To Forgive or Not To Forgive?

If your partner is cheating on you and especially with the same person over and over then it isn't really love. It is one-sided love and that is never a good thing. I would break up with the person and move on. It does hurt but over time the hurt passes. It is possible to love again. You should never shut yourself down from loving someone.

i dont forgive and i never forget, if i find the person that i really love with all my heart cheating on me, i dont know how i could react but i dont think i could EVER forgive it, even if i feel like dying i know it is better being alone than in bad company.

In the first place why would they cheat if they love you. If they have any problems then they should tell you about it, that means they are trying to fix things out. But if they resort to cheating well I don't think they are concern at all, they only make excuses to validate what they are doing. I can forgive once but never forget but twice that's a little no way... I am young and I can still find others who are really faithful and serious. Dump them if they cheated you several times because they are beginning to think oh she will forgive me..."She had forgiven several times before I'll cheat one last time...." Doing it the second time is kinda "off" for me...

not to forgive and leave them instantly on the sight of you..... and have a joyful life....

hi necrosoo, this is painful i told you.. but this heartache is part of love and to be loved we must take the chance as the saying goes....it is better to love and be hurt than nothing at all..loving a person is just loving your own self and if this makes you sick get out of the situation this is what will i do my friend.. i will forgive and FORGET all about him ..BEING human mistakes are part of life but if the same mistake and with the same person i can say GOODBYE! and welcome to my new world!

If it will ever happen to me, my heart will be broken and I will be sad for a long time if it was the first time it happened. Things will return back to normal when the other person apologizes, but if it is the second time, I would move on. This person does not deserve any attention from anybody. I would not remain single though as this would sadden me more. It is hard to think that the last person you were with is cheating on you. The easiest thing to do is move on with life. You cannot change what has already happened to you. And also as some advice to you, remaining single will never help you anywhere in life. To me, children are going to be a big part of my life. I would love to see someone that I care for grow up.

This situation is really a difficult one. When we love someone so much, or if we are in a relationship, I guess each one of us never wants to be cheated in anyway. If our partner does, it can deprived us of exercising our good judgement, our decision making, and our ability to reason or weigh things out because we are nothing but broken. I have experienced this before with my boyfriend for 6 years. I have seen him and the girl together. I tell you, it was excruciating, it's so hard to breathe and it's hard to believe that it happened (like I keep on pretending that it's not happening). I allow myself to grieve, I don't go out, I cry whenever I feel like crying, but I have closed all the possibilities that we will be back together. If he did it once, he can do it over and over again. So why mend things? So there I decided to move on for good. 2 or maybe 3 months, I am okay. I have reached the state of forgiving my ex boyfriend for what he's done. But I didn't forget. For me, it is not really true that once you forgive the person, you forget everything that happened. I guess what changes is your emotions towards the person and towards what he's done. You can't forget. The thing is, when you remember him and the things that happened, you're not hurt anymore. Like I can already say "Hello" to him when we cross path and turn back without any thoughts of before. Emotions are cycles, you just have to let it be, and you'll be okay.

Everyone deserves a second chance. Matters of the heart can tear us apart. We want to forgive but the bond of trust is broken. To forgive is divine they say. Follow what is in your heart. Forgiveness will come if you allow it. It is a choice we will have to live with for a long time. Don't let bitterness step in the way of the truth.

hi, i will forgive because if i don't forgive that person GOD wont forgive me another reason is that the person whom we love we want their happiness right so if that person is happy with sum1 else then its all f9 with me i ll feel terrible cuz that person didn't took me in trust n told me about the matter...

I think i would not go behind mad love and still have a relationship with her because she has cheated me that means she just acting to be in a relationship and i really get pissed off if someone would cheat on me i would leave her at that moment.

forgive is a great thing but. in your case. Its too hard as in too hard.

If it happened to me, I will break up with him and move on. Trust is very important in a relationship. If I can't trust him our relationship will not work. In time I will forgive him but I will never forget what he did.

The answer was never found :) Well but i guess opinions do count. Well, simply as god always says, forgive :)

The situation is simple, express how you feel to the cheated fellow of yours that u love so well amicably, then go back home to do the home work, call your partner one on one, express how you feel and ask your partner to put him/her in your own shoes, let him/her realise the dangers in such act. If after your conversation with him/her yield result then forgive him/her, but if not still forgive to release yourself of the tension and to avoid heart attack, still go back to him/her later whem in good mood.

I always forgive but never forget. There are no excuses acceptable when it comes to cheating. That's my rule. I don't know about the others, but for me it's just outrageous to be cheated on. Because I never cheat on my partner if I truly love him. Anyway , I've had that feeling -- I thought I could never fall in love again because of how bad it felt to be heartbroken. But I did. not immediately but I did. The moving-on letting-go process wasn't easy and it lasted for years. I was depressed, but I wasn't totally miserable. of Course I still had a life to live. I'm glad I had friends who cared and supported me. Anyway, I still believe it's possible to forgive and forget, but it's an unlikely shot. But the easiest way is just to forget. About everything. Good and bad. I wonder what the others here have to say...

Cheating is horrible, I understand forgiving someone ONCE for this offense but if they do it again with the same person?? there is definitely something going on and I would never be able to trust them, and without trust you just can not be in a happy relationship!