Friends Coming Into Your Life-Do You Ever Wonder Why?

Nope. We all tends to get close to others especially when we have something in common. Once, I decided not to make any new friends on a certain site. Still two or more crept in who I felt good to talk to and like a real friend (not virtual). So I stopped making exception on this site. I let everyone in and be friend with me, cause I know at the end there will only be several that we can justify as real friends.

Opal, I believe you may have read discussions of mine from a long time ago about losing friendships. A person that was my friend just contacted me, she was one of the group that I had had falling out with. She, I didn't technically fall out with. Anyway, now I wonder why she's contacting me, it makes me suspicious but also curious. I've added her as a friend on myspace as she asked me to be, now I just have to see what happens... Guarded but curious.

Life without any friends would be so dull. I have more acquaintances than actual close friends. I met a very nice lady several years ago through another friend. We never did anything together although did like each other. Over the last three years, we have become very close friends. She is a gem of a friend and wish I had become close friends with her sooner. She's very caring, understanding and loads of fun. Have been friends with another lady since grade school. We do stay in touch and when she comes in town to visit her daughter and grandkids, we always get together. That's once a year. We had some fantastic fun times as teenagers. And then there is a very sad story about another close friend. She has cancer and has only been given a few weeks to live. We've been close for over 20 years. Just breaks my heart. Another close friend passed away about a year and a half ago and I miss her dearly. Then there are others who claim to be a friend but use me and I do my vanishing act. One in particular thought I was a bank and she could borrow at her convenience. Took me over 5 years to recover the money so therefore we aren't close any longer. I was a little too irritated to continue a close friendship. I wonder sometimes if fate doesn't play a role in friendships we make as we get older. Whatever the reason, it's a good thing.

..Hi Opal, Hope you are doing well. Interesting subject. I retired early due to physical problems and most of my friends were still working and so I was home literally with my tv and at that point I don't think I had even gotten a computer because I was turned off with the talk of viruses and firewalls and such. So it was a bit boring. This lady who I had known when we were younger got my number from my sister who she was closer in age and friendship with and called me. We talked and discovered we liked certain programs on tv and from there we have been closer friends and she became sort of my company while everyone else was working because she had physical problems as well and was confined to home most of the time. So things happen with people in strange positive ways sometimes. She is the nicest most free hearted individual I know and I appreciate her friendship. Take care. Enjoy your weekend.

This discussion reminds me of the movie, Tequila Sunrise. It was with Don Johnson, Mel Gibson, and Michelle Pfeiffer. In the movie, one asked (I forgot who) why we feel obligated to keep our friends from high school. That's how I feel. The best friends I have are the ones I made in high school. We may not see each other for the longest time, but as soon as we do, it's as if our conversations never ended. Unfortunately, this is how I measure weight in friendship. On how they stack up against the friends I made in high school.

Hi sweetie. Well, those who just wandered into my life, made a hell of an impact, that's for sure. Friends i have known for long did not have that effect on me. Very strange that this can happen. The new ones are better friends for some reason i can't explain. TATA.

Yup some do come to the fore more than opthers as with some of the friends I have on here I now have several that are pretty close and others that are colser

Life is very strange and fasincating. I have noticed throughout my life that people seemed to come into my life for a purpose. Through contact with them, I have been led to situations that I wouldn't probably have gone looking for. I believe these situations were part of my life's lesson. Life is a mystery and has to be that way, because the mystery of life, gets people wondering what it's all about. Some then, find out and become spiritual masters. _Derek

I don't think it's just friends that drift into our lives for some reason, but even family members. Supposedly there are no "accidents" in life. Everything happens for a reason, the good AND the bad, and this can hold true for the people in our lives. Have you ever noticed for some reason, say you're in a room full of people who may be virtual strangers, say at a party situation. You seem to be drawn to some people and feel real comfortable with them, as if you've known them forever (and maybe in one sense you have if you believe in reincarnation like I do and have met them in another lifetime)---then you meet up with people that like bingo you have an instant dislike for even though you never met them before. The same can hold true with family members..like why do we have the parents we do--is there some strange lesson to learn by having those particular people as our parents? I'm STILL trying to figure that one out as I sure didn't "belong" to the family I had especially mother dearest

