Letting Children Win

hello there,that's quite a good question.for me,i would like to let my child win.when i become a father, i will like to see my child happy everyday.i think it's an effective way to help him build self-confidence.

noner.. how very wonderful of you to discuss the minds of kids. It is really an eye-opener .. the experience is, for adults. almost all the funny time that I spend with my kids, or their friends, and relatives that age, I would pretend to be a loser... and a fool. They would be taking all the thrill in the world, and will be giving me tips to win. .. and, it is not a surprise that I am a very famous relative among our group. I will only tease my younger kid, by beating him mockingly, when he tries to win over me, by scoring higher points, but, he knows my bluff! ... have a very wonderful time playing with kids... it will ease your mental stress too.

Nope I would not allow him to quit, and I would say you are not going to win at everything in life but people will admire you more if you just try your hardest. What you can do is give him postive re-inforcement for being a good sport and for continuing to play the game even if he is losing. Compliment him on how proud you are of his behavior when he doesn't try to quit. I think it is OK to take it easy on a kid and give them a chance to win, but life is not a bit basket of constant wins, sometimes we lose at things we need to get over it and try again or try something else.

To a certain extent I think that it is important to let a child win some of the time. However, I also think that it is important to let them lose sometimes as well. The reason that I feel this way is that I think that it is important to have the feel of success, but I also think that it is important for an individual to be able to handle defeat as well. I know there are some parents who always let their children win and in these situations, the people grow up to be sore losers.

I agree with you that letting a child win doesnt teach them the right things in the long run. A few years ago I was playing with my younger brother who was 8 at the time on the Wii and he was really good and I actually had to really try a few times to beat him! When I had won a couple of games my stepdad had a go at me saying that he is a lot younger and I should give him a chance - more like he needed to give me a chance! My brother when playing with my parents used to get very moody when he was loosing though with me he had fun - he knew I wouldnt 'let' him win and so he became competitive with me in a good way. These days I cant beat him at all on a lot of games! With my two year old daughter I mainly let her win games especially ones she invents! I do sometimes win when we race just so she doesnt get used to winning all the time and become a bad looser. As for would I let a child quit if they were loosing, thats a difficult one as I would try to get them interested again to continue though when a moody child has decided to quit I dont think any adult can do much about it!!

I don't let kids win when playing games with them. That way when they really DO beat me, when their skill has gotten better than mine, then they can actually be PROUD of beating me and know they have done well! I was the same with my brother, he is 7 years younger than me so when he was little we would play games like Uno and Monopoly, I wouldn't let him win (although he would cheat like crazy to try and beat me!), and now he is much older, he is beating me for himself, and he knows he has gotten better. I think that letting a child win means they dont have that natural competition in their personalities when they are older, as they think they will win everything...meaninf when the DO lose (which they inevitably will do in life), they'll feel bad thinking it is something they did wrong instead of just been a part of life! If the child is saying "let me win" all that tells me is that they are used to people giving it to them easily and allowing the to win all the time...meaning they now take advantage of it. I also wouldn't let them quit just because they are losing...! And if they did quit, I would simply refuse to play again with them, and the game would be put away out of reach and they wouldn't get to play again. Of course a lot of the time...kids beat me anyway! But by no means is that because I am letting them...just because I am TERRIBLE at games!