Vacation is over.....and I got along fine with my ex and his girlfriend.
By jillhill
@jillhill (37354)
United States
June 6, 2010 2:48pm CST
When they first got there I did feel a bit stressed not knowing what to do. But my SIL's mother was also there for the week and we hit if off so I did have someone to be with when the other two were around. The girlfriend and I got along great....with one exception. I was making the salads for my grandson's graduation party and she wanted me to change what I was doing to make it her recipes. I told her that it was my daughters house and I was doing things her way as it was her party...her guests....her recipies. Other then that I was cordial....and found that my ex is an old man now. I hadn't seen him in quite a while. Certainly not anything like when we were married.....I told my daughter is was like talking to a classmate. The girlfriend and I actually had some pretty deep conversations...and ended up hugging goodbye. So it worked out well. For me anyway!
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Jun 10
Well that's great! I don't think I would have done as well.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Jun 10
Hmm.. It's one thing to be friendly for a couple of days when you're forced to stay together.. but to actually become friends with an ex's girlfriend? No, I don't see that happening, especially since it's not like your kids are little and would be living with her some of the time.
@haryonita (60)
• Indonesia
6 Jun 10
sorry i did not understand how a discussion about this ^_^
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
7 Jun 10
Glad it worked out for you! It sounds like everyone was pretty mature. Some people can be very insistent about their recipes, huh?
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
7 Jun 10
That's just great Jill, and I bet you're glad it's all over. I'm happy to hear that you had a great time and someone to hang around with too.
Good for you in explaining to her it was your daughter's house, and the salads were to be made her way with her recipes. Sounds almost like she was trying a bit of psychology on you to see if you'd go along with her, sort of like a power play if you know what I mean. I'm glad you stood firm, kudo's to you.
I'd be kind of hesitant though on becoming really good friends as that just might backfire somehow. You really don't know her yet, and I'm sure she was on her best behavior over there, and you just don't know how good her intentions are yet.
It's nice to hear you had a good time though, yea!
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
7 Jun 10
Hey jill! Wow! That must have been very interesting! I give
you alot of credit for being cordial to begin with and then
to end up hitting it off with the girlfriend! That is really
nice! And just think, she's got the "old man" and all the
grief now, unless maybe after meeting you she changed her
mind! Now wouldn't that be funny?
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
7 Jun 10
Hiya jill,
There that was not so bad was it. You are so resourceful Jill that you managed to take the situation as it came up. Good to see that you managed it so well. I don´t know what I would have done there probably something similar but I have not come across this kind of situation just yet.
Nice to see you were able to make the best of it anyway.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
7 Jun 10
Hiya Jill,
So glad it did. You deserved a nice Holiday without any problems of that kind. No one needs to go on Holiday and put up with other Problems just for the sake of it. Good for you Jill.
@beaniefanatic13 (5076)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
7 Jun 10
I'm glad it all worked out so well. Everyone had a good time and it appears if you want that you could make another friend. I see nothing wrong with being friends with the new girlfriend. It doesn't aappear that any of you live in the same towns so it's not like you get together regularly. Hope it all goes the way you would like it too. Happy Mylotting!!!
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
6 Jun 10
Oh, now why can't I have these kind of encounters??? That is wonderful, I was afraid it would have turned bad for you..glad it didn't..
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
7 Jun 10
I'm glad everything went well for u,Jill. I know u are a better lady than i am to even put yourself in that situation to start with. I hope your daughter understood how it was for u. I have been around my first ex & his wife a few times at various time & it doesn't bother me but i couldn't do that around my second ex . Glad u are back home safe & sound. Have a good week.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
7 Jun 10
I think that's great. There is something in both of you that fell in love with the same guy.
I wonder though, if you were som comfortable if she felt a little at a loss. although if you both shared the conversations prolly not!
Glad you had fun AZ is soooooooooooooo beautiful.
