how do you deal with an obsessed girlfriend?
By enyoung
@enyoung (42)
Philippines
June 9, 2010 2:07am CST
i have a good friend whose girlfriend is very much possessive. his girlfriend gets angry when he talks to other girls even if it's just for business purposes. they've been in the relationship for more than four years now and they fight almost every week for the same reason - the girlfriend is overly possessive. i think she's obsessed.
the worst thing now is that this girl quarrels with almost every woman in the workplace who gets near her boyfriend. she's even angry with me now since somebody told her that i was walking alone with her bf (which is not true). she said i should stay away from her boyfriend since something had already happened between them. oh my, i'm not trying to steal her bf. and i dont even like him.
mylotters, how do i deal with this girl?
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10 responses
@VotreAmie (3028)
• United States
10 Jun 10
I think unfortunately when one or two members of a relationship is too possessive, in the long run it results in a failed relationship, I do think they will end up breaking up if she doesn't change. I don't think I could have managed a boyfriend who was very jealous to a point of controlling me, that's bad for everybody. I think try to stay away from this girl and you will have less hassle from her. Take care.
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
9 Jun 10
we cannot really judge her you know...who knows if we will be in the relationship and if we will also act like that... and how do you know she and her boyfriend is fighting every week? i think that is too personal for you to know... and to judge her...they been together for 4years... and the boy is still there..meaning its ok for him for her gf to act like that... and just never mind them thats their business...
and try not to see you and her boyfriend together so she will be angry...and you will not have problem too...
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
I couldn't imagine myself being in the place of your friend who has an overly possessive girlfriend who seems so insecure and immature about their relationship. If I were you, I'd tell her frankly not to worry because there's no way in hell that I'd steal her boyfriend so stop all the jealous girl act, your not the wife yet to control everything that you want to. And I'd ignore, ignore, ignore her so keep yourself from being involved in their problem.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
Hi enyoung! You're friend is very in love with this girl for him to be able to handle that kind of a woman. I had a boyfriend before and he was a bit possessive. I break up with him because we're fighting almost everyday which I think is very much unhealthy. I really like possessive people because it's like they're always into thinking of only their feelings. A relationship works when both parties are given the chance to be whoever they want to be. If you're friend can't leave this girl, stay away from your friend or else her stupid girl would ruined your life. Wait for the right time that your friend would realize that he made a stupid mistake. 
@xuliwei123 (155)
• China
10 Jun 10
i think you should leave the girl away,that is not any matter with you ,though your friend quarrels with his girlfriend,it is their tings,you care these so much,maybe you are loving your friend that just you dont know,if you dont love your friend in tureth,dont let others misundersanding!
@xuliwei123 (155)
• China
10 Jun 10
i think you should leave the girl away,that is not any matter with you ,though your friend quarrels with his girlfriend,it is their tings,you care these so much,maybe you are loving your friend that just you dont know,if you dont love your friend in tureth,dont let others undersanding!
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
10 Jun 10
I don't think this relationship could last!
personally, I don't like to be overly controlled as i need to some space for myself and for my friends too..I don't like to have a guy whose only responsibility is to watch me out and to get jealous of my guy friends!!
my gosh that is totally difficult...
As for you; just leave her and don't bother enough about her situation.. she is hilarious!
@rastogisw (445)
• India
9 Jun 10
I think I would like to do the samething with her...like whenever she talks to anybody(male),reacts in the same way...the way she reacts...may be in that way she could understand that what wrong is she doing ....and if she would remain skeptical then I would prefer to leave her.
