Do you like to judge a person on the basis of the first observation?

China
June 12, 2010 3:20am CST
No, I'm not. Firstly,you maybe have heard the proverbs which is "from heart to face".You could get the basic impression from the first meeting by obeserving the person's behavior. However, I think the first impression is not accurate to judge a person,you know ,the environment is so diverse now,which could influnce a person more.So many people have multiple faces in fact,for example,maybe in this situation of facing the leader,he or she act a meek person,however,when he or she dealing with some troubles,he or she could be a efficient and creative person who can find some new ways to solve it. Therefor, I could not judge a person by the first impression.
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15 responses
• India
12 Jun 10
I never judge a person on a first impression. But it differs typically. We can easily judge some persons from their impressions they make in public or in a group or in an interview... For example we can judge a person like whether he is cool or reserved or talkative or boring..... I have experimented from some persons.... Just my thoughts,,,.. Cheers, Have a nice day.....
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• Mexico
12 Jun 10
Hi phillip shiny: Yes, you're right, even if we try not to judge ourselves by these first impressions, I think it's quite difficult to stop guiding yourself by the first impression after you hear or watch something about a person that makes you qualify him/ her into an stereotype. However, if we want to know a person, it's better to talk to this person directly and don't follow only our fears. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
@bryanwmc (1051)
• Malaysia
13 Jun 10
If a book has a tattered cover,doesnt mean its a bad read,could be that too many readers have handled it so opposite.Cant really judge by the cover.I like to engage a new acquaintance in conversation b4 forming an opinion of the person,Its surprising how much you can sense of a person in a half hour exchange of thoughts and opinions. Whether they are self absorbed arrogant,or have a nice demeanour and soft spoken patient or rude brash and obnoxious,in love with their voice saying a lot but full of Sht..a lot can be sensed just talking
@bryanwmc (1051)
• Malaysia
13 Jun 10
ooops sorry about the double posting, anyway since i am here may as well add on a bit..At the same token ,there are slick smooth talkers who are fantastic actors totally able to dupe a person into believing what they are not,,so sometimes i try to notice the body language that accompanies the expressions.and form an opinion but i usually keep it to myself,i may be wrong or not.
@yuna15 (2706)
• Philippines
13 Jun 10
First observations are normal. It doesn't mean you are judging the person it's more of an impression rather than judgement. That's why it's just called an "impression." It's the only way for a person to "gauge" somebody on their first meeting. If you're impression of a person (on the first meeting, of course) is not good it doesn't mean you have to be rude just simply be yourself. If you think a person is nice, it doesn't mean you can say anything you want to them.
@bryanwmc (1051)
• Malaysia
13 Jun 10
If a book has tattered cover,doesnt mean it is a bad read,opposite,its because too many readers have handled the book therefore it may be a good book. as it is said cant judge by the cover.i like to engage the person in a conversation,you will be surprised how much you can sense of a person when they start to talk,whether they are self absorbed arrogant or a gentle nice demeanour or downright rude and selfish or kind heart by nature,a bit can be revealed just talking to a person and exchanging ideas for about half hour or so.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
12 Jun 10
Good day to you Lanyoublue2008, No is my answer to your main question. I dont judge the person on the basis of the first observation. Though, as they say, "First impression last". For me, everybody has the right to have a second chance. Aside from that, looks and faces of the people are somehow deceiving, the reason why we should not rely on the first impression. Maybe we can look or dig it further if we like to judge a person. Nevertheless, none of us has the right to judge others. Since we are different to one another.
• India
12 Jun 10
I never judge a guy on the basis of the first impression. But evrybody say First impression is the last impression but i dont agree with that. In my opinion everybody should give enough time to everyone to understand.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
12 Jun 10
I think people should not judge people based on looks alone. I know a couple of shady looking people who are the nicest people you would ever want to meet. I used to be judged because people thought I was stuck up because of how I look, but once they actually talked to me many of them would say how nice I really was. This always bothered me because I know there were people who didn't talk to me and never took the time to know me because they thought that I thought that I was too good for anyone which could not be further from the truth. I think when you judge people by how they look you are possibly missing out on meeting a really special and wonderful person.
@abhaijith (2963)
• India
12 Jun 10
What you said is very correct and i absolutely agree with you friend. Today the the condition is so worst and the people may have multiple faces. So its difficult to judge a person with the first sight or First impression. And you are right In the character development of a person ,the environments have the major influence.So in My opinion it would take months or may be years of relation to judge a Person,nowadays. Good Topic. Good Day.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
12 Jun 10
A lot of times we judge people on our first impressions of them. For the most part , what we see is what we get. There are exceptions to the rule. First impressions are not lasting ones. We need to look past that first appearance. Sometimes people don't put that true self out there at the first meeting. Judging people at first glance may not give you the true picture of this person at all.
• Philippines
12 Jun 10
Most people judge another by first impression. I'm not saying you're one of them but i'm also not saying you're not one of them. I'm merely not judging you with your remarks. The thing is, when people say they are one thing, it often means one thing only and if the logic doesn't really approve that then i don't believe it. I'm not saying you're lying but i'm also not saying you're not lying.
• Mexico
12 Jun 10
Hi lan you blue: I tend not to judge persons based on the first impression because I think I could make a big mistake if I make these decitions based on the appereance and what it semms to be. On the oposite, I always try to look for the best part of the persons. I won't tell you this is easy to do but I think it makes you feel good with rest of the world because I don't like to hate or divide people, I prefer to love. Thanks for asking us this question. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
@catalyser (531)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 10
Yes. Yes I do. I always do this. But the first impression does not stick though. Although I judge a person through assumptions and educated guesses.
@cip116 (1011)
• Romania
12 Jun 10
Yes,I do my impression about a person in exactly three sentences. That help me to know how to talk further. Never reject a person and I speak very well But I do not ever go on the second discussion if that person has nothing in common with me(first to be cheerful and polite
• Philippines
12 Jun 10
no i'm not either! i dont believe in that.. sometimes the person u met the first time is not the same person u will met the second time.. why? maybe the first time u met that person he/she is tired or having some personal problems that is why he/she did not cope with u that time but the second time you met he/she is in good mood cos he/she is problem free and in happy moments so you two got a nice time knowing each other.. smile!
• India
12 Jun 10
Yeah , I do it sometimes , but I only imagine positive things .I know that it is always wrong but you know my mind does not listen to me and it judges the person automatically . !