Flirting

I definitely agree with what you have to say here. I am a girl who does message one of guy friends near the morning time just to say good morning. We have had plenty of time alone and not even once did anything escalate from or even stir up from us hanging out, especially alone. He is married and I am getting married and both of our sgnificant others have talked to each other and they even came up with it being ok, we just have a good friendship (a better one with our significant others) but just because society has an issue with a boy/girl talking that are both married does not mean we should have one.

The thing is for me i know its not flirting at least for my own perspective because i just knew this girl for quite sometime and for some reason she just got my number from a common friend and now shes txting me every morning or at least twice a day to ask if im ok or if everything is fine. In return i dont see anything wrong in replying saying everything is fine and saying thank you and good morning to her too. For me its just an answer to an honest greeting , at least thats what i think. But my girlfriend says if a girl keeps on txting like that and even though for me its nothing that girl is flirting with you ( at least thats why girlfriends version of the story) thats why i posted this topic to know in a guys perspective and with other girls perspective if its flirting indeed or not. Thanks for the reply and have a great day guys

I don't see how it is relevent to your relationship if the other person is flirting with you because that is them thats trying to whoo you to them and well if they are then thats them. She should only care if she thinks your flirting back and it sounds like from you post that you aren't so that means the other girl maybe flirting but really flirting really is like argueing it takes two to really do it. If you do when it is only going one way it really is just that person talking to a wall because the other person is not going to respond to your flirting unless you are interesting. I think you should invite this person to meet you girlfriend and go to the movies or something and have an interaction as I think this will cause the other girl if she is flirting to back off and your girlfriend will do the same. As far as caring if you are texting this person because then she will know that you two are just friend. MAKE SURE YOU DON"T INTERACT WITH THE OTHER PERSON TO MUCH AS THEN YOUR GIRLFRIEND COULD SEE SOMETHING IN TO IT!! Involve your girlfriend in the conversation and always stay close to her. I would sugest not even hugging this girl because that could even be seen as a sign that you two are really close.

Hello shenlynn! Shes just a new friend of mine as well, but the thing is if shes really flirting with me does that mean if i answer her message to me then im flirting with her too? I mean i just want to be nice and not to be snob to her by not answering. I have alot of friends in life too i mean some of them are txting me some are not.But i dont believe someone who just said something like good morning or how are you doing is automatically flirting with me, maybe in my girl's point of view she is but honestly i believe shes just being friendly and thats just bout it. Do you believe that if you love someone then you need to fully trust him or her? Now if he or she breaks this trust then its her or his problem already. But so long as the trust is there i think we should also let our partner have their piece of privacy for soe private matters as well. Thanks for the reply and have a good day ahead of you

Its her 6th day of txting me ,but its just a morning greeting nothing more nothing less and i just reply out of courtesy like i dont want to be rude by not answering her txt at all like even a simple good morning to you too.I belive if someone made the effort of trying to txt us any greeting at all if you dont have bad blood with that person i believe its better if we reply somehow of anything good like good morning to you too.It wont hurt to recognized the kindness. I just wish my girl will be more open minded when it comes to this thing. Hey thanks for the reply my friend happy mylotting!

Got your point my friend but the thing is if i answer back to this girl's message just because i dont want to be mean that she txted me and yet i wont answer at least does that mean im flirting with her too. Well if you honestly ask me i have no plans of ever flirting with other girls other than my girlfriend, its just that im just trying to be a lil bit nice to this particular girl who is txting me and is asking me hows my day or saying good morning . I just think its harmless for me to say that my day is fine and that hope her day will be fine too. But thats just bout it no more no less, its more like a simple greeting of a friend to a friend as well.I just wish my girlfriend will realize that she already have all of me and that hopefully she can at least give me some of me to share with my friends too. Hey thanks alot for commenting and givin me a good point of view as well

Whoah! im glad that you at least understand my point of view my friend, i mean i dont want to be mean with the girl thats why im trying to txt her back sayin good morning too, my girl thinks unconciously im flirting with her too lol. The thing is when someone greets you i think its customary to at least great these people back too unless they are your enemies and you dont go well with each other lol .I know when theres something more within the greeting.But in this case i dont see no harm its just that im having a hard time trying to explain to my girl that she have nothin to be worried about and that im not even thinking of cheating on her , sometimes its really so hard to make other girls believe their man.I just wish my girlfriend trust me more than how she trust me now. Thanks for commenting and have a great day

