when u forgive is that mean that u forget what they did?does it really work?

for me... no.. if you forgive the person you just allow yourself accepting him/her again.. no matter what he/she does... if the "sin" is too much.. accepting for what he/she is is more appropriate word because change is something hard to do... but if you love him/her enough... you'll change yourself so you wont hurt your partner anymore... good day everyone!! :)

it normally takes time for me to forgive someone..but eventually i will..but then i will never forget..it will always be there..the sad thing is that even if i only see or heard that specific person's name, it will always remind me of what he/she did to me..i guess it is really hard for me to forget..i think i'm just too sensitive that i can't forget it..

Hello zsahea, Just because you forgive does not mean you forget what the person did too you. That person has to work extra harder to gain your trust back if you allow them that. It never easy to forgive and forget at the same time. It is process that can take time. You can forgive now but it takes time to actually forget the incicent if ever depending on what it is. Thanks and have a great day Sincerely Unique16

I am going through something at the moment, which basically is something that I forgave someone for, and am dealing with trying to forget, but the problem is what this person did to me is difficult to forget because I have lost all trust, and struggle to believe anything that they say anymore. I don't know whether I really have forgiven them or whether it was something I just did, to try and sort things out. Problem is forgiving is one thing, but forgetting is something else entirely, if I could forget, then I could get on fine. I think in my situation because it is very painful what this person did, I don;t think I am ever going to be able to forget. Maybe small silly mistakes are easier to forget.

In my opinion, forgiving is an act of faith. You have to believe that you no longer hold the offense against the object of the forgiveness. Sometimes, it takes a while for it to be real and forgetting may not ever happen. Forgiveness does not, necessarily, mean forgetting, it means taking the emotional aspect out of the offense: not ALLOWING it to remain in your realm of feeling. Trusting that person again will take time. When you begin to feel indifferent about the person, then the forgiveness has become real. After that, if you wish to establish a relationship with that person, then you will be willing to trust him/her again.