Its fun to be RUDE.
By bodhisatya
@bodhisatya (2384)
India
June 5, 2010 7:38am CST
Couple of years back I knew someone. I thought I could trust her, ( atleast from my part, I was under the impression). But things don't work that way I guess, and I learnt it the hard way.
But if you don't seem share the same feelings after a certain period of time why would you rather choose to be rude? Puzzles me.
There are some people and I bet you too must have come across who are downright rude. You are in a crowded bus and the person next to you shoves you savagely in order to make his place thats rude, if you don't have the "Exact" change after your taxi ride and the cab driver swears at you, thats rude, if you are talking to your business associate/ colleague/ boss/ client and he doesn't seem to agree whats on your mind but shrugs you off as if you are some kind of imbecile thats rude, if a beggar wants a penny and you don't seem to be in the mood and push him down the road and yell at him thats rude.
I guess there must be some kind of fun to be rude. I may even say that it gives you a kind of feeling that you are POWERFUL, suddenly. And you can dictate your own terms.
Am I wrong?
Are you rude to others? Does it make you feel good? Or, are you always at the receiving end, getting what all the rude people hurl at you.
Bodhi.
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10 responses
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
5 Jun 10
Hi Bodhi!
The world and the society we have come to know and live in today is defined by a set of values. When we are out in the street there are things we can do as well as things we cannot do. The same applies when we are at work or in other public places, there are things we can do and there are those we can't, some legalized and some which are against the local law.
We may find that some of the values of a society may not be much different from our own personal principles, whether we believe in god or not. Whatever we don't want to be done unto us, we don't do them unto others.
Rudeness is one. No one likes it either. As much as we don't want people to treat us rudely, we take care not to be rude to others as well. Being rude does not make one feels powerful to dictate one's terms. It does not make one feels good either. It is against human conscience. Unfortunately, it is one we to have face to in the world outside. Whatever the reasons, people who love being rude would soon find it the hard way whether it's worth holding on to or not to.
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@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
6 Jun 10
Hello Tomitomi,
Thank you so much for wondefully explaining it, but do you think that you encounter rude people only when you are on the streets, or at a public place for that matter?
Can't there be a rude person whom you know closely, a friend, a relative, a parent anybody, how do you feel then?
Thanks again,
Bodhi
@achilles2010 (3051)
• India
5 Jun 10
The people who suffer from inferiority complex from within but still want to assert their superiority over others are generally rude. They want to show people what they are not. They are completely oblivious to the fact that they are trampling on other people's feelings. They do not even realize that they have hurt someone with their behavior.
I will tell you how one must deal with them. We have noticed that on a red-hot object if we pour water it immediately cools down. In the same way, speak to the person who is acting rude in a low tone. After being rude, he is expecting you to retaliate. He would be in his element then. If he encounters calm and soothing words, he is completely disarmed. He does not know what he should do. He was not expecting you to respond in a cool manner. The effect would be like pouring cold water on a red-hot object. His rudeness would dissipate almost immediately.
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
6 Jun 10
Well everybody can't be mahatma Gandhi nor Christ. definitely with the meagre knowledge and wisdom I posess I never could come anywhere close to them. Thank you Achilles. I appreciate your views.
Richnai, I am not a bit against gays, its a fad word and notion out here in my country / place and thats what i was trying to convey through my message. Thank you for your encouraging words.
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
6 Jun 10
Hi Achilles,
I agree word to word with you, but it takes a lot of patience and maturity to keep your cool even if somebody is being abusive to you.
Well, just occurred to me that we men are often criticized that if we are not you know, "hot" with our actions/ words then maybe we are not "MAN" enough. then there is this latest fad of being " Gay". You be polite and people would think that you are not a MAN.
Strange but true, don't you think?
@achilles2010 (3051)
• India
6 Jun 10
Thank you nyhollyjean for appreciating my post.
Bodhi, we both belong to the land of Mahatma Gandhi, the man who had earned freedom through non-violence. No one says he was not a man. At South Africa, they threw him out of the train, but he did not act the way they did. He did not take this all lying down. I would not call it revenge but he did throw them out of the country.
Jesus Christ too was spat on and beaten but he did not retaliate and the world worships him. Let us learn from the example of these great persons.
We must aspire to be human and not men, after all men are a stage above animal but humans are a stage above men. Have a nice day. I wish you well.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
6 Jun 10
Hi, bodhisatya. I am one of the people that are on the receiving end. People are nasty to me for many reasons. A lot of times, they take their anger out on me, when I am not the true cause of it. They may be upset, and they lash out at me. It is so unfair but that is how some people are.
