Loneliness
By natnickeep
@natnickeep (2336)
United States
June 14, 2010 1:31pm CST
I encounter many people online just looking for others to socialize. Some looking for friends, some desperate for love. Many people saying how lonely they are. I think when we are alone it should be a time of reflection. A time to improve ones self for when people do come into your life.
Sometimes we are lonely because of fear of rejection, sometimes we are just to busy. There are so many reasons. But the truth is when you seek something out so desperately it usually doesn't happen. Somethings we just have to wait, watch, listen, and hope for. Like love.
Here are some quotes I love..for those who are lonely here is something to ponder.
Happiness is like a butterfly....the more you chase it the more it will elude you. But if you turn your attention to other things it will come sit softly upon your shoulder.
(I believe this goes for love too)
At the inner most core of loneliness is a deep and powerful yearning for union with ones lost self.
Brendan Francis
To transform the emptiness of loneliness into the fullness of loneliness. Ah, that is the secret to life.
Sunita Khosla
Better to be alone then in bad company.
Thomas Fuller
My point here as many have said before. Loneliness is what you make it just like anything else. Use it as a time to get to know you. Find yourself. Be creative. Anything is possible when you are in your own little world. Use the time to make a better you. Think, ponder, dream and create. Then once you are happy with yourself love will find you. You will be like a glowing star that love will want to follow. Don't be bored...don't be boring..find you and love you.
14 responses
@maezee (41988)
• United States
15 Jun 10
I love this post; thank you. I find myself being lonely (I have been romantically challenged, AKA, single for about a year+ now. At times it gets depressing). I try to reach out to my family and friends to fill the void; and I don't go around looking like I'm desperately looking for "the one". I agree 100% when you say that when you're desperately trying to find something, it never happens - I'm convinced that it's the same thing with love. I just do what I do; go to work, go to school, see my friends, and I hope, but not desperately seek out, that someone will come along who will just blow my mind. Someday (hopefully sooner than later, but that's not really in my control). Thanks for the cute quotes.
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@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
15 Jun 10
That's the best mind set to have. Do you and love will find you on it's own and love you for the you that you found. Sorry lots of yous in there but I think i made my point lol. I wish you luck that your hopes come true sooner than later. I love quotes..the really can change the way you look at things..and help you keep your head up in times when it's heavy as a house.
@meirhu (363)
• Israel
15 Jun 10
It is a puzzle to me that so many people are lonely (even when they are in a relationship). I think that EVERYONE wants someone with which to have a loving relationship. And if that's so it's really a puzzle that almost everyone DOESN'T have one.
I think that the main thing that hinders forming relationships is the idea of ownership. That when you do have even the beginning of a relationship then you feel that you OWN each other and are not allowed additional relationships.
I think that if people DID allow additional relationships for themselves and for their loved ones there would be a lot LESS loneliness.
Once you do have a number of relationships the key is to continue with those that you enjoy for the most part and stop the ones that you don't enjoy for the most part.
Maybe one of them will become strong enough to want to be exclusively with hir (him and her). And maybe that will never happen. At least you WILL have those who are willing to be with you and to love you.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
15 Jun 10
While it all seems like a good idea to be with everyone until you find the one you want. It seems humans have way to many emotions for that to be possible or reasonable. One of the big ones being jealousy. I think being with someone physically really jars the emotions you have for them. Being with multiple partners makes it all confusing as to how you really feel. And almost impossible to spot the one for you when you are busy with multiple relationships. But I guess everyone has their own ideas to cure loneliness. But truth is the best idea is to realize you always have yourself.
@meirhu (363)
• Israel
16 Jun 10
Ah yes. Jealousy.
One of the bad emotions. Like fear, anger, wanting to be violent, etc.
Of course we all feel it. BUT we CAN work on ourselves to control it or even to erase it. The main reason for jealousy is the possesiveness as if your love BELONGS to you.
Not impossible at all to spot your favorite when you have multiple relationships. It happens quiet naturally.
@Honeybuttz (256)
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
To overcome loneliness, one has to find love in the right person. That person is the Lord Jesus Christ. Sadly people has confined Him in the 4 corners of the church. Or many remember HIM, when they have problems. Jesus loves us and He is the only one who can truly remove our loneliness. I understand this is difficult to do because non of us has seen HIM face to face. But He said, blessed are those who has not seen and yet believed. He is close to the Broken Hearted.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
15 Jun 10
Thanks for your comment. : ) everyone finds comfort in their own way.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
15 Jun 10
There aare so many lonely people in the world. Some do not even realize it. The levels of loneliness are complex as well. Fear and depression feed on our weaknesses and loneliness tops the list. The bonds of relationship nurture and strengthen us. Loneliness is something we all face and struggle against.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
15 Jun 10
Yes that is true. It's a hard thing to overcome. But staying strong, taking the time to rebuild yourself and think about past and future relationships.
