How come Marriages are taken for Granted anymore?

IN MY PART OF THE WORLD, THERE R LESS DIVORSE...... N THE REASON IS ACCEPTING UR PARTNER AS HE/SHE IS.........

This is especially true with celebrities. Have you ever noticed or heard how often celebrities get divorced and remarried. It seems like too often. It is not only them but people all over but you hear more about them. It is sad as it seems like they are making a joke out of marriage.

I'm a christian too but I will get a divorce. I had a husband that really was the worse man ever. He hit me, he hit the baby, he stayed out of the house with his friends (male and female_, he was drinking all the time, he didn't work. I think that covers it all. And before you say anything, all these started after the marriage.

i would like to know the same thing, i have been married for almost 2 years and my husband already. talkin about divorce as soon as something don't go his way. i agree with you 100%

I wish marriage was respected and cherished the way it once was. I do think that there needs to be some exceptions for divorce...as some situations become very abusive. But, I do not buy the "I just don't love you anymore phrase." I agree that our feelings can change for other people, but when we enter into marriage, it is a serious committment, one that shouldn't be taken lightly. I think that so many people jump into marriage before they really have a chance to get to know their spouse. It is hard enough to live with another person (think about having a college roommate), but when you add all the emotional issues that come with marriage, you aren't just living with another person, rather, you are sharing your life with them. Now, where have we, as a society, lost our sanctity of marriage? I think that the media and entertainment industry has shown an image of marriage that is not permanent. Look at the T.V. shows that are on now, divorces are normal, affairs are everyday...I too am a Christian, and the things that are on T.V. now really do sadden me. It just shows how far we have moved from living a Biblically based life, and moved toward a very secular...what feels good in the moment life. This has been long, but it is an issue that really does matter...to me, and to future generations!

i think its because people have become more selfish. nobody wants to give up something to get something.

I agree I have no idea, although from what I have learned, because society shunned many who divorced back in the day, I think that they just lived together in hatred which made it difficult until someone just said you know what? I do not want to live like this....But I agree, I think that marriage is somethign that everyone should take very seriously, if you even think that divorce may be an issue or something you have the right to do, then do not get married. I have been happily married to my husband for 10 years we talk about this a lot, to make sure our marriage has open communication and we always say that no matter what we are not goign to get a divorce, no matter what, we have already been through some very rocky times trying to have kids, now that we are where we want to be and survived it, we know that we are a strong couple and will never be apart for years to come! both of our parents are divorced after at least 20 years of marriage...

I hear what you are saying and I believe that in many cases people give up on their marriages way too quickly. On the other hand, I am not their judge so I believe that it is between them and God. I try to put a lot of effort into keeping my marriage as healthy as possible.

I am married and believe very strongly in marriage but society does change. In the past there were many people who were married unhappily to someone who drank excessively, was abusive or something like that but they could not get divorced because of the rules at that time. So sometimes they separated and often lived with new partners without officially being married but often they stayed in this marriage. Separation is not new, but divorce has only been relatively easy for about 30 years. Today women have more freedom, are often financially independant and will no longer tolerate behaviour that is unacceptable. So they will live with someone, possibly get married but find that things have changed so they can get out of the relationship. I believe that to make a good marriage, you have to work at it, through the good times and the bad ones but it does take both partners. However, nobody should have to remain in an abusive relationship.

It could be because people see too much of marriage ideas on Television and people start living together before marriage..takes away from all that marriage use to stand for.. I think..+

This is a hard one for me because a) I don't agree with most folks' idea of marriage and b) I don't think enough people keep their word. That being said, marriage means different things to different people. To me specifically it means a partnership through thick and thin and unconditional love. It is not necessarily limiting nor in my case does it restrict the ability to love or be loved by others. It DOEs take a lot of communication though. I think our society's idea of love and commitment have become warped to suit self-centered desires, jealousies, and fear. Of course divorce is the result when all the movies and television, and main sources of "how life is supposed to be" only show the extremes to get ratings. My best friend is a bit younger than me and buys completely into the fairy tales of "life should be perfect" and you only ever have one true love. That she has always been told. Hmm, I need to get off my soap box now.....

people are living together not even marrying so how does this surprise you? They are having kids and calling themselves family when they wont even commit to each other.

Well, divorce has become so common nowadays that people dont really give it much thought about getting married anymore. after married, cannot stand each other? divorce...simple!

I say alot of it has to do with the way the world is now. Very competitive,self centered,not really caring about others as much as themselves.... Good question. I know my marriage ended 18 or so years ago when my now X-wife decided to screw around on me. She felt she needed to find her identity. 2 kids and she could only think of herself. Am I bitter? No. I just wonder sometimes why I even liked that B!tch. LOL...

I am also a Christian also and I agree marriages are taken for granted, and I wish people would take it more serious, marriage is suppose to be for love, not for play or anything else, I think divorces are given to lightly, if they made people stay married instead of letting them get a divorce so easy, they would thing twice next time.

Why would you want marriage to be something other than what it is? Other people's marriging conduct does not reflect on your marriage, so why not let them be the judge of best course in their own lives? Personally I think the mere possibility of divorce increases that value of marriage. I have been married for 3 years now, and I would hate to think that my wife stays with me because she made a promise more than 3 years ago. I believe that we are together not because we chose to back then, but because we choose to every day.