Depression - Getting Worried Now:(

Hi Rosie, I have been following your discussions even though I may not have dropped a response all the time. I know the difficulty that you are facing. There is one thing good about you - you are aware that you are falling into a depression. That's important to acknowledge that you have a problem and it needs to be resolved. I fell into a depression last year when I discovered about my husband's infidelity. I shunned the world, did not want to meet anyone. Luckily at that time, I was not working or I would not even have the strength to smile it off throughout the day. After that, I went in search of my friends and related my problems to them. It eased the burden somewhat but I was made more confused with the different advice I was getting from the various people, some of which are not in line with what I think is right. Then I began to focus on talking to a selected few who encouraged me to follow my heart. One of them offered me a job. It required me to take exams and I made it to the company. It managed to take my mind off my problems for awhile. But as long as it is still not resolved, it will come back to haunt me. My emotional roller coaster is so bad that sometimes when people ask how I am, I could just burst into tears there and then. But I learn to control it. It's really tough and our children becomes the object of our wrath. I feel very guilty after that and hugged her tightly. Don't allow yourself to sink lower and lower. Why don't you do some things with your children, bring them to the park or the zoo? Have some time off for yourself. I often disappear to get a massage (even if money is tight) to release some tension on the body. I sometimes go for a jog. I meet up with friends. These friends do not have to know your problems, but just have a nice cup of coffee with them once in awhile. Get in touch with relatives, if they are nearby. They can help to look after your children while you do some errands. Do seek medical advice if you think you are getting worse. I was afraid that I might have to take pills to cure my depression but I knew I need to snap out of it. I began to get closer to the religion and prayed more often. it helped to centre my thoughts and become stronger in the will to move on.

Rosie remember you are loved dearly by those around you. Even though you do not feel like you want to burden your friends with this i believe that if they were to be in your situation then you would let them lean on you in an instant. Think back to all the amazing things you have done over your life and maybe write them all down so you can see just how amazing they are, even small things like possibly passing your driving test, getting your first job etc. My friend is suffering from depression and has began smoking along with it and has drastically lost weight but she is using medication. She says she does not see these as her relying on them but as a friend to lean on, they are being reduced bit by bit and by getting out and about, bit of sun and a good chin wag she is slowly but surely getting back on her feet, she has a long way to go still but i know i will be there for her every step of the way, and i enjoy the fact she feels she can talk to me, also she knows all her family are behind her aswell. You CAN do it Rosie :) We all believe in you chick!!xxxx

well you took the first step admitting to it. now i do suffer from depression as well bipolar. one if you need your meds then i would say take them. not just for you but for you kids as well. and i would say also maybe therpty as well to get an outsider veiw and to help you deal with everything. and i know ive said it to before pills no way again, but if i am being like this and acting towards my family then i would do it. you cant be any help to your kids, if you arent at your best. and i understand about talking to people. but if you have that one person then i say why not. but if you are really sinking this fast and this hard go and get help. but go and get help

Hi Rosie I read your words,it's kind of smilar to my situation several months ago. But i am okay now.I didnt see a doctor.I think the only way you can rid of the depression,is find another way out.Dont stick to these old problem.You need clear the air.listen more music try to relax yourslef.more walk less drive.Hope you can get yourself back earily.Good luck!

Hey there Rosie. Pills can be helpful, but since you don't want to become dependent on them, maybe you should look into some alternative treatments such as acupuncture, herbal supplements (if you don't have bipolar disorder, St. John's Wort is supposed to be a highly effective anti-depressant, and (pure) kavakava is supposed to be pretty beneficial, but I would suggest talking to your doctor first if you decide to try anything), yoga, meditation, different types of massages, etc. I don't know what you've tried as far as therapy, but it's not all "talking about your feelings." DBT(http://www.en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dialectical_behavior_therapy) has been particularly helpful for me in regards to managing my feelings and how I relate with people. The following is an extensive list of other types of therapy including more alternative therapy types: http://www.goodtherapy.org/types-of-therapy.html I'm sorry life isn't going well for you. Good luck, and I hope things start looking up soon.