@Susanayako1988 (350)
• China
15 Jun 10
Wow, i like your words. They are very poetic.I agree with what you said. I think it is true that people will feel lonely or boring when they are afraid of facing themselves. Truthly facing oneself will helps one to understand what s/he really wants. And at that time loneliness will disappear automatically.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
15 Jun 10
Yep that's kind of the idea. It may not disappear automatically though. Everything takes time. And after finding yourself then you can find others.
@luisadannointed (6329)
• Philippines
14 Jun 10
Seek God's presence and you will never get lonely nor feel alone. Everyday of your life will be a fulfilled journey when you are with Him. God bless you!
Happiness is a choice same with Loneliness.
Being with God is a choice but it is offered to everybody no exceptional...that's how God loves us. So when the world forget about us we should not be lonely but still happy because there is a God who will never fade and fail to love us. And trough him we can find who we are even the secrets of our whole being. God bless you.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
14 Jun 10
Everyone I guess has their own ways to over come and deal with loneliness. More power to you for finding hope no matter what.
@luisadannointed (6329)
• Philippines
14 Jun 10
Thanks. there's no hope you could find like the hope we could find in Christ. God bless...hope you too...
@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
15 Jun 10
You have made some very good points here. I would add that if we focus on our loneliness, then that is all that we have. If I was lonely, I would go out and find someone to help or to lift up instead of just looking for someone to give to me.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
15 Jun 10
Sometimes that lift is just being with other people and sometimes it can be helping other people. You have some good points too : )
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
14 Jun 10
That is a good one from you natnickeep. You have said that if we were to be alone we could discover ourselves and be self confident and self loving. Other things will follow automatically.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
15 Jun 10
Yep that is definitely the point I was trying to get across. We have to know us to know others. And love us to love others.
@WindWhisked (147)
• United States
15 Jun 10
I love that Thomas Fuller quote because I wholeheartedly believed it, having seen my uncle and aunt divorce, my grandpa father illegitimate children, and my parents fight over the most inconsequential things just for the sake of argument. It wasn't until I met my wonderful fiance that I believed I could be part of a couple. :) I guess I have him to thank for restoring my faith in mankind ^_^ Hehe. Great topic, I think it's the most well-crafted one I've seen in the last 24 hours (I think it's been 10 months since I was here before today though!)
@Susanayako1988 (350)
• China
15 Jun 10
So happy to hear that you have found your Mr.Right.You are so lucky. Wish you and your fiance a happy life.
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
14 Jun 10
I had my shares with loneliness. The time when I found out the one special person I love does not love me. It hurts and I mean a lot that even now when I tend to remember everything we had, it cuts me deep. It made me feel so small like I`m a nobody but I started realizing that he`s not the only guy in this world. It`s just maybe I`m not the one he`s really looking for. I`m starting to accept all of this bits by bits. Though its hard but its the only way I`ll get pass this loneliness.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
15 Jun 10
You aren't alone though really. You have your thoughts and dreams and great ideas. This is just a moment to reflect. A moment to prepare for the future..for what might be ahead. Just seek out to learn something new everyday. Don't be afraid to talk to people and be heard. Don't feel bad for being lonely, more grow from it.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
For me it instinct we can feel about of but when you call to Jehovah God in your prayers he can cure you and back to your normal life to be happy and energetic.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
15 Jun 10
Wow sounds like magic..that's all you have to do to feel better?
@Tangeryne (412)
• India
14 Jun 10
Hey Natnickeep, I like being alone. Sometimes I prefer loneliness to having people around. I'm very comfy being by myself. Guess I've lived alone and been by myself for long so I've gotten used to it and quite like it. Many a times, I've come across people who can't be alone for a few minutes even. They need someone to be around them, someone to talk to them. They tell me that they can't figure out how I can be alone most times. Sometimes it does get a bit too much and then you feel the need for some company. Other times I get irritated with so many people around, hate crowded places and like to retreat into a quiet corner, definitely need my personal space. Most times I've never bored when I'm alone! It gives me time to ponder things, relax, do whatever I want whenever I want without any one telling me what to do.It feels great :-) Guess I am very individualistic. But at the same time I crave for a partner. I'm single right now and so wanna be in a relationship. Other than that I love being alone :-)
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
15 Jun 10
I think more people need to be like you guys and be able to find joy and peace in their alone time. Knowing they wont be alone forever and trying to refresh themselves. Come out of the dark with new perspectives and new ideas.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
14 Jun 10
Time for being alone even without specific reason is very important to me. I do have lots of good friend, but I don't talk to them most of the time...and they all finally come to understand me, so they just let me be. But at the same time, I try to look after my communication with friends, family, and love one. I try to not make problem and always be cautious with what I say..because when it really comes about "being lonely and have no one", I know it's serious.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
14 Jun 10
Yes I am glad to not be lonely. But I have felt that way at sometimes. Kids make you really enjoy your alone time for all it is. If you reflect on your life when alone and get in some good thinking it can only make you grow. I just feel bad for all the people I encounter that have such sadness over being alone. They feel like they will always be this way. And as I said before and will say again, nothing lasts forever, even loneliness.
