how to make freinds?

@lady1993 (27224)
Philippines
June 16, 2010 7:24am CST
Hey everyone... I'm not really an open person, and I'm not that friendly; it's a bit hard for me to get close to anyone that's why back in high school I only had a few really close friends. And now I'm in college and all of my close friends are not with me...I don't really know anyone in my class..and I'm a bit scared to approach them- I don't really know why. Mom says that I should just keep smiling so people would like me- but that's a bit silly right..It's the 3rd day of school and I still don't have friends..what should I do?
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12 responses
@nuj_kmr (171)
• India
28 Jul 10
Be open mind and talk freely without hesitate and be friendly with our classmate.....and don't feel shy too much be confident .
• Philippines
18 Jun 10
Try to open up sometimes girl, throw your shyness sometimes because it is really hard going to school without friends. Approach the person who sits beside you first, ask something about your homework, class discussions and then believe in the power of conversation and where it leads you. I am an outgoing person and very approachable, having friends is not an issue with me, and most likely I want to approach someone who looks like a loner.
@iamfine (740)
• China
17 Jun 10
well you should have a lot normal friends, but close friends, several is enough. You know your own disavantage, you are not very friendly. so you have to change this. be nice to people. Be nice, doesn't mean that you have to smile silly, but be sincere. When people ask you for help, don't reject if it is not too hard, so that people think that ou are a friend who ready to help, they will feel gratitude. Also, be open.
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
well i'm a shy person too, specially when first meet, i am only quite and observ their actions and listened their voices..but it is very hard if you don't have a friend..now i learned how to be easily with them.. at first just say hi!, hello! and smile for them..when you get thier attention start introducing your self and ask their name too.. just relax and have fun to them..
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
17 Jun 10
hi lady1993! i can still remember when i was in my first day in school and college,the first thing in my mind is to make friends.from my self-observation people would not come to me and asked me to be their friend.i come to them instead and asked them to be my friend.i start it with simple hi!, smile and introduce myself to them.i will always doing it with someone who sit or stand next to me.sometimes the action just come spontaneously.i hope you will start make new friends as it is not hard as you thought and wish you all the best! good luck! :)
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
this is what i told my cousin who's also starting college, bring a bag of sweets with you then offer them to your classmates. that's what i did. generosity is always welcomed, pair it with a smile and you're classmates will draw near to you like ants to an abandoned sweet. also, throw in a 'how's it going?', it's a good way to start a conversation.
@o0jopak0o (6394)
• Philippines
16 Jun 10
well your just the same as me. Well i didnt even talk to anyone about personal stuff after weeks of my first day. Well you can reach out which didnt happen to me but group work or group stuff was my real start on befriending others. well im generally a loner but there are times that i reach out. just keep your hopes up!
@marguicha (222994)
• Chile
16 Jun 10
Dear lady, Getting friends is not something you do in one day. Friendship, as anything that means love, is a hardearned thing. Anywhere you go, whoever you are, there are some people you like by sight and some you don´t. Stay away from the second group: your body chemistry usually knows best. Visualise those from the first group. Look at them into their eyes. The first words (maybe for some time) don´t have to be more than asking for a piece of paper or a pen (with a smile, of course). They will start noticing you. After a while you can ask them if you could sit at their table at the cafeteria. Try to be unubtrusive at first, until they ask you to join them. Be nice but don´t push. From what you say, you don´t like to be pushed either. Take your time. And don´t be scared to be alone. There are some wonderful companions that can be used as conversation pieces: a book is wonderful. I´m starting to read "The kite runner" by Khaled Hosseini. check it. It´s moving. Take care, friend!
@juggerogre (1653)
• Philippines
16 Jun 10
You won't really make any friends with that attitude. You'll have to open up a little. Approach anyone. They won't bite you. Your already in college. One of the things that you will definitely need to learn is how to socialize with other people. You will need that when you graduated and your starting to look for a job. My tip is approach someone in your classroom that seems alone. Then just chat along. There's a good chance that you will end up friends unless of course he or she is really a loner in nature. Do this in all of your classes. Just build your self esteem first and soon you will realize you will find it easy to make friends. Good luck.
@faisale83 (198)
• India
16 Jun 10
i too person like you , But i'm too hard now i chsnged a lot after my collage period . Now i'm k a little bit , i have friends a lot that close to me , to become a friendship with me is long period , i'm care full of taking friends ,the person that tune to my frequency ,ya it's really close to me this relation is long lasting
• Philippines
16 Jun 10
try to approach people who are on the same page with you, I mean people who have more or less the same attitude, views and opinions as you are, then establish rapport. You will be surprised by the results.
@asep988 (92)
• Indonesia
17 Jun 10
Just keep trying to make a friends. Maybe you should be active, try to start a little conversation to your new friends..