Have you had success rebuilding a friendship that was broken?
By ninalinda78
@ninalinda78 (1)
United States
June 15, 2010 9:47pm CST
What are the chances that a friendship can be rebuilt stronger and deeper than before it was broken? Have you ever had a friendship and then be rebuilt better than before?
My best friend all of a sudden stopped all communication with me 4 years ago (we had been best friends for 10 years at that point). She stopped answering/ returning my calls & emails and I was heart broken because I didn't know what I had done. So about 2 years ago, she reached me via instant chat and went into detail about why she cut it off. It turned out that it was a misunderstanding on her part and miscommunication on mine. She apologized and I did too. We having been corresponding through emails back and forth sporadically (every few months or so) until the beginning of this year. In March we started chatting on facebook and finally, last week, after 4 years she called me. We talked for over 2 hours and it felt like we just picked up right where we left off. I am growing excited about this but I also know that many times people's attempt to rebuild broken friendships don't work. Do you think that we have a chance to rebuild it stronger and deeper than before?
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11 responses
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
3 Jan 11
Hi ninalinda,
Well i never had broken friendship, but yes we do have great fights and will stay few hours without talking, but later a sorry , a smile will end the fight between us. And true after these fights, we feel the friendship grow stronger and deeper!
Happy Mylotting 
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
13 Jan 11
yes my friend,
"a smile, a touch, a small word..." can re-build our relations.
But it is the toughest time to without leaving our loved one(i am really experienced in my life practically)
@ericpapasit (1274)
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
Well, be honest to your friend and be humble enough to accept your fault...
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
13 Jan 11
I don't remember rebuilding friendship, but there were misunderstandings that were solved in both friendship and marriage
most of the time I was the one misunderstood, because I am not talkative and I don't make it a big deal if someone doesn't like me, what I say or do
so if nobody comes to me asking for explanation, then they will never know who I really am and the reason why I say or do some things
this is why backstabbers find it easy to alienate me
but intelligent people will want to see the reason behind things and they will not let themselves believe in something without knowing it's true or not
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
13 Jan 11
"I can beg her,
I can request her,
i can call to her,
I can sms to her,
I can do fasting to her,
I can try to make her happy,
I will do my level best to re-build our relationship(friendship only)",
Because for me "problem is not at all important, my friend is important".
If i tell to my friend like this "i never talk with you", that means i can talk with them in the next minute/day.
I mean, i don't want to highlighting my emotions on my relations. I just angry on my works and words only (myself)...
@Debscrochet (1947)
• United States
16 Jun 10
I think in a case such as yours, yes it is possible. Just make sure there's no misunderstandings from now on.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
13 Jan 11
It is your greatness that till now there no misunderstanding comes into your life.
Misunderstanding is a slow poison to kill a good relation.
I always explore my feelings directly with my loved ones(family and friends), so i am feeling better.
@marie2052 (3691)
• United States
14 Jan 11
that is so awesome that you have regained your friendship!!! I have a childhood sweetheart and after going in and out of each others lives, we have managed to remain friends for over 40 years. Unfortunately life gets in the way and things happen that you dont get to contact each other for a bit. But my genuine love of his respect and friendship I have never stopped respecting, and I think like you when we do talk its like we just pick up where we left off even when its a bit in time. We are truly friends, I think God planned it that way. We thought we were supposed to get married when we were in high school but our lives each took a turn and instead he has been a true friend. Both my parents have passed and both his are still living so it is always fun to hear about him and his parents and that they are still doing well with him as he cares for them. Life is a mystery for sure But I would not trade his friendship for anything! thanks for the discussion you made me realize how friendships really do work.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
in your case, i think it's possible. you are both reaching out to each other and making an honest effort to pick up right where you left off. it probably really was just a misunderstanding what happened year ago. and she probably regrets all the lost time too, which is why she's contacting you now. i wish it would be like that with all my friends who i have lost contact with. you're lucky you both want to be reconnected again, it doesn't happen every time.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
27 Jun 10
yeah, me and one of my best friend had stopped talking due to rumors about me and his wife. we got into this big throw down fight. and didnt see or talked to each other for years.
and when his wife uncle passed away she called us, so we went to the veiwing but we missed him. but i did call him on the phone and we talked and then one night they show up at my house. and we just put things to rest
its not as tight like before with us, but its better
@avani26 (1518)
• India
27 Jun 10
Honestly speaking I have had just 2 friends and (touchwood) we have never had any misunderstandings between us. It is really good to know that the misunderstanding between the two of you has got resolved. Friendship is hard to find and that also true friendship so I would pray to GOD that there is no more problem between the two of you and your frienship is for a LIFETIME.
@fayas123 (229)
• Sri Lanka
27 Jun 10
I Alfred faced that type of problem. I start a discussion about that . I got good ideas to rebuild broken friendship. I know best friend stopping communication with us is a big pain. There is no word to describe it. I got my friendship, few days before that time I feel happy so much. So I think we all have chance to rebuild old friendship.
@frozenphoenix (530)
• India
27 Jun 10
i had though it was not my mistake i kept my ego aside and said sorry and we were friends again but it wont last long his manners broke that friendship again.
