Where do you honestly have it in your heart to hate another person?
By lmurdock
@lmurdock (56)
United States
June 7, 2010 4:13pm CST
We live in a society that throws the words love and hate around like they are candy at a Mardi Gras parade. When it comes to love, we seem less hesitant to stop and examine the meaning of the word and whether we do love the person or thing to which we are committing our love. Hate is altogether different. Sometimes, kids, in anger say they hate someone, but that is without knowing or understanding the emotion. Where does hate have a place to reside in your heart? I would really like to know. Isn't hate like a cancer. It does nothing to the person toward whom it is directed but eats you up on the inside? Have you ever or could you imagine yourself harming someone because of hate? Who do you really hate? Really? Maybe you dislike their company. Maybe they make you mad, but how can you hate someone? That is a strong word and emotion.
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@pmbhuntress09 (1608)
• United States
7 Jun 10
I was brought up not to hate people, now there is one person that I do have a complete dislike for. I sort of have to dislike the man since he made my life a living hell last year. He hated all women, and when I wouldn't act as though I was in love with him online, he had some friends shoot at my house. Luckily no one was hurt but I happen to have 3 children that were normally playing in the yard. Now a person like that, I can say I don't hate them, they are just freaken crazy and can't help themselves, so therefore I don't like them at all.
@lmurdock (56)
• United States
8 Jun 10
That is crazy. I suppose I would feel sad for someone like that. I can't believe someone would shoot at your home, with or without kids, but especially with. That brings up another subject - Do you find you lose your cool more quickly when someone attacks your kids physically, emotionally, verbally, mentally? I know I do. That is another reason I need to hear stories like the one above -the mom's boyfriend - I cannot imagine a mother allowing her child to be exposed to that. I'm not being sarcastic. It has not been a part of my life and I wouldn't even know things like that are going on if others didn't share. Once you become aware, sometimes, you can help. I would want to help a child in that kind of situation and, frankly, a mother who would stay in it herself.
@pmbhuntress09 (1608)
• United States
8 Jun 10
Yes very much, I do lose my cool when people start in about my kids, or even when there is a problem at school with the kids teachers. The guy above wasn't even my boyfriend, I was still married and he was just a person that I met online, and would talk back and forth with through a forum. I told the man time and time again that I was not interested and he still kept on, when I stopped talking to him online, or even refused to leave comments on his posts, he went off the rocker. 
@Beautyfactor (1510)
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7 Jun 10
I don't think I have ever truly hated someone. The thing is, I treat everyone as an equal when I first meet them, regardless of what other people may say or tell me about them. Only if they hurt or upset me and my family will I end the friendship/relationship. Even then I still would not hate them.
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@lmurdock (56)
• United States
7 Jun 10
I know what you mean Beautyfactor. You always have the option of walking away. YOu don't HAVE to be friends, but you don't HAVE to hate. Would you say hate, then, is a choice? Anger is an emotion. Nothing you can do to control its emergence in a relationship or other matters, but we can control how we act on it - especially in relationships. Why does hate have to even play a part in any relationship? Does it essentially give control of a part of yourself to another person.
(BTW - thanks for answering. I'm not so knew, but very knew to posting. I'd love to get into some intelligent discussions - or mindless ones are fine too - LOL.)
@artistry (4151)
• United States
8 Jun 10
....Hi there Imurdock, Welcome to the ranch, enjoy, nice friends are here to be made. You are absolutely correct hate will only eat you on the inside. You waste too much time obsessing over someone who is living their life on their own terms while the person hating them is tied up in knots for something absurd ptobably. So the better thing to do would be to forgive and try to forget whatever took one down the path of hating. I always say I hate the person's ways but not the person. Pray for grace to grow and forgive. Take good care.
@karen1969 (1779)
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8 Jun 10
I agree, love and hate are words that are thrown about too much. I don't think I really HATE anyone. There are plenty of people I dislike, find annoying or don't like their actions, but this isn't really strong enough to describe as hate. I think it is pointless hating people, it just upsets you inside, so it's better to try to avoid or ignore tham and live your life with less stress.
@xuliwei123 (155)
• China
8 Jun 10
thank you for telling us what you are thinking.in my mind, the loving and hating are both the emotion of the human being,if you do not think of the man you hated,you will not hate him,there is a adage,if you hate someone,that prove you loving him,!
@Nightshroud (41)
• Romania
8 Jun 10
In my case..if the people here actually do all the stuff they say we would all be extinct for a long time now...dont take anything sayd to you to hearth, especially if its sayd in a moment of anger or stupidity!
