Right age for being mother?
By praveena80
@praveena80 (30)
Singapore
June 14, 2010 8:27pm CST
Hi friends ,I am in my late 20's.Can you What tellwhat is the appropriate age to be mother?Can i wait for 2 more yrs.
9 responses
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
15 Jun 10
I don't believe there is a "right" age for motherhood. It is an individual thing. If you feel you are not ready, then don't...wait until you feel it's the right time. If you are married, it is a decision you should both make, but it's your body, and you have to do what you feel is right.
@praveena80 (30)
• Singapore
15 Jun 10
Thanq.I am married.I like to have healthy baby which is important for me .What can we give to our childeren valuable assest than healthy body.
@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
15 Jun 10
I personally don't think there is a specific age for being a mother. I know girls in their early 20s who are better mothers than women close to their 30s. My mom waited until her 30s before she had me. You should wait until you feel prepared for a child, whether that is in your early 20s or mid 40s (and I have known women who had children in their 40s). It's all about when you feel ready. Good luck with your decision.
@praveena80 (30)
• Singapore
15 Jun 10
Thanq for ur response .I have seen on net that before 30or 35 age it will be better.
Thanq for ur advice.
@Iamgood (38)
• Canada
15 Jun 10
There really is no "right age" for being a mother. You can be a mother any age you want, but the younger you are, the easier it will be in raising the children up. In the 1900s, people had children at an age of 20. Its all about preference. I would prefer to have it younger though as it would not be as hard raising a child when you are younger and more active.
@praveena80 (30)
• Singapore
15 Jun 10
Thanq for ur adveice i too feel the same.So,that we can give them proper time.
@Iamgood (38)
• Canada
15 Jun 10
In your late 20s, having a child is an okay time at this age, but remember, back in the 1950s people got married and had children at the age of 19-20. The older you get, the harder it is to raise a child, especially is you want multiple children. Of course, you should always decide when to have a child. Some people have children at the age of 40. Its just by preference of when you want to have it. I just prefer having children younger as we can have more and it is easier to take care of them. Good luck!
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
15 Jun 10
The older you get, the harder it is to raise a child, especially is you want multiple children
I disagree with that...If the passion, desire and mental, emotional and financial stability is there to raise children then its not hard at all...
@pastigger (612)
• United States
7 Jul 10
I was 29 when I had my daughter. She is three now. I am glad that we waited. I was married at 19 and we took time to just enjoy being married and didn't rush in to haveing children. I also have PCOS which is a hormore imbalance. So I had to get a little help from the doctor to have her. It took over two years to get pregnant and then she was 11 weeks early. She is totally fine and even a little too smart for our own good. I know that there are studies that say it is harder on your body after 30. I can tell you from my experance that I am glad that we waited. I don't think I could have handled a preeemie in my early 20s. When you feel it is the right time to have a child then you start trying, but don't let that become your whole life. We had tried to have a child in our early 20s and that is when I found out about the PCOS which at the time caused some other issuses as well and we decided to wait a while longer. I guess what I am saying is wait until you think your ready and then don't be shocked if you panic a little when it does happy it is a big life changer but so worth it.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
15 Jun 10
As long as you are an adult then I personally think age really isnt a factor...What is however is your desire and whether or not you are finacially, mentally and emotionally prepared to become a parent. I had my first when I was 23, my second at almost 25 and my youngest at 29..I'm goin to be 40 ths yr and would love to have more kids...age isnt important really..
I would say that waiting though, would be your best interest since you asked if you COULD wait. That says that you arent ready just yet and thats fine..
@kharlav (1669)
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
I believe the right age for being a mother depends on the country you are in, depends on your norms and culture. But physically, the right age for a woman to get pregnant is age 21, because at this time her uterus is already mature, ready to carry a child. And the age which a woman should prevent from getting pregnant is over 35 y.o because at this time she will be at risk of pregnancy complications.