How can you tell if it is for real?

When I know that I cannot live without her, as simple as that. Besides, it is more important to know that the girl loves me rather than I love the girl. You must marry the girl who loves you and not the girl you are in love with.

it depends on things,like do you both think along the same lines?do you both like much of the same things?is one of you willing to do something that might not be something that's of much intrest to the other one?do one of you do something nice or thoughtful for the other one as a random act?can one of you allow the other one to do something that they want to do alone?there are many questions that could be brought up by this question but one of the most important one's is "can you see yourself growning old with each other?"if everything is going good like you say then maybe you need to sit down with each other and talk about your long term plans.you never know,he might just be with you as somebody to "hang around with" and not have any long term plans with?not trying to "upset the apple cart" as they say but some guys are afraid of talking about things like this and if you should sit down with him and talk it over it might help "break the ice" and start things moving along in one direction or the other,you wouldn't want to spend anymore of your time if it's going nowhere's and if he wants to make long term plans it would be a good way to start.i don't know if this helps you out in anyway but sometimes when were not sure of things,it helps out by hearing what others might think about it?i hope things work out for you and that it's just that he's shy about it like i said.and i hope my response isn't too long?

Actually, I don't think it's up to the guy to do all the planning. It's the girl's future too. Long-term relationship issues and planning should belong to both members of the couple. I wouldn't want someone else to go ahead and plan my future without including me. If you are in a good, solid, loving relationship for seven months (or any amount of time), then you should be free and comfortable to bring up questions such as where do you see this relationship going? There's nothing wrong with wanting to discuss if your partner envisions you staying together, getting married, starting a family someday...any of those things. There is also nothing to stop the female from expressing her love or feelings. If it's not a rushed situation... but, rather, well thought out and maturely discussed, no one should have to "wait" for the other to move forward. It should be in mutual steps.

For some guys, if they're madly in love with the girl that they meet and are too stubborn to go away and they wanna prove themselves that they are real then by all means if the love is legit with mutual feelings then why not go for it? That's if you truly madly deeply are in love with them. I've dated my bf for 6 months, he was really getting into the thought that he wanted to spend his whole life with me during the first few months! Yea I was shocked, since I never took some guys seriously since I thought that most guys are the same and all with the lip service (telling you stuff you wanna hear). I was all like, hold up.. This is like going kinda fast don't cha think? Well, I never quite met a guy who really wants to be so permanent with me before so it took me a few extra months to actually realize that yea, that's what I want since I need you and you need me, so why not be together forever eh? It's not that big of a deal if the guy does the planning and what he wants... BUT IT WILL BE if you don't even get your say in it. Apparently he calls me boss, it makes me feel funny inside since I barely got any control over my previous relationships with others... There has to be some give and takes with plans right and the other partner needs their say in it too, and they'll definitely let you voice yourself out if they love, honor, and respect you with all their heart and soul right? Length of the relationship? From my view, no it doesn't count, it all depends on the bond and the time you share together through that length of time and if you know for sure you would want to wake up in the morning smiling at each other thinking "please pinch me, I hope it's not a dream that I'm lying here with the love of my life," sort of thing. Love is something quite divine between two people when you truly love each other. So as long as the guy doesn't do most of the planning, it's okay! Besides, they better give you a time to think it over too rather than jumping into things and making them have their heart broken when you honestly don't love them because broken hearts suck, but in time people move on and find someone better that they can love and cherish for a life time, while at the same time learning from their mistakes in the past. :P So it doesn't really matter how long a relationship is, it can be love at first sight, waking up from a dream one day and finding your love months later, dating your best friend? It doesn't all that matter! For some guys, with the moving forward thing, I know that some can move on quite quickly and some will wait till they actually feel real emotions for someone when their emotions were pretty blunt. The guys who can move forward quickly are kinda a mystery to myself since I'm not a dude, but I seen lots of them who can move on quickly. =/ But hey, like I said if you love someone and you know deep in your heart that you can love them for the rest of your life and resolve problems with them easily, can be as simple as a teeny argument that you'd laugh about later? By all means... Get engaged after that year of dating. Ahahaha that's my plan, and they want that badly too. -.- So after this year it'll be a contest on who proposes to who first. xD But to answer your question... "when can you tell that you love the girl you're with?" Well, for him he felt a vibe like a strong spiritual connection all this time. Myself? I could feel something but was in denial for a few weeks since my mind was hung over on someone else back then... then made it official after that since I got to know more stuff about the only best friend I had last year when things weren't going so well for me. When he was hitting onto me I thought he was joking since most of the guys who asked me out were bozos. But after a while I nodded and thought about it and read something he wrote that really pierced my heart with an eye opener that he really wants to be with me and stuff since I'm like this angel who reforged his broken heart that was broken long ago. I felt something strong for him yea I cried for the first time outta joy not sorrow since I usually cried out of sorrow and when I'm watching "The Notebook." This guy is for real, true, and honest and I'm glad he's all mine with no strings attached. I stole his heart, but he willingly gave it. So yea, from my point of view unless you love em so much... GO AHEAD! Make some plans but remember to have your say in them. ^^ And if you love them but are a little confused...don't but are thinking about it, take a long while to think about it no matter how long it takes if you're not ready you're not ready right? If you honest to God do not love them at all and are using them, that's just not nice! Have a heart people! Being mislead, used, and all that stuff sucks. Been there done that. Enough said. :P That's my view.