One of the things that annoy me is when a person

Hi JugsandJugs, These people annoy me too, I may not always be liked for saying what I feel but I am at least respected for telling the truth. In fact one of my close friends will ring me when she needs an honest answer rather than just to be told what she wants to hear. An example of advice I gave her once was harsh but worked 'you always come to me crying on a Tuesday because you are feeling down about something, what actually is happening here is that you party all weekend probably still only half sober on Monday so Tuesday it hits, so you are then over tired and irritable. Enough of the Tuesday blues yeah cos I am sick of listening to them' Didn't like what I said at the time but knew what I had said was about right and did curb her partying and balanced her pendulum a bit better. I love her to bits so had to tell her straight which is why she loves me too lol. I know the people I can share things with confidentially and the ones I can't now so lessens the chance of stirring. huggles. Ellie :D

Me too, and I live with someone like that.. If it was a friend, then that friendship is short lived, but since it's family that does that to me, at this time I am stuck..

Yes, I think we all tend to know people like this. I think that they just want an easy life and just want agreement from everybody, so will tell lies in order to have the agreement and respect for other. However, the problem with this is that they can become caught out and lose respect of others. I guess sometimes it is easier to agree in the short term, but it's not something that is advisable to do all the time. _Derek

In our family, we love to discuss...this is how we call it but people on the outside would think we're arguing lol. We love to agree to disagree on just about anything. Ive seen those people who agree even if you know very well they dont agree. I think they want to keep the peace. Some are afraid of arguing, not wanting to stir things up.

On of the things that annoys me is when a person acts as if he knows everything when in fact he doesn't. I just hate proud people, their words cause ringing to my ears, it is just so irritating. I also get annoyed with lazy people, who still has to be told what to do.

lol...I attended a lecture one time about toxic people in our lives. I know exactly what you mean. These people never learn that honesty is always the best policy and there is nothing left that you can do but distance yourself from them. It gets hard when they are members of your family but the bottom line is that you need to protect yourself. I have found that I don't have to be judgmental of them if I just focus on how they are affecting me rather than what they are doing wrong. My ex husband was like what you describe and I had to divorce him just to survive. It's hard for me because I have one sister who is very toxic to me and if I'm not careful, she will get all offended. Not that she is dishonest, she just sees things her own way and is convinced that she is always in the right. It's hard because when we have family reunions, I get my stomach tied in knots and can't really enjoy them because of her attitude. It's not an easy thing to deal with.

I think you forgot there statement of "I don't want to be in the middle of this!" Gosh we were just talking about someone like this today!!! They are 'blind' to what someone has told them and won't even listen to anyone elses side, we are all wrong!!!! Also, this is usually family so not a situation of 'lost friend' they are always there. I will say that this is a family member that we don't encourage with news about anything. When it is a friend you can make the decision of if you want to keep the friendship and accept the 'annoyance' or if it is a friendship that you just want to slowly move away from. Best of luck to you.

those are the type to be avoided, like the PLAGUE!!!

yeah me too..we should always correct our friends if they are doing something wrong..we should not tolerate them..we should be the one leading them to righteousness..

"I didn't know" is alive and well. Our cattle mentality is so sad at times; and our wills can be very weak but that does not excuse us from doing bad things. Going along with the flow, even when we know it is not the right thing to do is not very smart; and claiming ignorance of wrong-doing of which we are a party to is certainly no excuse. My biggest concern regarding this behavior is the poor example we set for our children, that is one of my biggest pet peeves.

Hi, jugsjugs. I don't like people that are this way either. When my sister cursed my husband out, my grandmother blamed me for her actions. She fussed at me, like I was the one that did wrong. My aunt knew who did what. She knew that my sister was to blame, she just did not say anything. I don't like when people are like this. They know who EXACTLY is to be blamed, but they put it on other people. My grandmother knew that my sister was the one that did wrong, she just chose to blame me for it. I thought that it was very wrong.

if it does'nt include me it's none of my business,i prefer to let people squabble between themselves and me keep out of it,that way i `can't be blamed for the whole SHE SAID THIS,SHE SAID THAT thing,i know a lot of people that stir and purposely lie,coz they find it amusing,i thought it was childish that's why we aren't friends anymore

I agree it can be very annoying. You know how someone feels about something and they are saying the exact opposite to go along with someone else. I can see trying to be noncommital in order not to start an argument. If they are saying the exact opposite of what they feel it is tantamount to lying and that means the friendship should be over!

One of the things that annoys me is when a person ask for a favor not just one time, not just two times, but several times that they can't still be able to do it on their own. I am a very helpful person but I don't want to teach others to be abusive.

Because they are friends that is why they like to decide in one. I know people like this, like they don't have their own brains. Like because they are doing everything together and they are always together and they are so close, when one decide this is wrong, the two or three will get along. They don't share their opinions. there is one person that stand to be their leader. Me, when I know it is right and quite unfair, I do state my mind, i do not get along. My decision will be useless. And its not that when my friends and me are together, it is not that we have to be always the same like in uniform.

quite a few of my friends and even a couple of my kids are like that. you will tell them and tell them not to go along with something or someone then they pretend like no one warned them ahead of time. so when you feel like telling them i told you so, they will say its not their fault, they didnt know not sure. hope i got your meaning right?

hell i thought i was the only one who knows people like this lol.. yeah we have that now going on. people who treat others so bad and they are so wrong but everyone else just follow them and say nothing and then the ones who think they are god. but as soon someone get upset at them, then you heard why are you upset at me? i did nothing wrong its all them not me.. you just want to reach over and slap the crap out of them and tell them to shut up..

i also dont like that person. I also dont like a person who always ask a question repeatedly that's the person that annoys me

I do not like people who ask my advice,if I say something not like them,they say"I will not say anything to you" It is a kind of cowardice. If someone begins a conversation with serious problems,must accept that I can not cry about the situation,must solutions ,not tears. There is another category of people who add in a story about someone ...many lies. I hate these people

i hate people like that..i was in that kind of a group..they are so nice to me whenever i am with them but everytime i am not around they say bad things about me..its very unfair.