Mom's love to her child: Does it increase or decrease as child gets older?
By Yori88
@Yori88 (1465)
Philippines
June 4, 2010 2:54am CST
I am just curious, when it comes to a mother's love to her child, does it increase or decrease as time goes by or the child gets older? Not all of us are moms, but all of us are children. So you can share your views here on how much love you felt your mom has given you. In my case, my son is now 1 year and 8 months old and I can only say my love for him increases everyday from the day he was born until now, of course. I am not sure yet what the future may bring or may influence me. But I have noticed that my mom always tell me the stories when I was 2 years old regarding the difficulty she had experienced leaving me to my great grandparents because she went abroad and how much she loved and taken care of me on my first 2 years of existence. Now I have my own family, she is in the province with my father and siblings, but I just wonder how much love she still has for me? I maintain good relationship with here but I know you will agree with me that it is awkward to ask, right? So base on your observations, is mother's love increasing or decreasing or it's on a case to case basis?
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17 responses
@ndubose (418)
• United States
4 Jun 10
Luckily with my moms love it has stayed the same she is so sweet and even though we were not in the same household we still keep in touch daily and visit often I don't see my brother right now as much as I would like to see him....
@goldie77 (166)
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5 Jun 10
it depends on the kind of mum you have or are - I have a 30 year old son and a 9 year old son and I feel more love for my 9 year old but yet my heart always leads me to want to help and give to both of them -i don't have sentimental feelings for my older son and a strong attachment the way I do for the younger one -it's partly to do with protectiveness and partly because my older son has not been respectful so many times to me, it kind of kills love to some extent -after all he's an adult
@kshp_dpk (213)
• India
27 Jul 10
As I am younger from my family.I have one sister and two brother.Till now our mother love equally without having partiality.She give her full care and love to us.She cant live without us.Her love and care increase day by day rather then decreasing it.We are luck to have a mother like this in our life.I always pray for god that never and ever depart us.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
7 Jun 10
I don't think that a mother's love either increases or decreases when a child gets older. There will be times when you don't like your child very much, but you still love them just as much.
@sindhusha (180)
• India
6 Jun 10
Mother's love to her children will always increase but never decrease.In fact a mother remembers her child and loves more when she is far away from her.She always thinks what you are eating,doing.........She will be always there to share your feelings.
@sindhusha (180)
• India
6 Jun 10
Mother's love to her children will always increase but never decreases.In fact a mother remembers her child and loves more when she is far away from her.She always thinks what you are eating,doing.........She will be always there to share your feelings.
@anneeliz (94)
• United States
1 Jul 10
I will always remember the fierce love I first felt for my children when they were first born. That feeling is still with me and I cannot imagine it ever going away. It has carried me through the teenage years with our oldest son when I did not like his behavior toward me and the rest of the family, and I am sure that it will carry me through any rough patches with our other 2 children.
As they grow and change and become adults, my relationship with them will change as I adapt to their growth, but I will never abandon them, or decrease my love for them.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
5 Jun 10
I think under normal circumstances a mothers love would increase as she becomes closer to her children and learns more about them. I'm not sure I ever heard of a mothers love decreasing but I think that seems even worse than a mother not loving her child at all.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
4 Jun 10
A mother's love should always increase. it should never decrease. The aage of your children should not matter when you are a mother. You will always be the parent. they will always be your child. your love is unconditional and can only to continue to grow.
@sheen13 (567)
• India
4 Jun 10
According to me, I think that a mother's love never decreases for her child. I am 12 years old and I am the youngest and I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers. And my mom equally loves everybody. It has never happened that she has shown partiality. I love my mom. Yea, maybe sometimes if we do something wrong, then maybe she'll scold. I mean ofcourse it is her right to scold us. But other than this, she doesn't simply scold me or anybody else. She loves us all and I love my mom too. And I am sure that even when I'll grow, her love for me will never decrease nor my love for her will ever decrease. :)
@kooltiger (848)
• Pakistan
4 Jun 10
i think it never increases or decreases.. it remains the same.. but the amount of worry increases or decreases at different stages of life.. mother's love will be the same always..
@ann101 (518)
• China
4 Jun 10
To me,mom's love has never changed.Although we lived far away now but we phoned every week and I don't think time has changed anything.But there is an extreme example,my husbands's grandparents has two sons and one daughter,my father-in-law is the youngest.According to convention,he should get most of the love of his parents,but the fact is the opposite.The grandparents has never been kind to him,or to my husband.Now the old grandparents lived with their elder son,when they go out to buy things,they'd rather take a long way round than the near way beside our home.Everyone's puzzled about their behavious,they act just like they have not had this little son.I'm puzzled too!Maybe God knows why.
@ronz30 (275)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
When I was a child I never think of my mom's love because all I know is that I was loved by my grandparents they are the one takes care for me when I was 4years old until 16 years old .. When they die , that's only the time that I appreciate my mom's love .. Now that I'm 18 I just realized how much they love me even though I can't show how much I also love them because I'm really shy
@madonna22 (28)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
a mother's love to her child is always present from the day she conceived. the unconditional love that a mother offer is unexplainable. i have 4 kids, as they grow my love grows with them.
a person who does not love a child is a fool.
@em_soulmate (2)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
a mother's love is unconditional. That is constant, even though we think or feel that they don't. May be we just misunderstand them or interpret their actions as the opposite, but inside, they still care. No matter what situation the fact that they are your mother will surpass all distance and mistakes. What ever your mom's relationship with you give credit to them, the fact that they are the channel of your life
@med889 (5941)
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4 Jun 10
I think the love of a mother is very unconditional and they cannot say exactly when and how the loves decreases or increases, because they will ever think the only best for their children no matter what happens though. The love of a mother to her children is ever growing no matter in which conditions the children are.
@ersanmiguel (476)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
a mother's love will always be constant.
your mother may have left you to work abroad but i know her reason is always about you, about your future. you never felt her presence as you grew up but i believe a mother's love will never change.
you're a mom too
you understand the feeling...
you understand the feeling...
@oldchem1 (8132)
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4 Jun 10
I have five children aged between 39 and 15, and while the younger the child the more physically you have to do for them, your love for the older ones dosen;t decrease at all.
You never stop worrying about your kids and on top of that you then have grandkids to love and worry about.
Distance doesn't make any difference either, you will always love them
