Why are girls so sticky and paranoid

I am sorry I am a girl but I still decided to respond to this discussion. Yes I really agree with what you have said that there are really "some" girls who shifts moods so easy that they tend to be good at this time then later they start to argue. There are a lot of girls who know every detail of where guys go what they do when did they got home and many more. I agree with that because I myself wants to know those basic things too. But I know where and when to ask and when to stop. I most of the time just let my husband tell me the stories. The good thing about us is that we have build a strong start and our very first rule is to insist honesty at all times. So I am really at peace and no worries most of the time because I know he is not doing things that will hurt me and so do I. I know it is so hard for singles or those in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship to be as honest as possible but it is doable. So I guess lesson for girls who are like those you mentioned, they should give their trust first and just be calm, not unless there is something wrong going on. To be fair, for boys too just try to keep on updating your girls as well. Not every minute but everyday is enough. I mean try to compromise to each other, discuss what you want and what you hate. Communication is still the key. Girls please stop being paranoid, and insecure too if there is no valid and strong reason to be. Guys are still guys and we should respect their egos as well.

This is true that majority of the girls are paranoid. Why? Their reasons vary. Some of them just are so scared of losing you (without them realizing that what they're doing to you at present might cause them to lose you hehe, like you can't be yourself anymore - they want to know the littlest details of your daily activities), some gets paranoid due to past experiences or relationships - based on their past partners or based on some domestic problems with their parents; while some just have some insecurity issues; or maybe you or she used to have multiple relationships back then and was itched to her mind - afraid of having to experience the same things you or she did to your past partners - afraid to be cheated. I used to be among the paranoids - but I've learned through the years that men are totally different physically, psychologically etc. Men are not mind readers. They sometimes need to be told what you are thinking and not just making a fuzz by them not being able to know what you want them to know. That I cannot expect my man to be molded to someone that he is not. I want him to be comfortable doing what he does (provided it is not below the belt). In this way I can talk to him easily and preventing arguments. Being a friend to my man is the key for him to be honest at all times (well majority of the time hehe). Hope you can resolve your issues with your girl. Hope she's capable of hearing you out :-)

I see what you are talking about. There is a specific group of girls who do that, but saying that all girls are like that will be a generalization on my part. Funniest thing is that some men who go into a relationship with them are equally responsible. I am not saying that they are sticky and paranoid also. The thing is that it is in the personality of those girls which should be visible from the initial stage of dating. But if the men overlook it and still move forward with these women then they are simply bringing demise to themselves. It is not hard to reject someone. But thinking that the person will change after some time isn't something that occurs in it. Actually, the girls you are talking about are those that like to control men and the relationships. This is a very specific type. They are not only controlling, but also emotionally unstable and clingy. If you do not give them what they want they will just pour all anger on you. If only men learn to understand that they will not settle for less and that equality in a relationship is important they don't have to be with such girls. Unfortunately, the more time goes by the more these men's self esteem keeps deteriorating. It is actually seen in reality. And once self esteem is gone the chance to get out of the relationship also disappears. Bottomline is that leave them and look for what suits you. There is no solid paper of commitment in a relationship. Therefore, it is easy to cancel out being their boyfriends.

Well I can't respond to each of the many problems you have outlined, but if you want to know why girls are paranoid you need to check out the guys that were in her life. Many Guys might say "Yeah but that wasn't me." Unfortunately for you that old saying once bitten twice shy applies here. Quite often girls are initiated into relationships by devious men/boys out for the main chance. Often we see so many of them that by the time a good one comes along he needs to prove himself, because by then we are tired of them and their games. If men want to be trusting, teach your sons to be trustworthy and honorable. Do to young women what you would like for your own daughter one day. I know some of you guys reading this are probably chuckling and thinking that this will prevent him from getting any... Well this line of thinking mean we will keep going around that mountain until you get it right, or the end of time, whichever comes first.