How i wish my girlfriend thinks the way you are as well. I mean shes really not into it lol she thinks if i reply to someone who just txted me hello or good morning that means im flirting with her. And i also think we need to talk bout this issue, because its more than just the flirting issue i believe just as you said its more of trust issue, we should learn how to trust each other and pay attention to the kind of stuff that we do. And we should also give some privacy to our partners no matter how much we love them. Its more like a basic right for each other. Thanks again for responding

trust has always been an issue in relationships... probably she knows the girl and had been jealous with her... i dont really know... sometimes, i would also greet random people in my phonebook.. if they reply then good.. we can start a conversation... if not then fine... i have unlimited load anyway... lol and if somebody would send me greetings i would reply back if i have load... i wont care... if my boyfriend do that, i wont mind.. unless if its pretty obvious that they are flirting then i would kick his *ss... lol

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Although she is txting me everyday its just a morning greeting of good morning or hows your day txt nothing more nothing less. And i just thought it will be rude for me if i wont answer back because she wasted her time trying to txt me and since i just do much all i can do is to reply and tell her good morning too. But inside me thats not flirting with her i just want to give back the goodness that she just shown me by greeting me good morning.I just wish my girl will soon be able to understand that my heart is with her already and that if other girls are txting i just appreciate the txt and answer back to be polite but not to the point of flirting with them. Have a great day and thank you for commenting my friend

Thank you for your advice i think thats the best thing to do here , i mean to talk to my girl bout this seriously, i mean i admit if someone else is txting her too then i might be asking the same question of who is this guy too, but if she will tell me that hes just a friend or an acquaintance then i might just say ok, for even if shes my girlfriend i still believe that we still have our own privacy, we can talk to whoever it is that we want to talk for as long as we know our role to be loyal to the ones that we are having a relationship with. I trust my girlfriend if she tells me that hes just a friend then i will say fine txt him, because i trust her that much, i just wish she will trust me that much too that no matter whoever txted me everyday for as long as she knows that i will just be for her no matter what then she needs not to be alarmed at all. And about the question with my avatar yes it is me my friend. Thanks for the time replying and have a great day ahead of you

Me too in my perspective she just wants us to be good friends nothing more noting less its just that my girl is just being paranoid bout stuff like this. I told her that if she really trust and love me then she should let me be with these kinds of stuff because i will never break that trust that she have for me and i love her so. Its just that im starting to be annoyed when she still insist that im flirting as well with this other girl, she even told me unconciously im flirting as well lol . I understand shes just trying to be cautious but dont you think if you truly love someone then you should at least learn to trust this person some more?I dont know if this is different from a girl's point of view but i believe you and me do have the same idea bout this dilemma of mine lol . Thanks for your time my friend and happy mylotting!

Thats the thing, i just think that because shes just a new friend of mine thats why she just want to be comfy with me or just want to be a lil bit closer as good friends,i repear as good friends nothing more. I keep on telling my girl that she needs not to be worried at all because i have no plans of pursuing this girl too because i love my girlfriend so much that i wont even dare look at other girls with malicious intent.Its just that the reason why i posted this topic is i want to know the rationale why my girlfriend keeps on insisting that the girl is flirting with me and that if i message her back then in effect im flirting with her too.. Theres just so much more bout the world of girls that i need to understand lol . Thanks for the comment and have a great day

Yeah i totally agree with you its just one way of being friendly with someone you just got to know as a friend.Honestly im hoping that theres not even a conversation bout this because im pretty much certain that theres nothing to be worried bout . I know it in my heart that im not flirting with this person its just that my girl keeps on telling me that i am . And that everytime i answer back then in effect im flirting as well.But in reality i just want to be friendly to the gesture that was given to me.One more thing i believe if you really love someone you should really trust them with all your heart. Now if this person breaks your trust then its their fault already. Hey thanks for commenting and have a great day ahead of you !

But the problem is theres nothing naughty in the content and after the greeting part and i answered back with good morning to you too then theres nothing more. Its as if its just a reminder txt. After one exchange of message then its over nothing more nothing less. I just want to make my girl see that no matter how many times this girl txt me and as long as im true to my girl and my love for her is real then theres nothing to worry bout these kinds of people that are just trying to be friendly to me. Its just sometimes girls can be really hard to explain bout these certain issues. I still believe that even if we are having a relationship somehow im still entitled for my right to privacy, especially if im not doing anything fishy or anything wrong at all. Thanks for the comment and happy mylotting!