im having trouble finding a relationship

I think you should settle your personal problems first before thinking of finding a relationship.Some women do not want to be in a stressful relationship.No matter how much you would try not to make your personal problems interfere with your relationship,i think somehow it could still be affected.Don't be in a hurry.You would know it when you meet the right person for you.

Love yourself first. when you vibrate that you are happy, you will attract others to love you

you know what, im exactly in the same situation you are in right now; sometimes i too got scared that if i would be with another person i might not give them the best that i could coz there are still many problems in my life now...and yes i agree with you that after all those bad relationships we now have this doubt of jumping on to the next one. its a scary leap..but really i realized that if i let all these things control me, they will actually rule my life..and i really do believe that if the right person would come along, no matter how hard the situation in my life is...im still gonna give us a chance..coz i know its gonna be worth it. beep me up if you feel the same. happy mylotting

Relationship your be relaxing and having fun, but often it is not, because of mismatch , incomparability and many issues that tear the relationship cause more headache than good. Personally my advice is go slow, hang out with good friends and enjoy friendship, let attractions flow natural,be friends first and let see how.Being picky is not bad actually just like choosing vegetable and fruits in a basket, your don like to choose a rotten apple right with a wriggling worn inside.Choose a mate that is your are relax with and bad behaviour your can tolerate and accept is a must.Take your time.And enjoy your youth.

being picky's not that bad but you just basically need to get started. when you already have a good number in your social circle then you can choose the people you really want to do things with. in your case, don't put all your investments in one basket. you have needs, you say...go to different people who could help you out, maybe one for one issue and another one for a different one. it's gonna be tiring but give it a try. be a friend to them as well.

Being picky is OK. I'm a very picky person too when it comes about choosing friends or going into relationship. And everything has been fine so far. I now in a relationship for 5 years with a very understanding man and also all my bestfriends are very kind, good listener, and understanding.. and they all come from a different situation of lives. I was just like you years ago, I was very stressed, and I didn't know what to do. I needed friends but I wouldn't talk about what was going on with me. I thought everything was wrong, and whenever I actually got someone good to talk to, I found myself being not ready. So I decided to spend a little time being alone for a while, then I pursued it by going to an expedition with people from different countries....which was challenging! And I found out that at least quarter to half of the participants were just like me. Some of them had a family problem, some just broke-up with their bf/gf and so on...so it made me realised that a lot of people looking for the same thing at the same time, it just depends on how they want to find it. The most important thing as well is, do take your time and do not rush...then things should be OK ^ _ ^

I got confused when you said that you're facing a lot of stress and many problems with your life right now and working on fixing it, then you said "but I can't do it alone." Hmm... Why can't you? I think it's a bad call when you want someone in your life to help you with your troubles. It's just like when you come over a friend not because you miss the person but because you need something from him or her. I think people you see feel that. They feel that you're looking for someone because you need something out of the relationship and not because it's just time for it. Perhaps solving your own issues first before jumping to another relationship would help you feel that having relationships is not a 'rush' thing. It's something as a bonus to life - having someone to share your life with. Rather than a solution to a problem.

Being picky isn't so bad. I must say that I was really picky before the right one came along and we married. Sometimes it takes going through the bad ones before you finally get to the one that you know is the one and that will make you happy. Patience is just the key and before you know it you will find that perfect person who is right for you.

it's just normal that you feel at first that you don't fit in, it's just like the same feeling of you on your first day of school with new classmates, sure you don know your friends for quite some time but it's only the feeling because your gone for quite some time, let time pass by and you'll find that group where you can fit in, maybe try fixing your feelings for your friends rather than a more than friendship relationship...

Being picky isnt that bad but dont be to picky. you can find someoneyour really close to and talk to them about whats goin on and see if they can help. dont worry about finding someone right away to be in a relationshipwith you. be patient when the time is right your going to find that special someone thats the right match for you. hope this helps.