Im in between good and bad slump

I had hoped that girlfriend was out of the picture. U had not mentioned her in awhile. I hope this visit turns out better than the other one but i know u are not looking forward to her coming after the way it went before. Seems as if my life has been a roller coaster w/first one thing & another so i do sort of know what u mean altho i didn't have a visiting girlfriend. I don't think any of your friends on mylot will not understand u not being on here as much. I sure do. Wish u the best w/all of it.

Bonnie try to relax Girl I know it is not easy but try to go with the flow try to enjoy the Joy you have right now And yes I have been there to lol so you are not alone on this one

hi bunnybon7 oh yes years back when I told my dad I was in love and goint to marry my hubby to be, he went and dug up dirt on him that myhubby tobe had already told me about and I was okay with it.He had been in trouble asa teen ager, but he paid his dues, and grew up into a fine man. He was 37 and I was 31. So I was pulled two ways by an angry father whom had no right any longer to mess with my decisions and a man who loved me and wanted to build a life together, but when we just went a head and married, presented dad with the done deed he was his typical hateful self,he wrote me out of his will, after having tried to bribe my hubby to be with money if he would leave and not marry me. You know money is still just money and even at a lot of money, I wanted to marry and have a family withthe person I loved and I did. My dad finally did come down enough to help us when my hubby was ill and I was 9 months pregnant. But he never really for gave me for marrying what he called against his will. He never ever understood that he had no right at my age to try to stop our marriage

Yup, all the time, all the time. Life is like that...

Hi Bunny! While I've missed you, I certainly understand about the time spent on your budding romance. And he's coming in September??!!! I'm SOOOO happy for you!!! As far as the son's girlfriend...this isn't the same one who you didn't get along with, is it? Assuming it's not, have you had a chance to speak with her? Or, email her? Sometimes a little contact breaks the ice, so that the actually meeting isn't so stressful. How does your son feel about your man's visit? How long will he be staying? Look at the bright side. If your son gets along with the new GF, you may not see to much of either of them while she's there. They might be (ahem) busy. Same with you and yours in September?

Life itself is a roller-coaster. I wake up and I feel well a bit on the okay side, and it doesn't take much to bring me down. Online romance can be quite difficult, but from what I understand it can be great for some. I think that when you are in any form of relationship, whether it's online or offline, we have a tendency to neglect friends. It is not intentional at all; it is merely that we tend to devote most of our time to the new relationship and things sort of change between the friends. Don't be so hard on your self; it is easier said than done. I am a professional emotional roller coaster. There are times I get into a massive funk that I want to just shut the entire world down. Then in the next few days I want to talk and giggle with everyone. I especially have been in this type of funk for the last 6 months, and have found that in the last 3 weeks of being a myLot member I have had days where I do not even care to log in as there is absolutely no motivational drive. I am my worst critic and enemy. Take care and take it a bit easy on yourself.

In the past ten years, I've felt this way many many times that I've lost count. My life seems to be a roller coaster ride most of the time.....or else it's just a usual...every day kind of a life. Not sure if it's good or bad...or if I need help, but that's the way it is.

I can have those sort of mood swings but I think I would be a little bit crazy if I was in your shoes now. I really don't like the sound of this woman and her child. I think she is wrong for your son and definitely wrong for you. Why is she coming for so long? Where is she staying? I think it's very wrong if she is staying in your home...do you have any say in her visit? I can go from up to down and back again in a short space of time but not like you describe. Just know that we are here for you.

Hi, you said your son's girlfriend. so she will come alone and stay with you? and why does she have to stay with you? well, I dont understand this part. If you feel like she makes your feeling up and down and plus she is not married to your son yet, so there is no reason for her to stick with you like a Daddy yet. How long have your son dating her? if she has kid with him then that's different. in that case, then you have to deal with her for a while... just ignore on some reasons and things she does around you. but if they just dating recently then you can tell your son's girlfriend that you need your privacy, hope she understands that. Another question, so why your feeling is like roller coaster when she stay with you? u dont like her? well, then u need to tell the truth if u don't feel right for her to stay with you ... open up the conversation

I would join the Y or a club of some kind. Get yourself ready to meet your lover in September. Take up a pasttime or get busy with a full makeover. Something that will keep you busy during the time you aren't in communication with your lover. That way you won't have to be around your son's gf. Try to bring to a minimum the amount of time you have to be in her presence. The exercise will lift your mood and you won't be around her so much. And you will be all ready to meet your fella.

Hi bunnybon7, Why are you dreading this girlfriend of your son's visit? you have a free will and telln your son she will have to stay else where, its your home, you souldn 't have to feel like that, you have to think of yourself first and your happiness, she don't rule your life and she can't kill you, so don't fret, she she starts things, just tell her she has no right, don't be afraid to speak your mind, be strong. Take care. Hugs. Tamara

First off, you never have to apologize for bringing us down because we are your friends and one of the most important things that friends are for is to lend their shoulder for you to cry on. It is completely understandable that you are feeling down about your son's girlfriend coming to visit for two months because I remember all too well the conflict that you had in your home when she was there to visit before. Additionally the fact that your man is going to be coming to visit you in a few months is great as well because through the difficult time while she is visiting you are going to have something that you can anticipate.

It's like I say with my life which is in turmoil right now although the cavalry is around the corner (if I can only make it - and I will). So will you. Like the old Bobby McFarin song says, "Don't worry, be happy." Force yourself into a happy mood all of the time. People might think you're crazy-- but WHO CARES! Find your "happy place" and stay in it. Life is too short, so refuse to let anyone make your life miserable. Don't let anybody rain on your parade any more. Besides, when the girlfriend comes, you might drive her home early with your "unbearable" happiness. And she might not actually stay for two months, you never know. When the bad emotions come, fight them back. And lastly, no one knows what will happen, it may not turn out as bad as you'd thought. So yes, I go through nearly the same things but I fight because there is no other choice.

o mam it happens sometime so you must take it easy not on your heart so take rest not take tension well be happpy like me and not sad like me so that you can spend your life in a good manner by your sincere

Yes, I’ve been like that before and it used to wreck havoc on my mental condition. One moment life seems so worth living the next moment I would spoil it all by giving in to some unwelcome situation. However, I’ve conditioned myself to go with the flow…rather a numbing experience as I don’t really think or try to be proactive…I just accept the situation as it comes and if it becomes just too much, I remind myself that there’s always tomorrow and this day will not last forever. It gives a lot of solace to me.

Hey bun~ No problem girlfriend! I totally get the whole thing! You are worried about son's "new gf" which you already aren't thrilled with and from your description I think son should slow down and take another harder look too! And this new relationship thingy of yours, which I think you should also slow donwn a bit too (online relationshp-wait until you meet to see). Damn, bun, you've been married 4 times to my 0!lol But, anyway I do understand all the reason for all the feelings! If you want to talk in "private" you have my email addy! Hugs, Opal