Why invite so many?

India
June 14, 2010 9:06pm CST
Last night I went to a wedding feast with my wife. It was wedding of my son’s friend’s sister. As my son and his wife are out of station, I attended this in the evening. The invitation card said, ‘Reception feast from 8pm onwards’, we reached at 9.40pm, to our utter surprise, the food was said to be exhausted. Cooking was in progress again for the guests. We gave an envelope containing 501 rupee to the bride as gift. Came home and ate our usual food. My wife had apprehended this and before we go had cooked food for us. I know this man is showy, he had invited many guests but food was prepared for fewer people. This type of situation is common in my place. Have you ever faced such situation, what you do, wait there to eat or leave to eat at home or in a hotel? Do you give any gift to the couple? Please share your views, thanks in advance. Professor
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11 responses
dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
17 Jun 10
Well, when my husband and I got married in 2004, we invited all of our friends and family because that is my family's tradition. That said, we had enough food at our reception for far more people than we had show up at our wedding. Also, whenever I attend the wedding of a friend or family member, I also give them a gift of some sort. Typically I will buy them something, but if I don't have the opportunity to shop for them then I will give them a gift of money to start their new lives together.
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Professor2010
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
18 Jun 10
We too prepare food for more persons than invited,, Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
buchi_bulla
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
16 Jun 10
I have not faced this sort of problem but certain items got over. Hence I ate whatever was there, gifted the newly weds and came back.
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Professor2010
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
17 Jun 10
That is the only alternative Buchiji Thanks for sharing your views. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
xfallenxlostx
@xfallenxlostx (2074)
• United States
16 Jun 10
I have actually never encountered this situation, fortunately. I think it's pretty horrible to invite a certain number of guests, but have food prepared for only a fraction of them. It's pretty rude, in fact. I usually eat prior to events, though, because I am vegetarian and many people where I live don't take that into consideration when planning their events. If I had already eaten, I would stay and show suppot. If they had said there would be vegetarian food and then there was nothing, I would be pretty upset! I would probably stay for a very short time to congratulate the couple and wish them well, leave them their gift, and then leave. I think you handled the situation gracefully.
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Professor2010
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
16 Jun 10
In feasts the nonveg and veg items get mixed up, this is not good.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
WindWhisked
@WindWhisked (147)
• United States
15 Jun 10
This is a great post because I am planning a big wedding for the near future and I'm hoping that everyone has a good time. I wish that you had gotten to eat and I'm certain that if I were invited to a wedding I would be sad if I didn't get my meal. Kudos to you for being a good guest but shame on your hosts for inviting more people than they were prepared for. Have a wonderful day and thanks for the good topic!
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Professor2010
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
16 Jun 10
Hey don't forget to invite me.. Thanks . Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
AjaySinghBaghel
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
15 Jun 10
Hmm, seems that they did not do proper planning, if they invited that many numbers should have arranged food for all. I naver faced such situaion because I have not bben to many marriages if this happens I will prefer to get somethign available at home or go to the resta.
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Professor2010
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
16 Jun 10
Thanks . Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
Jack0113
@Jack0113 (79)
• China
15 Jun 10
oh, it's a bad experience. in my country, people who was invited can have a good eat because the host will give guests lots lots of food that they can't finish them.
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Professor2010
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
16 Jun 10
Certainly good.. Thanks . Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
Patsie Hatley
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Jun 10
hi professor I have been there and done that. My hubby disgusted with this insisted we go out to eat so we ended up at our favorite pizza place.For somereason they just had not prepared enough food as I was and am a diabetic and going to long without food can lead to unpleasant low blood sugar.,we did eat out. And we really enjoyed it too as we were all alone my children were at my mom's so we had a sort of date for a change. we gave them a bathroom towel set for our wedding gift.
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Professor2010
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
16 Jun 10
We having diabetics, can't control hunger, i feel totally upset.. Thanks for sharing your experience. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jun 10
Large, showy weddings, yes, insufficient food, nope. Never ran into that. I would probably do the same as you, leave the gift and go get some food at home. lol But if I ran into that, I would consider it incredibly rude and be talking about it long afterward!
smiley83
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
15 Jun 10
yeah it is very much common here and we have to expect such things as well! In fact, mum usually cooks meal before heading the wedding feast to get satisfied and to not feel hungry in between
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Professor2010
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
16 Jun 10
Your mom is extra careful dear.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
marguicha
@marguicha (223776)
• Chile
15 Jun 10
In my country it is used to give a marriage present. Only people from the immediate family will give money, though. The rest will give presents. But now there are (at all big stores) marriage´s lists. You go there and buy your present. Then, after the wedding, the couple can change the gifts for something they really need. As for food, I think that weddings usually have enough food for everyone. The parents (or the couple) usually rent a place that includes the food. They will not let more people than the ones that are paid for. If you do it at home is different but still you will have enough (and more than enough) food for everyone. This happens even with poor people.
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Professor2010
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
16 Jun 10
Thanks for sharing your views and things at your place. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
Saranggola
@Saranggola (956)
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
I don't know why I should invite so many. But if that was me, I would have invited only those who are really close to me. Not only is it practical but also it will give me the privacy I needed.
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Professor2010
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
16 Jun 10
Thanks for sharing your opinion. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor