If your friend's bf/gf flirts with you
By typeandclick
@typeandclick (190)
Philippines
June 9, 2010 7:17pm CST
What will you do if your friend's bf/gf flirts with you?
Should you tell your friend?
My friend's bf is our company client. When he calls, I always answer him as our customer. He would start by checking up the status or his orders but later would talk about his interest in me. He'll do this even beyond office hours. As much as possible, I try to be nice with him coz they're one of our big clients but somehow I'm getting annoyed whenever he's talking about his feelings with me. I sometimes think of telling it to my friend but afraid she'll be hurt. If you're in the same situation, what will you do?
4 responses
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
12 Jun 10
Do it right. Choose the right option. I think at first you can tell him how you feel. If this makes you feel uncomfortable then let it be known to him. Perhaps the reason why he's being so persistent is because he thinks it's okay with you. Tell him you don't like what you're doing and you don't like how it feels knowing he's your friend's boyfriend. Don't worry about the business. They won't pull out just because of that. He's just doing his business with pleasure and putting some icing on the cake. LOL. If he still persists, tell him that you'll tell your friend about it. If he still continues, then tell your friend about it. don't worry that she might get hurt. Definitely she will. But the hurt will be lesser if you tell her sooner than tell her later.
@saintneil (28)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
As for me, i can't be You, because I'm a Boy. LOL. Will, as for me, ill tell it to my friend, Yes it would hurt her, but not by You, because you had no intentions to cheat on her by stealing Her BF. And it would hurt her more, if She finds it out by herself or by others that her BF is flirting with you, and maybe something like, you cheated with her, will come up with her mind, because why didn't you tell her the truth if you were not cheating, right ?
And as for the guy problem, You have to remind him that his Gf is your friend, and you could tell her anytime you want. That's trying to scare him, though you really will tell your friend about it. But what's a Warning, right ? Do the right thing, you think what is right. And you'll never regret the output it would do.
@grace24 (1050)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
Maybe if I am in your situation I would choose to tell it to my friend. I don't want her to be hurt but it is much better if she will know. Atleast she will not feel that she was cheated by the both of you. She will listen to you because she is your friend.
@kamarlow (65)
• United States
10 Jun 10
This is that spot between the hard spot and the rock. You have to do what your heart is guiding you to do. Maybe you just tell him that your interest in him is low and kind of remind him about his girlfriend. Do this in a way that says "hey...whatever her name is...and I are headed to dinner or lunch together today, and ask him how his day is" This slightly reminds him of the situation as a whole and still keeps you the nice guy by asking him how he is (both a positive in the professional and friendly sense).
