17 and Married? How do you do it?

i used to believe that i could get married at young age. i was imagining a lot how sweet it could be, and how romantic it was gonna be. but now, reaching the age of 25, i'm actually glad that i only decided to get happily engaged with my fiance' when i was 24, and the fact that i have been with him for 5 years already. thinking about my imagination and my belief back, now i thought i was so idiot that time. now i'm a grown up and even though i'm getting a good salary each month, plus with food, transportation, house, water, electricity, internet, phone credit..and so on, so much more basic needs, it seems like my salary is not enough haha! oh, it would drive me totally insane if i happen to have a kid today. my saving is not enough yet :-(

O.O Wow...actually I am currently 17 and met a guy who wanted to marry me at one point. I was surprised because we only started dating, but he said he wanted to wait till I'm 18 and purpose to me. Shortly after we ended up with problems because he never gave me room to breathe, and broke up. Seeing that high school relationships don't always work out, it's likely a marriage in high school is a lot worse.

you just cant start a family at only 17 years its just wrong i think that was just crazi kid talk :P im 23 and i dont whant to get married only at 27 or 28 i dont feel prepered for that caind of responsabiliti at this age , and i dont think that douse ho get married at 17 understand the responsabiliti thei must have afther thei say yes :P

Some people at age 17 think of marriage because they are brought up to see it as being normal. However, it is an insane idea. At 17 the brain is still developing. And only after more than 4 years we totally mature up. Anyways, I can understand your frustration. But the magic will happen once you stop looking for love. Basically thats when Mr. Right really comes to our lives.

Royalty, it was indeed a good decision you didn't want to get married at 17 when you were still an adolescent, (you didn't mention how old are you now lol). You can see the vast difference between your two ages and yourself, have learnt things much better. But why do you say it is a sad fact that you lost your Mr.Right. He was not right, I tell you. Equal ages in love don't go for long. You would have ended up exactly the way you have mentioned. I believe you have a lot of things to achieve in life. Concentrate more on your further studies, jobs, hobbies etc. Slowly one day you will find your destined Mr.Right. Good Luck.

so sorry for it :( that guy seemed cute and really seemed to love you^^ but i think you did right thing not marrying him bcs you were not sure about it and we must marry just if we are sure of it so you did right thing. about you be meeting just mr wrongs dont worry thats how life is not everyone has the lucky to find the right guy so fast^^ anyway what happened to that guy that wanted to marry you? is he married now with someone? maybe destiny wants you with him again and maybe you meet again^^ destiny plays sometimes ahah^^

I never will marry. I see marriage as the woman yielding to be a mother of children. I never wanted children. the age has nothing to do with it. I decided I never wanted children when I was 7 and I never wanted to marry when I was 13! So if a guy said he wanted me to marry me, i would see him as a jailer , not a friend or lover. Now I know my Mr. Right doesn't want to marry me, just love me. and luckily he found me. Your Mr. Right is put there. Hint, he m,ay not look the way you picture him nor be the age you Think he should be! just go out and do what You like to do and look around at the guys that are doing the same thing. They are good candidates. At least you have something in common.Good Luck.

Mr. Right couldn't have been too right if you two aren't together anymore. There had to have been a good reason why you didn't stay together. Even if the reason was that you didn't want to marry him and he decided to end the relationship because he didn't want to wait. I don't know, because you didn't specify, who ended the relationship. But, if he did because of that, how much could he have truly loved you if he wasn't willing to wait until you both were comfortable with the timing? Congrats on being strong and confident! I think you made the right decision not to get married so young. At 17, you are still learning who you are. Even in your early to mid-twenties you are still learning about yourself and figuring out who you want to be. It is a rare occasion, even in the best of circumstances, that people who marry young stay together forever. Just look at how many divorces there are. Even people who waited until later in life can't stay together. Why make a divorce more likely by getting married too young? Be patient. Love and Mr. Right come along when you least expect it. Don't look for it. That is when it will happen. :)

Lol I think his desperate or something but yes that is really not a good age to start a family at all and make 3 kids.That is totally a big responsibility to start. Anyway,surely that will pass,he is just in the stage of confusion I think.

You have made the right decision but I don't agree that he(your boyfriend at 17) was Mr right maybe he was your soulmate because if he is Mr right then he would wait for you no matter what. Be patient the right guy will come in the right time

hi, Well,in our life ,we do have pros and cons.Theres always a balance in life.I think if you had married at 17 which are much too immature to have a family.Both of you may not able to find direction of life or own's dreams.And if have kids around,it just takes all your time and energy to care for them.In the end ,its a hard life because you can't pursue your studies or dreams. Now,perhaps you found your direction of life/dreams where you actually experiencing now which are great.Take life positively,maybe you meet one Mr Right just after reading my response.Life is full of surprises.

I understand what you're saying. And its true that your mind isn't fully developed and you have not experienced life. It is a lot of responsibility that comes with this large commitment. On the other side of this. I married me husband when I was 18 and he was 20. We just made our 5 years anniversary on the 10th. I think I'm just blessed to find someone that I connect so well with. Though we are still young we have grown through the years and are still just as close as the beginning. Coming from the home that I did, I told myself I would not let a man run my life, I am a strong smart woman who is capable of success. I am currently finishing my second degree and he just finished his time in the Navy. We have three beautiful children and still a lifetime left infront of us. Good luck to you and in finding Mr. Right. If it was meant to be Mr. Highschool love would come back in your life some how.

Life is funny like that, but believe me when I say you were so correct in waiting. I did marry at 16, to a man who was 10 yrs my elder. I was a wonderful wife and great mom. It was a very difficult marriage as although I knew I was not ready to be such a young wife I gave it my one hundred percent in the marriage. Unfortunately he did not. To sum a long story, the marriages dragged on for 15 years, my biggest fears came true. I was then a young single mother of two wonderful kids and no absolute assistance from the father. Now in my early 40's I look back and am so complete knowing that I did all I had to do as the wife and wonderful mother, however can't forget that I never found who I really was as a person. My children are both grown and on their own now and leaves me to wonder, do I really know who I am. Or did I ever get a chance to find out if I really ever knew who I was. My best advise to anyone young is, oh no do not marry to young as you will never get back the chance to discover your true wants and dislikes.

Well i think that 17 and married is a very complicated matter. I think it depends upto the couple who are going to do this. But generally i think in this age maximum youngsters are not able to understand the proper meaning of love, marriage, responsibility and family but if any couple has that much understanding then they can go for it if law permits them to do that. But in this age its better to know yourself properly and knoe your partner properly and give time to thiis relation also rather being get married.

When people were young they are pretty naive they think life is full of bed of roses. And when somebody loves you and promised you everything you can easily be persuaded and that is the wrong ideas that needs to be addressed. Young people should explore the vast world first before getting married at young age. When they marry too young they missed a lot of life. The directly plunge in to a roller coaster emotional ride. Financially and emotionally they are not prepared and much less how to raise another human being...are they prepared for it.

Sadly, there are many Mr Wrongs, and very few Mr. Rights. That's why I honestly suggest to people that if you find the right guy, then go for it, and don't look back. Because you may never find another Mr. Right. It's sort of like life in general. There are hundreds of bad choices you can make, but rarely many good choices. Similarly, just are not many good guys anymore, and often it's hard to tell if you meet a good guy, because we haven't been labeled properly. Last I checked my own tag, it only said "made in Pakistan". I think it's wrong though.