Have you or someone you know have been abuse?

I was verbaly abused when I was growing up by my father. he also did that to my brothers,sister and mom. He did because it was his lame excuse to deal with stress and not blame things on himself he did wrong! Still try to over come that! I know a few woman who are verbaly abused by their husbands. I know one wife could stand up to her husband but why she doesn't is anyone's guess! The other wife doesn't know any better and will not open her eyes to the situation! It is a sad situation!

Hi Cherish, Really sorry to hear that, I understand how it feels like being in that situation. Before my parents seperated (just seperation, not divorce) , my dad used to be a heavy drinker. When he was already drunk, he would come home, and we all could hear him shouting my mum's name from far away. Then when we got in, he would start shouting all kind of words, bad things to my mum, talking about his children, his work and so on....he also will starts breaking stuff like the door, window, glasses or even plates. Then not enough with that, he will uncover my mum from her blanket, dragged her out of the bed, and start hitting her all over her body and her legs. I actually can't talk about this until today. But I'm happy if somebody will listens. Everytime my dad was like that, my siblings and I never stop crying and shouting :No!" to him when he hit my mum. We also have to run away from home every night when he was like that, and we have to sleep on the grass or wherever we can hide ourselves. Even worst when my mum also have a little baby. Just so things get clearer to you, this is not marriage based on love, this was an arrange marriaged. So I don't have to continue the story since it was going like that until my elder brother became 20's and I was about to. A lot of people tried to advised my dad but he would never listen. so we ended up by having no choice but surrender him to the police. we gave him 23 years of freedom abusing his family considering he was our father. Now it's been 6 years since the time I saw him...I'm now 25, and I still dunno how I feel about him. He did a lot of bad thing to me too that almost killed me...I'm still in a process of forgiving him Cheers, have a nice day

been there and it took me a number of yrs to get up the crouage to do something about my now ex. even my son said to the ex''s parents his father was nasty to us, and they sorta turned a blind eye to it. they didn't seem to understand there's a lot of other things that have happened that i've not mentioned yet. best thing you can do is leave them if possible, have as little to do with them.

I am truly sorry to hear about your situation. I think you should seek for legal help on that. Or you can probably seek advice from a trusted friend or relative. I know of a colleague who was a battered girlfriend but she already took the courage to finally break up with his abusive boyfriend and she is in a much better situation now.

Abused? Not really. But I know a good friend of mine who was 'touched' by her uncle when she was young. That kind of trauma really got to her. Eventhough she seemed like a really outgoing girl and you wouldn't notice that she had a bad childhood the first time looking at her. I started noticing something after knowing her for a while, she would shun when guys touch her. Even me, who have known her for years could not even so as to tap her shoulders without her freaking out. That kinda scar really stays with you throughout your adult life.

My family is harmonious and although my parents have quarreled very much when I was young,but they never abused my brother and me.You are an adult cherish,so you should learn to protect yourself and try to get rid of these people you don't like.Apparently your dad stands on the other side,so you can have a work,leave your home and live by yourself.If you cannot bear any more,just choose to leave. Have a nice day Cherish!Good luck!