Don't keep your hope too high

Sometimes we set our hopes too high. We are frustrated and disappointed when we can not attain them. If we set our hopes too low, then we feel we are taking the easy way out. It's difficult to know where to set our hopes so that they caan be achieved. Starting small, and building up is probabbly the safest bet. Don't let your goals climb out of your reach. It is in your hands.

high expectations about something important as an encouragement to do something. Just imagine if the conduct of a business, but we do not have the spirit to do it? surely the effort would be futile and will not grow well as we expected. As an example we will achieve an ideal, but we've been pessimistic about these ideals, it will be very difficult to materialize these ideals. However, I agree to not expect too high on something, because it will make a person crazy and stressful.

There are certain things in life that would be good to have high hopes for. I can't tell you specifically what they are because they are different for each person. I have figured some out for me already and am working on others. However, I agree with you that there are specifics that you want to be very careful of. I heard this on a TV program last week - I'm not sure of the exact wording but the idea was that if you don't expect much, you won't be disappointed much. I try to keep things somewhere in the middle. Too many let downs can be too hard on the heart. I've had experiences similar to yours. I'm very sure that many other have also. You are not alone. Try to smile, keep the chin up and have a good laugh. Find something that makes you laugh until it hurts and enjoy yourself. It's very healthy.

It is natural for us to hope and have high expectations but more importantly we should have the right expectations and also expect that things may not always work out the way we hoped they would and be able to deal with such situations. Many times you are in a fairy tale relationship where everything is going great that you expect it to last forever in the same way it has been happening so far. Then when problems arise we are not ready to face it or run away from it because we don't want the "good times" to end, this only makes the problems worse and before we know it we are shocked and find it impossible to believe how things could have gotten this way. From my experience I have also seen that sometimes if you let go a little you can still be happy with what you have, but instead sometimes we want everything and are not willing to be flexible as per the situation and in the process we loose everything.

As far as I am concerned, I seldom make me a very big hope which seems that can be so difficult for me to get through. So I usually make me a pratical hope that I can make come true in the near future. In that case, I can make me full of confidence in my heart. Too large or too distant hope never happen to me during the life of me.

I agree with this strongly.through my schooling days past,the most important thing I have realized is that whatever you have done,dont put so much care on the result,cause the more you care about it,maybe the more you will feel on the final,that is more like the Chinese saying:he that climbs high falls havily.So,if we just do our best in the progress,and let the god to decide the result.

i always believe that we should never lose hope..whatever it is that we can visualize in our mind..we can get it in our hands..so we should stay focus on the things that we've wanted..losing hope will only let it slip in our hands..stay focus and don't entertain negative thoughts..always stay positive..

There is certainly nothing wrong with having hopes and dreams. Having hopes and dreams is part of what makes us human, and is certainly part of what keeps us going and makes us get out of bed and work hard every day. However, like you, I have learned not to hope and dream too big, because I have always ended up feeling like a failure when things I dreamed about fell through.

i live by this philosophy: expect the worst but hope for the best. i have this deficiency in life...i set too much expectations and i plan ahead all the time. it has worked for me because i was able to confine the variables in my life for a long time. the people i interact with, the job that i do, the uncontrollable...are all controlled. when i finally decided to leave my comfort zone, reality hit me. no one can ever control what will happen after the current breath that they are taking. it was such a hard reality for me to process. i had to accept that am competing with life itself here. whatever it brings, i just have to be ready. i've had so many heartaches and i even lost my cool several times because of frustration, things do not go the way i want them to. after several vents and sighs, i have to bounce back and get myself together. i guess, one has to keep their hopes high but expect for the worse all the time, just to preserve the heart from too much disappointment. ;-)

You're right. But most of the time, when you're working hard on something, you can't help but get your hopes up on it. As you work harder and harder, you're expecting more and more from it until you go overboard and get disappointed from the results.

I hope I do not disappoint you because I believe we should keep our hopes high, believe in ourselves and work hard for them. When we work hard enough for them to work we should achieve what we hoped for...