Has helping someone ever left you feeling upset?

That normally happens when some one whom we helped forgets our help totally and never mind us or never help us back though while helping we don't expect anything from them. But never stop helping others but the help should be for a true person so don't waste time for those who don't mind you.

Well helping is always a great feel of heart and i never felt upset about it.

I know what you mean, debi, it has happened to my numerous times and has left me drained. I just have to stop helping people after a while. I try to be tactful in telling them that I have nothing left to give. I had an account a few years back that got to be so demanding that I finally quit.

Helping is good however, there are also limitations. Whenever we help a person it does not mean that we should do everything for them. They are the one who should help their selves first and we should just be there at their side to back them up. Whenever we help someone we have to help them help their selves. If not then they will just continue to rely and depend on us. I've been in your situation a lot of time and I'm telling you it's not worth it specially if that person does not appreciate you and the help you're giving. It will just make you feel so frustrated and exhausted. Bad thing is that if it's also affecting the people who love and care for you. Sometimes we feel like being a good Samaritan too much that we no longer see that it's affecting our own lives. When the act of help has this type of effect then that's what you will know it's no longer right. I've learned a lot from my experiences and it took me so long to realize what I'm doing wrong. I can't fix other people's lives. They should fix it their selves and all I can do is help them. When we say help it means they should also work for it and it's not just work but work really hard for it. It's good to help people who really wanted help and to help their selves.

just continue doing what you think is right...i mean if that person is not appreciating your help and good intentions then its not your fault anymore.whats important is your still willing to continue helping inspite of not so good response from that person but if he/she is now affecting you and he/she is now getting to yur nerve why not give yourself space and let that person be on his own because maybe this is the perfect time he/she will realize your worth and importance of your effort..

I have felt upset a lot of times because you are doing the right thing and it seems as though in the end you suffer if things go wrong there are a lot of people like to point the finger....So now I tend to not say nothing I have learned that in the end it is better

Hi, debi1998. Yes. This has happened to me too. My mother-in-law has asked me to do this and do that for her. I will help her and then down the line she will treat me like crap. She will need me to do many things for her not realizing that I do get tired of helping her when she is mean to me. Sometimes, you will have to stop yourself and just not do anything. Your friend should appreciate you more than she does. You may need to just stop helping her out. You have a family to take care of and if she is causing you all stress then you may need to back off from helping her.

You are a good person and stay that way. I been in a similar situation with a friend that was not working and would come over and give me a sad story. I was providing him with food and some money. But it stayed continuous and he claimed he was finding a job but could not find any. Finally the last time he came over I knew I would sit through another story. So before I bagged a couple sacks of groceries I looked him in the eye and told him I could not support him and me and we were not even married. He understood and told him this was the last handout until he helped himself first. He replaced me with another friend to help him out but one good thing, we remained friends.

How far do you go? This depends on how you consider your friendship. What is your oppinion in your heart that you are not sharing with others? Do you consider her a part of the family, or is she someone you have no feelings for? Can you talk with agressiveness with her or do you not want to hurt anyones feelings? What do true friends do? Bye the way, I am in the social work profession, and we respect people for not gving back their thanks, but we like to see smiles and a bouncier step.