Pay Attention To Me
By vjenkins86
@vjenkins86 (1478)
United States
June 9, 2010 9:28am CST
Have you ever wondered if people post certain things on their status just so they can get everyone's attention?
My cousin (I've talked about her a lot because her actions baffles me most of the time and there is no way I can understand her) will go periods of not changing her status on facebook- which is not shocking since she is a mother of three and pregnant again. Then all of a sudden, it's like she rediscovers the internet and her status changes practically ever other hour. She sometimes post every single thing she does, but most of the time she will word it so you have to wonder if she's ok and people get concern of her.
Just now her status is like: "Going through a difficult time" and of course everyone- including me- is wondering what's going on. I tried to contact her but no answer. I'm not too worried because she is a bit of a drama queen, but I noticed as soon as she posted that people have been writing on her wall asking questions, giving shout outs- none of them knowing what she is referring to.
It just makes me suspicious that she does this so she can get these kind of responses.
8 responses
@much2say (56049)
• Los Angeles, California
9 Jun 10
Oh yes. I have certain friends who have a "habit" of making their friends worry (for attention perhaps) . . . so the status updates on Facebook is a lovely tool for them. One in particular is never happy - never happy with her husband who is always away in the military and her two kids who seem to drive her nuts. All she writes are negative things that beg for comments. I notice most of the time no one will comment on the especially bad ones - I guess we all know her too well. The funny thing is after all the drama, she'll delete all her posts (I am thinking she is afraid her hubby will read them).
@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
9 Jun 10
Wow. Your friend sounds like a drama queen. I wonder if she knows my cousin. lol. I'm sure its hard to have two kids while your husband is away, but always airing your negative thoughts out there in public is kind of crazy. Oh well. Thanks for your response. Happy mylotting.
@much2say (56049)
• Los Angeles, California
10 Jun 10
Yah, I don't know why she and some others have to air their negative crap on Facebook . . . she's inviting us into her problems and that's not what we're there for (at least I'm not!). Maybe you can make a friend suggestion - your cousin to my friend - they might get along great - ha ha.
@StephanieAnnC (4274)
• United States
9 Jun 10
I agree. I have one friend who changes her status approximately every 5 minutes with sappy statuses for her boyfriend. It's utterly annoying and I think she was just wants to broadcast her relationship to everyone.
I don't understand why people feel the need to change their statuses so constantly. I rarely post a status. I feel like people don't have to know everything about what I'm doing. If it's something huge, like I graduated college or something, then I'd post that.
@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
9 Jun 10
I'm with you. I'm hardly on facebook and I only change my status to announce big things which is rare for me. Happy mylotting.
@blue_thr3e (403)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
There are times when I won't update my status for a week or more because I don't have anything to say OR I didn't check anything online. There are also times when I update my facebook status every hour or less but not to attract attention. I update everyone about what i've been doing while online i.e. the manga or the news i've read, the clip i've seen, or whatever happened inside the house while i'm surfing the net e.g. what my brothers and sisters are doing which i find either really interesting or really ridiculous, or if at that moment my mom said something funny, or whatever attracts my attention on tv. All happened because it's either I have nothing OR I have a lot to share. So while it's normal to be suspicious, i can't assume anything about her intention/s. I think there's nothing really wrong about what she's been doing except if what she's posting are lies.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
she probably likes being the center of attention. before, when i was new to facebook, i loved it when a lot of people comment on the stuff i post. it makes me happy when my friends comment on my status or the photos that i put up. although, i am not as much of a drama queen as your cousin is. i don't do it on purpose, but it's fun when people take time to comment on you.
@charmeyn (82)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
One of my cousin is like that too. Recently she went through a tough time `coz she and his boyfriend broke up. Since then, she started posting status like quotes & lyrics from songs that explains her feelings. Its ok to post thing like this, but for me, she's just over-acting about what happened. Posting such thing will not make her feel good you know. Facebook won't help her get over the guy. My father share the same sentiments. He even sent a message to my cousin saying to stop all the drama. I wish I can tell her face-to-face to just build a bridge & get over it. LOL
@palkmae (29)
• Japan
13 Jun 10
I know of a lot of my friends doing that. I even know of someone who also change their relationship status to get people talking (or replying). This one friend of mine, changed her status to married when she really isnt. The catch is that she has been going in and out of a lot of relationships. So when she updated her status, guess what? There were tons of replies, queries and congratulatory messages.
We may say that these people are vying for attention. But it could also be that they just want to vent out their emotions. Anyway, for some that I find annoying, I just ignore them.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
hmmm....i don't know, but personally, it feels good to post shoutouts there. i usually post a beautiful quote, or anything going on with my life... if somebody posts a comment, i would reply back. if none then it's okay. I'm not like the others who like to post EVERYTHING that's going on in their lives with all the details and even the emotional, mushy stuff.... I ignore those posts, mostly. but not always. of course i still care if that person (either a friend or a relative) is really going through tough times, but i usually can sense it if they're just looking for attention.
@k2r3ncute (97)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
maybe there's just people like that who wants to catch everyone's attention eventhough they are not really problematic. I know someone like that and she is always changing her status and she only wants to talk about herself and dont want to listen. Sometimes she when she has a problem I try to talk to her and give her advices but then she makes it like a drama and wont listen and after I'll ignore her she'll answer her own questions and accept advices. People with personality like that are called histrionic..