I don't know why people are so rude to others. I believe they feel a sense of power and control. But entirely, they really are, helpless and insecure. With rude people, don't you notice that they pick on people that are below their level?? They never seem to bother others that are tough and above them. This makes me think. I know why they do this.. They are scared of the person that is above them.
I don't know why people are so rude to others. I believe they feel a sense of power and control. But entirely, they really are, helpless and insecure. With rude people, don't you notice that they pick on people that are below their level?? They never seem to bother others that are tough and above them. This makes me think. I know why they do this.. They are scared of the person that is above them.1 person likes this
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
6 Jun 10
Hello Cream,
First of all i am really sorry to know that you had to face tough and rude and nasty people out there. People who are soft spoken and try to be on their own without getting mixed with other people's business are the targets of the rudes out there.
You need to be strong my friend, and don't spare the person who misbehaves with you. A tight tongue lash to someone who is getting on your nerves is, Important.
A friend of mine recently was conversing with me. he was tired and had come from a night long shift. He was trying to take that toll onto me. A tight reprimand brought him back to reality and for that I am not sorry for even one ounce.
Stay blessed,
Bodhi
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
5 Jun 10
Hi Bodhi Satya: I try must be not to be rude but I have to admit that the pleasure of being rude is that you feel Powerful and that you do what you want to do. I also think that people that are rude to the others think that, with this action they are showing that they are better in some way than this other person. It's like saying: I'm better than you so I can insult you, that's my opinion. Being rude is not funny but it makes some people to feel good. Thanks for starting this discussion. Have a nice day.
ALVARO.
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@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
6 Jun 10
I bet it does give a person a kind of SUPREME feeling. And well, "fun" had an altogether different meaning in the discussion dear friend, its not like being funny.
Thank you so much for sharing your views, and you enjoy your Sunday!
Bodhi
@cannarypepper (68)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
It's not fun to be rude, you know, but it's also bad to be too nice all the time. I guess the right word here is knowing when to stand up for yourself, because if you never show signs of annoyance or anger, people would often abuse your kindness.
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@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
6 Jun 10
You just hit the Bull's eye with you short and precise answer,
I thank you so much for speaking your mind out!
Bodhi
Bodhi
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Jun 10
hi bodhi no I hated if the few times I have thought myself rude, and was embarrassed to have acted so unkindly. No I am the one usually shoved, or slighted in some way and on here the few times someone has insulted me, I wondered if doing that gave the person some perverse sort of pleasure.All it did for me was make me hit the report button as I was tired of that type of treatment. Some people get rude if you have a different idea than they do.
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@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
6 Jun 10
Hello my dear friend,
I bet that triggered you to start that discussion of yours in which you wanted to know if you would simply agree to what the other person has to say always.
I haven't ever come across anything thats rude from you. You are a Gem and stay that way always,
Bodhi
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
Hello dear bhai,
I can say i am not a bad one,but,unintentionally i am sure i been rude to other people.
If some instance,the situation forced me to become one.
But,never i did intentionally to be rude to anyone.
And being rude is never a fun for me.
I can say i am naughty in some ways,a healthy naughty acts or jokes,that sometimes hurt without intention,and,i feel sorry when i hurt my friend with my naughtiness.
Happy weekend dear bhai
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@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
6 Jun 10
Hello Didi,
For having a healthy fun with your known ones is never rude. But yes some people are very sensitive and they may be hurt.
You have been very kind since I have come to know you.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
5 Jun 10
Hi this world is full of strange persons, just don't know what pleasure they get in being rude to others, might be perverts of some kind, may be they consider themselves as emperors..
Thanks for sharing.
Welcome always.
Cheers.
Prof
Cheers.
Prof
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@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
6 Jun 10
Hello Prof,
Yup they aren't even worth discussing I guess,
thank you,
Bodhi
thank you,
Bodhi @rikou08 (3)
•
5 Jun 10
It's not that it's really fun being rude to others, but sometimes I need to be rude, so that I can protect myself... I know it's not a really good attitude, but I used it to protect myself from those people who thinks that they are superior than me, than anyone else.... But still, it's a wrong thing to do...
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@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
6 Jun 10
First let me welcome you to mylot Rikou.
I completely agree with you that we need to be in accordance with the situation in which we are in to survive, even if we don't actually like to be like that.
Thank you so much for being so honest and sharing your views.
