What to do with boss who spread gross rumors about you?
By aileen2008
@aileen2008 (838)
Philippines
June 10, 2010 5:20pm CST
We have a boss in our office who is such a big fat LIAR. He tells lies about everyone to the point that it can ruin one's career. When I was still new in the company, I was already warned by my other co-workers to be cautious with that boss. Of course, I have always this benefit of the doubt thing so I did not believe at once.
Until I have encountered him telling lies about me, not once, not twice and not thrice but many times. The other day he's done it again with me and I am really fed up already. He is the same person who drains my energy (aside from the girl secretary who always whine about things) because of negativity in handling life's problems.
I don't really mind him being negative but I so much mind his being a big LIAR. His lying can really ruin my image and career. I have confronted him so many times about it, and all he does is deny it. You think I should change jobs already?
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7 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
17 Jun 10
It is sadly unfortunate that a supposed grown man would do such things. However, my best advise would be to tolerate as much as you can until you are able to get out. If this is the sort of thing that can jeopardize your future potentials, then you can't waste anymore time there.
That being said make sure you get another job before you leave, in the interim try your darnedest to stay out of his lucid lying. Good luck as it is already difficult with crap in the work place, but his is totally unnecessary.
Oh one more thing if you try to get out more later than sooner he will not say nice things about you then either. So put your joggers on and run. :)
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
I really like your response. Am I not being a coward if I just leave? I don't want to think that way.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Jun 10
Honey at the end of the day, you go home to you. Not your boss and not your co-workers. You have a future to consider and a person like that can take it so far and when you get unfairly let go, he nor your co-workers will be there for you.
It is unfortunate how we as people do not come together in this lifetime. There are so many who will stop at nothing to destroy innocent people. Think about the situations when trouble is lerking in the office and how people are feeling at the moment, even when it's about you. Ok, so when you go home or right at the moment who has stood up for you especially when it really mattered. Perhaps no one that can make a difference.
Best thing to remember is a couple years from now, you are still there and naturally this person if not stopped will only make things worst. Most definitely I would stay, take deep breaths daily and slowing ease your way out to some place where you are appreciated for your hard earned efforts.
Have a wonderful day.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
11 Jun 10
What he is doing is slander especially if it has the possibility of affecting your career, you can actually sue him for that. Have you talked to higher ups about this behavior? It sounds like you are not the only one having this problem with him, perhaps if 2 or 3 of you complain about him he will either get let go or at least be sincerely disciplined for what he is doing.
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
11 Jun 10
Hi Ladym33. The ironic thing about this is that he is already part of the management, being the admin and hr manager. We are only seven in the company, and the highest boss is also like him. It sucks huh? The boss of all the bosses, is the same, such a liar too. He does that to protect his position.
That's why I am afraid that I might already have a bad image among the stockholder, because of these people. But the HR and admin manager, he is the worst of his kind.
@goddessjes (788)
• Philippines
11 Jun 10
hi there!
how much can you still tolerate such a personality at work? can you still hold on to your thread of patience and understanding?
well, one of the reasons i left my 7 year job is NOT because of the workload. the environment - my workmates - are the reason why i left. i tried so hard to be patient, however i grew tired, unhappy and stressed each day. and it was unhealthy because i began developing bad attitude. i came to realize that if this is the price i had to pay, it's better to just leave before i lose the real me.
however, if you think that you can still manipulate your welfare there, they shouldn't be the reason why you are leaving.
can't this be escalated to higher management? if yes, you should should start collecting objective and statements regarding your boss' attitude and treatment towards his subordinates.
leaders at times do not act their posts. they just use it as grand vacation. it quite sucks, huh?
i hope you are just ok. don't get stressed because of your boss, ok?
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
11 Jun 10
Thank you goddessjes for your concern. I am actually getting stressed because of him. I will try no to by just praying to st. francis to give me patience to understand and tolerate him better.
@KarissaAngel (362)
• United States
11 Jun 10
I wanted to post a response to Rick and let him know I agree with him, but wanted to further go on to respond to you. My thought is that you must do your job well and that they are jealous and just want to annoy you. If they see that their little rumors and bullying weaken you they will keep it up. I got caught up in that and woke up and told myself that I was not going to let them get to me. I actually ignore them and keep smiling. I only talk to them when talked to and then I get right to the point and continue on with my job. Since I have done this and show they can't get to me, they have laid off me. Don't get me wrong, they still try every now and then but not as much as before. Keep a journal and if it is so bad get proof and go to HR with your concerns. I know our company has a toll free line and you can remain undetected. If you like your job, stay and keep your chin up. If you feel you need to move on, have a job before you quit this one. But like Rick said, it will happen in the next place to. Maybe not exactly the same way, but there will be someone there that will be annoying also. Just remember no one knows you like you do.
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
11 Jun 10
Thank you Karissa. What is ironic about it is that he handles the HR too. See, we are only 7 in the company. He handles admin and HR and I handle accounting. Most of the time he will look for files and documents, accusing me that he gave it to me, only to find out that he has the documents, original and everything. That one is still shallow, there are other stuffs that he still spreads and make it appear that I am the one who is inefficient and not him.
Anyhow, I also like your advice. It inspired me to still stay and observe. Thanks!
@k2r3ncute (97)
• Philippines
11 Jun 10
If it really ruins your career and image then you must go and find a new job. You can't enjoy life and spend everyday of your working life with this boss, can you? But if you can still tolerate his behavior as your other co-workers can stand him maybe you can just ignore him and maybe after being so tired gossiping about you he might just stop and find someone new to gossip about. hope this helps..
@lsl113 (19)
• China
11 Jun 10
Oh man I feel very sorry for you! it is unfortunately that you have to deal with that kind of boss. I have two suggestions for you: one is go to his superior since you've already talked with your boss so many times but it did not work; second is if the first one does not work, I strongly suggest you find a new job and get rid of him.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
11 Jun 10
In this case I would prefer to ask for boss change, why shpould I report to a liar. I would suggest to change the boos and not the company if you still like the work and pay. make someone above your boss about it, if they can take action that would be well and good for you otherwise choose your way to change the job.