Dear Rosie230, I'm fadyhalim new member for this group. I need to give you some advice what can you do when you face a depression. You can used EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) a new group of treatment technique referred as Energy Therapy. EFT Meridian Points : 1-You can tap the EFT meridian points using eitherhand 2-You can tapon either right side orleft side of your body or both side. 3-You can switch sides atany timeduring the process. 4-If you wearglasses, you will want totake them off to access thepoints around the eyes. 5-You don't have to worryabout whether you are tapping in the exact spot.Ifyou are tapping in thegeneral area, you will be stimulating that points. Below is the EFT tapping point :- a) Karate Chop use 3 or 4 fingers of one hand to tap on the edge / side of other hand between the wrist and little finger b) Eyebrow use 1 or 2 fingers, tap on either eyebrow above the nose where the eyebrow starts c) Outside of Eye use 1 or 2 fingers,tap on the outside edge of either eye on the bone d) Under Eye use 1 or 2 fingers,tap just below either eye on the bone e) Under Nose use 1 or 2 fingers,tap the area below the nose and above the upper lip f) Chin use 1 or 2 fingers,tap below lower lip in the crease where the chain starts g) Collarbone use 3 or 4 fingers or a closed fist,tap 1 or 2 inches left or right of center on the collarbone h) Under Arm use 3 or 4 fingers,tap about 4 inches down from the armpit on the side of the body on the rib cage i) Top of Head use 3 or 4 fingers,tap around the top of head. Set an Intention Set a clear intention to release this depression,stress and tension and to come back into a state of balance and relaxtion. Ask urself why it is important for u to release this tension,stress and depression.How will you be different? How will yourlife be different? State out Loud : I INTEND TO RELEASE THIS TENSION,STRESS AND DEPRESSION IFEEL RIGHT NOW.I ALLOW MYSELF TO EASILY COME BACK INTO A STATE OF BALANCE AND RELAXATION. Begin tapping on the karate chop point and say loud... Even though I feel depression, I choose tofeel calm and relax Even though I feel depression and uncomfortable, I choose to feel calm and relax. Even though I feel depression and uptight, I allow my body to relax and feel calm. Eyebrow : All these depression feelings, I release them now. Outside Eye : I allow my body and mind to relax. Under Eye : I release all these depression feelings Under Nose : My body and mind are relaxing now. Chin : I'm coming back into balance, back into harmony. Collarbone : I release any remaining depression feelings. Under Arm : I choose to feel peaceful and relax now. Top of Head : I allow peaceand relaxation to fill me up. Stop tapping. Take a deep breath in and release it out. Make note of any changes in your awareness, thinking or in your physical body. Make note of any signs of release such as sighing, yawning, warmth, tingling or relaxation. Close your eyes and rate your level of depression now on a scale from 0 to 10. Has your number gone down, stayed the same or possibly even gone up? If you are not at a 0 or 1, feeling calm and peaceful continue with the next tapping sequence. Do 3 or more times till you feel better. I had used this method when I feel uncomfortable, stress or tension and it's cure my feelings. Rosie230,pls try this method and let me know how the result later. Take care & have a nice day. Regards, Fadyhalim

I'm sorry; I haven't seen your discussions in the past, but I was reminded immediately of an article I read recently (I think it was on Dr Mercola's site) that quoted studies that seemed to indicate that Vitamin D helps with depression. Most of the population is deficient in Vitamin D because we don't get in the sun much any more and when we do, we slather on lotion so the sun rays can't get to us. It's beginning to be thought that a few unprotected minutes in the sun each day will make a big difference. I don't know if you have a Vitamin D deficiency, but it would be something to have checked out.

Hi Rosie! You are already making progress. Because you know you have a problem and acknowledging it, is a very good first step. I think you should go back to your doctor. Maybe the dosage of your past medication needs to be adjusted. That's why you have mood swings. And talking of your problems too with one or two friends and family member will help you a lot. They might be sometimes, a lot of questions and advices. But in the end, they would be of great help. I had problems too when my husband just left the house, my parent's house actually. And he didn't came back. He wanted us to follow him. But the feud went on and on. And we ended up separated, even our children had to be living separately, one with me and the other with him. It was tough. But, I know it may sound, so simple, but I never used the word depressed. Because I didn't want to sink in to depression. I felt sad, hurt, angry, regrets, all of it..but not depressed..Because, I thought I had to be strong, first for myself. Because if my daughter was to lean on me and I was weak. I will be the one to be blame for not being strong enough for her. It took me years to cope with that. It took me a lot of tears until I could smile again. But, I know that, if you want to rise above this situation. You can do it. Depression, sadness, anger, are all emotions that comes primarily from our brain. And so is happiness, joy, and hope....Always think positively. Surround yourself with positive things, thoughts, and positively driven persons. And I know you will feel much better. Be strong Rosie. You can overcome this. And also prayers helps a lot...(^^,)

rosie really you do need to talk to your doctor who may send you to a mental health person who deals with depression as its robbing you of life, you are miserable and hurting.You do need help from someone who is qualified to deal with it. depression can have a bad effect on your whole family too.There may be other things that they can do besides the pills bit too. I would see my doctor as you owe to yourself and your kids, I mean its not their fault as you just said. I know I have dealt with a semi depression myself and somehow I did pull myself out of it but I honestly really do not know how. maybe mylotting was the factor that helped or that mental fitness class we had u ntil the funds ran out.

oh men.! what happen? what makes your depression? what are you depressed of? your husband, financial, kids, your health? you need to specify so maybe I can throw some suggestion.

I am sorry if I don't know or didn't follow your discussion about this just because I am tied up too with so much responsibilities that wheenver time possible I log in here and reply discussions as I could or post some question I need some answers too.

Yeah well i suggest to always think positive. Its the thought that makes you depressed :) Happy Thoughts

I feel for u. Im a depressed person 2. Im also on the pills at the moment and it is hard 2 move on with life being depressed. Just hoping u get well soon. GB.