more open to others living styles and do not look down on them just because their marriage failed.

I think there are many factors. One factor is that we fall prey to lust (in America when Reagan was President, it exploded into the ME generation (It began in the sixties with free love). People are more selfish now. We also tend to say that some things are old fashioned. Also, people are less tolerant of things now. Love means taking the good and bad. Nowdays people only want the good. From another vantage point I've been friends and dated women who cheated on their boyfriends because of things the boyfriend did. So I think it's safe to say that revenge is a thing that leads to infidelity, being caught, and the divorce decree. And also the "freedom" to do it makes it so since society and the church no longer forbids it.

Well its lack of love and true understanding. Divorce pops up when they think they cannot live with them any longer. There lacks the love.

ha..it's right..before marriage,men & women are like chameleons(esp during dating) and the real nature comes out later.... so I think the only chance to bring divorce rate down is to enforce a new law...he..he...I know its never gonna happen.. however there are exceptions....some couples are role models....or they at least pretend to be so... I think you've all the reasons for the divorce...can't point at one particular reason and say its the main cause... thanks for starting the discussion ..have a great day/night....

People are getting impatience in nowadays,they can simply make the divorce decision withous consideration and then try to find a new one.I have tried to divorce in the early marriage life too and thanks to my father and mother-in-law,they paid great love to me and my husband has changed a lot too.Many parents will be partial to their own child during the divorce and add fuel to the flames,it's part of the reason for the growing divorce rates too.

people are tend to be selfish now. they ask for more but they did not do the same thing for their partner. they just want to have fun, and when they encounter trial and a big problems, they just give up and think that to end the relation is the solution

For me it's lack of understanding from both sides. If they won't give way to each other and keep showing off their pride then most likely, the marriage will end up in divorce.

well people i mean both the male and the female in a relationship think that they don have to bend down to someone else when all thier lives, they've done exactly what they want and wished for! a lot of INDEPENDENCE! the women these days are very successful in their chosen career and probably they are better than their husbands too, that time the husbands feel INSECURE and they are more CONTROLLING towards their wives! though these cant be applicable to all the cases, but i think generally these are the reasons due to which marriage fail. . . .obviously, no understanding or will to make the marriage work are reasons too!

Hi, there are many issues in between couples to go for a divorce. No proper communication, no intimacy, misunderstanding, ego, no love and so on. Sometimes we can't say the specific reason why they go for divorce. Have a nice day.

I think it is lack of wise decision making and understanding. Before you get married you should be sure of the person, if he is worth it. 90% of your happiness in the future relies on the person you are going to marry. You should have first understand the true meaning and value of marriage. Another thing, when you are in a marriage, you have to think first before acting on the situation. You have to think for all the possible consequences each of you has to offer. You have to take in to consideration the family you are building. I mean, the kids. They are the ones who are really feeling more aggravated because their future is yours to hold.

The main reason divorce is more common is because it is easier. There is no longer the same social stigma surrounding someone who has had a failed marriage as there was just a few decades ago. There were just as many unhappy married couples in the 1950s as there are today - the only difference is that they're now actually able to do something about it.