The husbands friends

Boys will always be boys, that's the common topic men always talk about...but I never get irritated with my husband's friends when they visit us in fact, I enjoyed being with their company, I feel like am one of them that they never outcast me. I realized that to be able to know men better you need to think like a man & you will then get all the ideas you need to know to work things out between you and your husband. Now, my husband & I enjoyed the company of our common friends that though he is not around when they are around his friends are comfortable sharing stories with me as if they are talking with my husband. They respect my opinion & I do respect their opinions too.

Chill! be patient then....

Those kind are often more talk than action. They think they are impressing each other, and you, when all they are doing is making fools of themselves.

I am assuming your husband is there too, correct? If not, then you don't have to do anything for his friends..If he is there, then you should have a talk with your husband and tell him how uncomfortable his friends make you..

hi jugsjugs I think if it were me I would gently politely remind them I am a woman and I do not like to hear your stories about your conquests u unless you feel that might hurt your husband. Maybe a whisper in his ear that its distasteful to you to hear about their womanizing,I know it would be for me too. so yes ask your hubby sweetly if he could steer their conversations to something other than how many girls they have chased lately.

I think you shouldn't be nice with them. They are rude and I think they are not respecting you. Tell your husband what you think. He should know and he should side with you.

yea,i've run into guys like that.seems they have nothing better to do than talk s**t and try to break up other people's marriages.first to try to get them to go to the strip bar too.nothing against the strip bar,but if the wife's not into the idea,they should respect that.

lol =D That's what most are will be talking about when they gather together.. Other than money, work, it will be either sports or woman.. lol =D Men deos not have that wide arrays of topics to talk about, except for those few favourites.. hehe ^_^ And it's even worst when they start drinking, and that's when they will talk more, when the friends will calm them down with even more drinks!! haha =D From there, it's a never ending process, till someone interfere to say it's enough.. hehe

Ugh! I hope they aren't over often. I think boundaries are somthing that needs to set down here. Your husband has to kick in on this one though. I know. I doubt he will either. But that is what needs to happen. Like no visitors at dinner time, etc. It is rude I think for them to come over and just expect you to function around them.

No Offense Jugs, But it sounds like you're in a very unhappy marriage. From the things you describe about your husband, it sounds like you are invisible to him.

Could you arrange to be elsewhere when they come around? If they are over too much, could you talk to your husband about limiting how much they are over? If there is a specific topic, perhaps you could request they talk about something else? Or perhaps you can just be so nice and sweet, that it drives them crazy with jealousy. Maybe that's why they want to talk to you. Perhaps they wish they had a wife like you.

You are quite right that there are times that it is difficult to deal with the friends of our spouses. I'm lucky in that most of my husband's friends have wives or significant others that I get along with very well. However, this isn't always the case and when it happens that there is no one for me to be social with, I will ask him to see them apart from me or I will do something else when he is visiting with those particular friends. This seems to work out very well for us.

I also prefer not to go out with my boyfrind's friends.i have mine friends and leave him the opportunity to out with the guys and talk whatever they want.I don't think these are things a woman is happy to hear.But it is usual men and women are different so we have to leave some space to our counterparts.

1at of all talk to your husband about this problem and if he got it and try to solve this problem then its good but if he did not solve this problem then............just do anything except devose.............

HUbby had a friend that would bring him home form work and I Would invite to stay to eat and always he would pull off his coat wash up and say he shoudnt lololol then he would talk so long hubby would go to bed and leave him there with me taking I would finaly have to tell him he had to go as hubby had gone to bed. this went on for a couple of months I finally told hubby he would just have to find another way home.

My Hubby never had a friend that I would have even met in any other way. But over the years these friends have stood by him through thick and thin. I only have one friend that has done that for me. This makes me question what is valuable in a relationship, especially between men. I don't think I will ever understand.

Are all of your husband's friends womanizers? If so, why is that the only type of friends he has? Have you ever asked him? When we got married, although I never asked him to, my husband stopped hanging around guys like you describe. He settled into marriage and made new friends, most of whom were also happily married. He had one single friend, but he was far from being a womanizer. In fact, my husband introduced him to his wife to be. As his old friends married, gradually they came back into our lives.

Tell your husband what you really feel and sometimes it doesn't hurt to show this people that you dislike them. When you don't do anything about it they'll just keep getting on your nerves and one day you might just explode and everything would be in a great mess

I am suprised they talk about other women in front of you. Maybe you should have a talk with your husband and tell him that they make you uncomfortable. If that doesn't work, leave when they come over or go in another room. Your husband can get them drinks or feed them. Just because they are his friends doesn't mean you must like them also. Does your husband like all of your friends? What would he do if they came over and talked about men?

Say boo to them occasionally and show them their places where they belong. Some men want to conquer new horizons, something every woman they come across would fall for them. You will have to show them firmly, which side of fence they stand. Soon they will start behaving with you. To begin you must stop serving them drinks. Whenever they begin to narrate the story of their escapades, offer an excuse and walk off. Let them know you are not interested. Also, let your hubby know why you are doing it.