What if your lover keep a distance from you?
By velentina
@velentina (891)
Mauritius
June 14, 2010 12:53pm CST
What can you do if your lover neglect you and keep a distance from you? i just want some tips to know why this may happen and what can be done to solve this problem. What may be the causes for distances.
8 responses
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
15 Jun 10
I love my partner with all my heart. But I have been distancing myself from him lately. I don't mean too and I had to think hard about why. I believe things are just moving so fast in my relationship that in order to protect myself, I pulled back a little. I don't want to rush things and I fear losing my partner. He really does mean the world to me and I'm trying not to be distant. We had a talk about it recently so he knows that I still love him and that he hasn't done anything wrong.
To answer you question, there can be many reasons for distance, but there's almost always a reason. Sometimes you just get used to someone and start taking them for granted. Other times something is wrong. Someone is scared or hurt or confused. The best thing to do is talk with your partner about it. Get to the root of the problem and hopefully you can work it out. If not... well at least you tried!
@saihai (128)
• India
16 Jun 10
I am fully agree with you . Sometime we do need to create some distance from our partner just to give a thought how things going between us ... Not necessary it means that you are going to get yourself out from the relationship. I have been a relationship with my partner for a while and the chemistry between us is absolutely fantastic.. If we have some problem regarding something we always try to solve that out together...But we give our partner some space as well to think independently...
Thanks for the reply ....Have nice time out there...:)
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
17 Jun 10
Yes sometimes we just need a little space. But it always helps to eventually bring up and talk about what is causing that distance. Just to make sure it's not a big problem. My partner and I have been distant the past few days and we sat down today to talk about it. Turns out the both of us are just stressed out about work and money right now and it has nothing to do with our relationship. We're still very much in love. I'm sure you and your partner will be fine :)
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
3 Aug 10
Well communication is best way to find solutions to any problems, speak to him and understand.
@husnaintahir007 (102)
• Pakistan
15 Jun 10
this is a really difficult question
for me if my lover keeps distance from me i cannot do anything except missing my lover or i will try to make my lover happy so that my lover may remove distance from me........
@swn_chik (266)
• India
26 Jul 10
If I was in your place, I would confront him and know the reason for myself.I think may be he doesn't like some stuffs that you do and tries to avoid you and keep the distance or may be he just need some space....
@saihai (128)
• India
14 Jun 10
Actually Its hard to believe that your partner keep a distance from you without a reason ..!!!When 2 people are in love they always try to come closer ...This is the general instinct of the human nature ....First of all you have to find out the reason ...why is she/he wants to stay away ?....Is there something drastic happened between two of you ? You might have said something that could hurt him/her ...may be he/she needs some space just to give a thought how things going on between 2 of you ....There might be some other reason as well ....
I think when you see this thing happening ....You need to talk with your partner ....Try to figure out the reason what actually went wrong ....If you have done something or said something that might hurt him/her ....dont hesitate to apologize....Say sorry and promise him/her that it wont happen again ....
I think this is enough to rejuvenate your relation once again ....:)
Happy living .....:):) :)
