"Ego" plays a big role in spoiling a good relationship

Sorry to say, MEN. Women don't really have such a problem. And i see Vannie already gave her opinion. TATA.

Yup! :) Somethings are hard to discuss or disclose at the right age. And we expect others to trust us blindly. When they dont, it is just Goodbye Mr. Chips!

Vijayanths! The dictionary gives two definitions for the word'ego' ,one beng 'self-esteem' and the other as 'self-conceit'.So when one's self esteem becomes too bloated this 'ego'[as you ahev referred to] steps in.THis is normal for every human being. WHy are you bringing 'men' and 'women' here ?As such the world is abounding in 'women libbers' nowadays and immediately women would pounce on you saying that men have inflated egos. We have to accept one fact- majority of Indian households follow the patriarchal system where the man is naturally assigned a superior role and we women do not object to it because it is the way of our life.Our generation women had a healthy attitude towards this also.We too do have egos. But we won't keep proclaiming this and would follow broad norms without questioning too much .As a result there is harmony in the household. The financial independence of women leading to intolerance and a warped sense of values are the reasons for the breakup of marriages. It is the woman's ego that protests agaisnt the system.It is the man's ego that rebels against their protest. Both of them are equal in this ego of theirs.Earlier women had kept it subdued. Now they are changing because they feel they can live without a man as they have the wherewithals and also the courage and mindset to lead a life alone.If one is to assert one's ego too much then the 'survival of the fittest 'concept comes in and there is a conflict .The marriage breaks.

Men have far bigger egos than women do, but I disagree that your ego is a reason for breaking people up. I think that because a man has a big ego and women do not that they even each other out. What causes breakups is lies, deception, cheating, trust issues, financial problems, and differences of opinion. Your ego has nothing to do with that.

hi there yes, i believe that ego can get in the way of a relationship. i think this is just related to one's pride. personally, i think people have become more egoistic these past years. one is to secure his ego even if costs a nice relationship. once one's ego is hurt, that is already a start argument. when it comes to whose ego is bigger, if men or women, i say it's men. when a man gets bruised, he would take that up to his grave. compared to a woman who is naturally emotional (which can quite make a guy crazy), women would set aside their ego because for her what is more important is controlling and fixing the relationship.

Hi vijayanths, Ego is don't have difference Man or Woman, it is existing in both. But Ego is always controlled by our mind individually. Innumerable persons in this world lost their identity because of EGO inherited in them. Ego kills a person. Ego depresses the mind. A person who has ego suffer to the largest extent. It is ego that spoils the peace of mind. We are living in the world of ego. You can identify a person with ego by the way he talks. Ego is self centeredness. The letter I is associated with EGO. People desire to boast of themselves by stating like I Can only do this the other can't do anything. If we leave the words like ME, I and MINE, then that marriage will be a happy marriage life. People should know that no body is supreme. Each one is a dot in this life. Both wife and husband should be like a cart, if any mistakes happens the cart will go in a wrong direction.

Men are always if not often the more egoistic gender than women. The women tend to adjust with what the men wants even when they are not at fault. Women on the other hand do more of the talking and nagging, but they can be easily pampered or in other words skin deep.

The obvious answer is men but I think it is a tie. There are just as many females who are full of themselves as men. I don't think a person has to swallow their pride to remain in a relationship. As long as the couple can communicate there is a chance they can stay together.

According to me, definitely man. Of course humans are all the same, but mental thinking differs, and i think men are a bit more egoistic than women. Women are a more considerate, I guess.

mostly men...but this i am talking about India and Indian culture...rest looking at the whole world...it may differ from person to person...and it depends on the nature of an individual...yes...its of course responsible for breaking of a relationship...once the egos strike and no one among the 2 is trying to understand...then it surely leads to separation...

I agree that Ego plays a big part in destroying even a solid relationship, well about bigger ego, it really depends on culture, maybe it also differs when it comes to personality. Some might can have a ego huge as the sun, others have tiny as a speck of dust.

Yes its true.Basically male has got ego problem u know the MCP types specially when their better half earns more then them or rather holds a good position.

I'm not saying that women have bigger egos just because I'm a man but because I've mostly met women of that type. Also I think that men are the gender willing to kump over their ego and don't let it get in the way of a relationship. It's in our nature I think.

i think it depends of the personality. but i think that men have a bigger ego than women. women usually forgive faster than men. also women are more emotional men always like to play strong and cold like they dont care and women are more open to say how they really feel and men turn their back easier than women when there are arguements in relations and women usually want to solve things faster than them^^ they are not much of the kind to say ohh sorry forgive me. just those sweet guys that are hard to find^^

You want to know who has the bigger ego? Look at all the women here boasting that they have smaller egos than men. I rest my case! all the best urban

Being a woman I would have to say it's depends on the man or woman, But I think Man have the biggest ego most of the timne, cd

Men have their ego boosted for so long years. Only now,women are finding out what they can do with their ego as they are capable of earning their bread. Divorces were not often heard in the past decades and only now it is easily possible and I think that is due to the woman's ego.

It varies. Either one can end up having a massive ego. Just depends on the people involved.

I don't know what to say.. I think both have equal....but sometimes....men a little more.. a better understanding could avoid such ego clashes... thanks for starting the discussion.. have a great day/night.......

Ego usually in my opinion is the main factor why a relationship breaks up. I often think to myself if people in relationships could remember the reason why they were together in the beginning all the issues in life would seem unimportant. I mean, how could something so right and so beautiful suddenly go so wrong? I believe Men an Women equally can have the biggest ego. We are conditioned to believe that men are stronger ones, therefore, they should not bag down and let feelings interfere. So not the current century. There are sensitive men and much as sensitive women. I raised a beautiful son; by myself, I taught him he needs to be strong, head of household, yet also feel. Feel that when things are not right they are not right. So if he need to appear sensitive, so be it. Life is not about what his neighbor and or friends think of him. Is is of he himself thinks of himself and how he lives his life. So my answer depends on the direct relationship in question. Because I know a woman or too who have bigger cahoot's than some men. LOL