Is it possible to fall in love through Facebook or other online social networks?
@invisiblelady (1655)
Philippines
June 13, 2010 10:33am CST
Call me a weird person - but it has always been my dream to marry a white guy - an American man for that matter. I know I am so different from my friends but it doesn't stop me from dreaming to fall in love with an American someday.
Then, I've met this guy through Facebook. We exchanged messages and chat when we get online at the same time. I have enjoyed chatting with him. When we chat, it seems impossible to stop until one of us needs to go. I can say that we get along very well. I'm even surprised that we have some plans for ourselves in the future that connects. I don't know if it's a sign. When we chat, we always get on the topic of "marriage". He says he will marry me and help me go along with my dreams. I don't know if he's serious. And I secretly wish that it is true. The problem is he's been busy these days and he don't get online that often. We still exchange brief messages and he is always telling me that he is looking for some easy way for me to go to US.
I have been thinking about him always and have been missing chatting with him. And now, I've been wanting to see him so bad. I can't help it. I don't even want him to do anything for me and I am not asking anything from him - but I know that I'm willing to accept his marriage proposal if it is true. I don't think if there's such thing as falling with someone you have never met. And I'm afraid to let him know what I feel and that he might not feel the same way :(
4 responses
@yoyo2323 (465)
• China
13 Jun 10
it is not totally impossible but it is hard.. and then after a long time you will find that it was just a dream.for me I have chat with many people. I have been through the same period as you.. so girl be clear about your situation and also dont live in fantasy although it is so good! personal opionion
@invisiblelady (1655)
• Philippines
14 Jun 10
Yeah, I can really feel the hardness it's bringing me. It's totally different. I wish we've met in any other way rather than meeting in facebook. I've never been in-love. Believe me, I've never felt this way to any man before. So, it's like I've wanted it so bad but it seems impossible. It's all soooo good to be true. But you're right, I must not live in fantasy....
@yoyo2323 (465)
• China
15 Jun 10
by the way, I think you should make it clear what's in your mind. dont take it as love. I don't think you can easily love someone just by chatting. you should have deeper communication and understanding to really love someone. when girls in your age, they usually confused love between like. and bcz you have chatted for a long time and you depend on that. you think you can not live without him. it is totally illusion. maybe when you stop talking tohim, you feel you lose something, but after some time, you ganna see it is all fine. just dont focus too much on that and convince yourself you love him. the more you think you love him, the more you like him. this is usually the parttern how it works. all is about your thoughts. becareful. unless both of you guys take action: he come to see you or you go to see him. then spend some time together, you can really know the feeling. but it is always good to have a close friend online that you can share all. cherish it and but not indulge into that false feeling. hehe seek love in real life. hehe this is better dear!
@invisiblelady (1655)
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
I know, right? Just because I've known him and it felt like he's all that I'm looking for - it's like I met him the wrong way. But who knows? Maybe I was just inlove with the idea that he is the kind of man that I was wanting to spend the rest of my life with. But.... It's not that easy. Thanks so much for the advice. I appreciate it!!!
@invisiblelady (1655)
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
It really is very hard... I don't even know if I can make it. Or what will happen... I'm completely clueless!!!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
15 Jun 10
Though my experience wasn't with facebook and it didn't involve a relationship that would be considered to be a long distance relationship, I do think that it is possible to fall in love through social networking. I met my husband through the internet eight and a half years ago. I knew from the first time that we talked that he was going to be the man that I would eventually get married to. We were married two and a half years after we met and to date we've lived happily ever after.
@invisiblelady (1655)
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
Aww! I'm glad your relationship worked out just fine. I'm so happy for you. However, it must have been hard right? I just feel it. And I don't think I could pass the test yet. So I salute you for having yours successful!!!
@kenneth101383 (908)
• Philippines
13 Jun 10
For so many years now, penpal was a good medium of communication especially couples who are dating and are on the other sides of the world. It can make years and years to grow that communication and still having an intimate relationship. It consumes a lot of time, so when the emergence of facebook and other social networking sites, life could be easier to meet somebody and to fall in love with. I think that the period of time knowing each other will be lessen.