Good morning Opal, I have had many friends in my life to. Some i have had since school days [hundred years ago, lol]. I don't get the chance to meet many new friends now except on mylot but they are very specail to me to. Have a great friday. jo

I think that fate takes a hand and that when we need friends they step into out lives. I believe we are meant to meet people for a reason. Perhaps to learn something they have to offer us. Friends are often helpers or teachers and we don't even realize it sometimes. They are in our lives for a reason.

Opal, I feel so blessed when people come into my life like that. :) My best friendships / relationships are the ones in which I have not been the first to go across to be friends. :) In fact, I didnt notice they were around till something happened and I realized how important they'd become to me.:) Enjoy them while they last. Remember those who are rich and famous are not the best of friends, it is just a fleeting friendship from them. :) They dont intend to be bad. They just dont have time for everybody because everybody wants to be their friend. Look around, and you'd find a good one. :) You too are a very good friend material, that is why I am not leaving you.

in my line of work, i meet up with almost a dozen new contacts a week. and sometimes there are more than that.. the work ones are called 'potential sales'. i call the meaningful ones 'friends'.. and i call the less meaningful ones 'probationary friends', and then there are the meaningless ones who are just 'acquaintances'.. everybody else is a stranger and the meaningful ones get to share my rollies!

Hi Opal 26! People play different roles in life, so that's perfectly OK for some people to be very close to you, and for others to be mere acquaintances. There are billions of other around the world who are not your friends, anyway. What's important is that you choose your friends wisely, and you are sure that you can really count on those whom you consider as your friends. Equally important is that you also extend genuine friendship to those who deserve it.

Hi Sweetie They say People come into your Life for reason, some stay, some leave in different ways I used to wonder yes but not any more and yes some mean more to me then others One of my closest and dearest Friends that was in my Life for 5 years passed away on March 1st just like that I could not understand why she was taken so sudden, but I am so grateful that she had been in my Life and I will never forget her

Yes! But when you look back there is a reason it seems...there is a saying that states that friends are in your life for different reasons....different seasons...and now I understand it. I recently reconnected with an old friend from Elementary school....she has a college degree..and has also written a book....(I have three)..well I met up with her.....and it was just like yesterday....we swapped books....I had gotten to the point where I wasn't promoting mine much....and after hooking up with her I am back where I need to be....

Normally I do not stop to think about it until a reason has come up.. like if I was inspired to make a change for the better because a friend did or something like that. Then I sit back and think "Well that's why I met you.. so you could help me make this change".

Well Leslie, there is no doubt about why you are here making so many friends.You were one of my first friends here. You and Shelly. Do you remember little Shelly? I sure hope she is ok. But you my friend has always been here and from the looks of all the responses has made many friends along the way. I can't seem to spend much active time here like you but Mylot has changed my life. And it's because of friends like you that I will always be here. I don't wonder why, I just thank God for all the friends He sends my way. You have been one of the best. Love Ya, Leenie

Opal if I have already answered this I'm sorry but there are so many responses I just couldn't look at all of them. This is a really great discussion and my answer is yes, especially if I feel the new friend needs something from me. I always try to listen very hard to what they are saying to get clues as to what is needed. If I am the one in need I always try to say a little prayer of thanks for sending the right person at the right time.

Hey Opal!! yeah it does happen to me too dear...some fiends who just appeared shortly and meant so much to me while some who have been there in my life since such a long time back, yet, we don't have a strong connection to them! It is sadly to feel this way..but this is the reality of the overall idea! I don't know how or why it came this way! probably coz of the distance in between as the friends in our class or working place might be closer than others because we do see them everyday and talk a lot unlike other friends who we only meet up with either online if we are too busy to hang out or stuff like that or hang up with once in a while!