How to deal with rude people

Maybe she is old , on your estimation how old is she? I get irritating when that person already judge me and already shouting, I will lose my respect on them if they started doing something like that. there are people like that sometimes it understandable but if they will go down to judging me and saying anything against me while I am not doing anything to them they will taste their own medicine

Hi Setsuna. I would have told her to turn it on her if she wanted it because I didn't want the fan on me. And if she wouldn't I would have told her she can move and irritate someone else. And if she wouldn't move I would turn the fan on her and told her she don't have respect. No sense in her disrespect towards you. Stand up for your rights don't take anything you don't deserve!

I'm afraid there is no way to get away from rude people. They are everywhere it seems. It's ashame u had to sit by someone like that. I would have probably tried to find me another seat if possible. Have a happy monday.

Errr. Just let her be.. There are really a lot of people like that, not only rude, but also inconsiderate and selfish.. But better to just let them be, because shouting andfighting back won't really do you any good.

Have a loud voice. Say it out loud. Try to get every bodies attention. In that way, that rude guy should be ashame of what he is doing.

No, you didn't do anything wrong. She is the one who is being mean. Maybe you should have explained her very well the reason why you turned off your fan and how you felt about the coldness. If she still acts mean, then you turn the fan back to her and tell her its her fan not yours. And if she still turns the fan towards you then tell her she has no manners. lol.

keep it cool man..i share your sentiments..i usually ignore rude people because it's useless to argue with them..even if you try to explain things to them they will still insist that you are the one with no manners..it saddens me to know that a lot of grown ups are becoming rude nowadays..they always want to feel so important and treated highly specially in public places that they tend to ignore the feelings of people around them..

I guess we do go through that situation at least once in our lifetime. Too bad that happens to you on a regular basis. Perhaps if I'd be in your shoes I would have just asked her if she could move it somewhere else because it's making my head hurt instead of moving it yourself. In a way, you did have fault because you moved the fan but I do get that she has more fault because she started it anyway. As for dealing with rude people. I have had my fair share in that but these incidents are too quick that before I have the chance to react, the incident is over and I wasn't able to do something about it. There was once in December when I was really in a hurry and I was carrying a lot of things when the foreigner in front of me was walking pretty slow and then that thing I was carrying hit his back - as if pushing him. I know it didn't hurt but he snapped at me. Before I could react, it was over. But if I did have the chance to snap back at him then I'd probably have said "Move it Grandpa!". Well, those are all in the past now and I think it's really okay to be rude to the people who are rude to you. Just because they could be rude doesn't mean we can't snap back. I know it's bad, but heck, who cares?

She's blowing it in your face because she doesn't want it blowing in her face and then she's calling you rude? Some people are just clueless idiots...

Hi setsuna You have not done any mistake even though the other lady was so rude towards you. It was her mistake when you were polite to her she has to understand your problem atleast she might have replied politely that she need the fan and in fact the lady don't have manners how to behave with people. It happens with every one in some or the other way. We should take it as if we are learning a lesson how to behave with the people, so that from next time you will be alert with the rude people and you can teach them a lesson. Have a nice day.

WE come accross such people mostly oldies who try to prove us wrong infront of others as if we tried to steal their modesty lol.I would prefer to stay calm and look for another seat than to sleep beside her and take in the cool air which makes me uncomfortable.they just do not care about others and make themselves comfortable as if they were in their own house.great day.

Hi setsuna! I could have laughed or screamed in return but you seemed so cool. And that was something! Your story is just one of many of how rude people can be. And we face them everyday, in the office, out of the office, in the bus as you had or just about anywhere. She seemed to have her own insecurities, her own personal problems. The fan was just the last straw that broke her cool and you were just unfortunately there to receive her brunt. When I deal with rude and angry people, I use my heart more than my brain. And I certainly have a choice regarding the attitude I would embrace. Whether I walk away or snap at in return it doesn't make me less of the person I am. As for that dear lady, she has probably not been told how rude she is. She needs a lesson then!

her reaction was just outrageous! when people like that have an outburst, it's hard as nails to reason with them. what i always tell myself is to take the high road because i cannot behave deplorably just because it's the chosen behavior of the person i'm dealing with.

This kind of situations happen in our day to day life. In one way or other, we will have to meet such persons. It is a fact that we cannot carve out the way we should follow to tackle them. It is because that, this kind of incidences are mainly 'situation - dependent". If we think on another way, in the angle of that lady, suppose, imagine that she is coming after an annoying fight with her boy friend or husband or father, or son or any one. then, the situation is different. Her behavior is reasonable to some extent. I have gone through such a similar incident once, where I have seen one person during a bus journey ( in India... Well, I am an Indian). Every one in the bus got annoyed because of his behavior. Later on we realized that his father passed away and he is going to home. your situation may be different. But, I have just told one possibility. As i told, situation depended reflexes can only handle such incidents...!

Usually I'll just ignore rude people. There are many rude people all around, I guess we just got to learn to deal with them peacefully. But some people can be really mean and rude... which I can't stand. But I always tell myself, if I am able to walk away, I won't be degrading myself to their standards. God, I wish some people would just grow some manners in their life, than expecting everyone to worship them like gods.

I also experience being shouted even i reply to them in soft voice some people are so rude they really are the one who does not know the proper etiquette It is so embarrassing to experience being shouted loud in front of the public some may even interpret that you are the one who do the wrong thing. it happen to me too when i work as a cashier in bowling center some drunk men just claim a change since i am new then the other cashier do not remind me that they are still changes to other client so i am the one being blame for something I had no knowledge. Since I could not just give a change i ask them politely but they could not wait patiently. Despite being yell i just speak to them calmly and never yell back at them. SO I just let it pass as charge to experience unless they harm me physically then it is a different situation then..

Hi Setsuna................ I feel sorry for you, you must be really shame to yell at public like that. Maybe you and that lady have mis communication. I usually just try to explain what I wanna do before act so they won't think other wise. If not work I usually just silence because what for arguing with someone who not listen to others. I hope you feel better now.

There are many kinds of people in this world as you know. I look at life as savoring the moment. Being kind and nice to others only takes a few seconds. But unfortunately many do not have this same attitude. So we have to keep being ourselves, and smile as we go long the journey of life.