Do you still recognize your partner after you got married?

roxxtime when p eople are engaged they are often putting their best foot forward and bending over backwards to please the other person, and neither one is really being himself or herself. welcome to the real world where people are not perfect because they are human. they burp, somtimes they do not close their mouths when they chew, and sometimes oh horrible they even fart, maybe you are looking for a perfect man but he does not exist, somehow there must have been something about your husband that made you fall in love y ou called him an amazing man. but he proved to be human is that it? look at yourself? are you prefect? no well then neither is he., you do not seem to be able to love unconditionally I see that you love with the idea of remaking any flaws you see, but good marriages both people love all the person, flaws and all, your guy did not change,he just relaxed and let himself be himself and I betyou did the same thing without even realizing it. they did not change they just took off the pretend mantle of being or trying to be prefect and relaxed intot the people they are. look at yourself. are you perfect?.

roxxtime, For every cause there's always a reason and for every action there will be an equal and opposite reaction. You already have this experience twice where your man took a turn after marriage, and I just cannot help seeing the problem to be one of self infliction. Have you ever stopped to asked if you are the reason for their sudden changes that led to a turn in your marriage, twice?