shall we trust the friend online?
By meinana
@meinana (51)
China
June 9, 2010 7:52pm CST
there are more and more negtive news about that friendship made through the internet are not trustable,cause you dont know the real face behind the internet ,maybe on the net he is a charmful guy,but in the reality,it is a evil.so, my dear friend,I want to know what's your opinion about this .
6 responses
@cloudymcstiles (40)
• Indonesia
10 Jun 10
Hi Meinana. I have use the internet for 8 years to search for friends, and you know what? I still have no clue whether they are really nice in person or not because I have not meet them in person. However, I want to tell you about my friend's experience. She had a boyfriend, from another country, they met on the internet. They dated for like 3 months and then the boyfriend came to her house on new year's eve. And after the boyfriend back to his country, he rarely contacted the girl, and then he broke up with her via e-mail. -_-"
I don't say that making friends or even finding lovers through the internet is a bad idea, but don't let yourself deceived ;)
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
it takes time to get to know person really well, and it takes longer if it's online. i only completely trust an online friend and consider them a true friend, after a year or 2 of online friendship. and then later on hopefully, meet with each other personally.
@beachstarz (1092)
• United States
10 Jun 10
When you open your heart or offer your friendship to someone you open yourself up to being hurt . I don't think it matters where you find them . You can meet a person at church , or the local store who is up to no good . People have gone on blind dates for years , and some girls have been raped on blind dates , and some dates turn out really well . You have to be careful when you first meet someone online and in person. In a way I think online dating is a good thing, because you can take your time, as you should to get to know each other real well before you meet in person. I met my husband online 11 years ago. We chatted for about a year before we met in person.. We are still married and best friends . Listen to the person, and see if what he is saying matches up , that he isn't telling lies .
Take your time , don't rush seeing him in person. If you do want to get together in person.. Make it a place where you feel safe, or take a friend along..
You should do that no matter if it's a online friendship or not .
@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
hi meinana,
I cannot say whether we should trust or not trust the person we meet online. Having an internet connection for more than 3 years, I met and keep on meeting different people over the internet. Some are good and some are not.Some of them will say good things on you on the first conversation but then, will show their real intentions afterwards. They shows how rude they are. I never regret deleting them and blocking them on my contact list. There are good and smart people and I treasure them. I meet good people here in mylot also. I have one friend here for almost 2 years now and he has been good to me.I can say that you know if you will trust a person if you have been chatting him for so many years. It is because somehow, you know what is his personality. We can also chat a person at the same time see his face. Through that, we can know whether he is serious , joking or anything.
@med889 (5941)
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10 Jun 10
I have some friends who are very good ones I met online however I always try to be cautious while sharing files and pictures because we never know what can happen afterwards. I also read an article on facebook where a girl met a man through the site and then the man turn to be a psychopath, the girl was found sexually assaulted tied in a bed.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
My friend had a different experience. He thought his chatmate was a girl. When they've met, turned out she was guy. A gay actually. [
@mlotta (218)
• Managua, Nicaragua
10 Jun 10
I would suggest that you be more careful about who you meet online, because you might never know if the person in reality is nice or not. I've heard way too many stories of how people meet a person they thought was a very good person, but they find out the hard way when they meed that person in reality (face to face) that the person is a very nasty, evil, and very murderous person. I've heard very good stories on online friendships too.
