Why some women would do that, once they don't want the man

United States
June 16, 2010 7:39pm CST
You might watch those movies, once those women dump their ex - boyfriends, they have another men who they think it is better than their ex. After they knew their ex - boyfriends have another woman in their life, and they were happy together, those women get jealous again. And they want their ex back out of jealousy I guess. Why would those women do something like that. They should know, once they let go, there might not be a chance that they would get it back.
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
21 Jun 10
It never happens in real life. When I was dating, and I dumped a guy, I knew there was little chance of another guy appearing in the wings. And when I did not want to date that particular man or boy, there was a good reason for it. I would not want him back. So I think these women in the movies have lost their marbles or else they dumped the guy for the wrong reasons. For me, finding out the guy was a petty criminal, was unkind to his mother, was lazy, hated God, and expected you to support him were good reasons. Oh yes and if he and I did not like some of the same movies or music he was out.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
21 Jun 10
It never happens in real life. When I was dating, and I dumped a guy, I knew there was little chance of another guy appearing in the wings. And when I did not want to date that particular man or boy, there was a good reason for it. I would not want him back. So I think these women in the movies have lost their marbles or else they dumped the guy for the wrong reasons. For me, finding out the guy was a petty criminal, was unkind to his mother, was lazy, hated God, and expected you to support him were good reasons. Oh yes and if he and I did not like some of the same movies or music he was out.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
I think it's not the woman who only do that...both gender do that. Sometimes humans feelings is hard to understand. They can be in love in particular time and give their all to that someone but when somebody new comes in they tend to lost that certain feelings for the one they have. Sometimes love is peculiar and odd...it lost it's meaning too easily. About the getting back the ex it's a bit ridiculous sometimes because it's like throwing a toy and when that particular toy is already in the hands of others, the last owner wanted it back. Maybe because feelings and emotions is a bit selfish when it comes to love.
@eurekafemme (5876)
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
Women are sometimes selfish and proud (men, too) . It is not jealousy but a mere feeling of selfishness and hurt pride. Women, as well, as men, sometimes couldn't accept the fact that there exes who used to adore them so much are now over them and the pain the break up had caused them. Isn't it human beings are sometimes pathetic?
@nina_khan (749)
• Pakistan
19 Jun 10
it is very common in ladies some times. i will not say all the ladies does like this but i think that they do it on purpose they are very jealous for happy they think when she will leave a man he will not be happy and will come back begging but it is not the case there are so many ladies single now a days and looking for some good matches for them selves. ex ladies should not do this to the man who they have already left. just go ahead and get ready for more challenges thanks for your discussion
• Netherlands Antilles
17 Jun 10
I am a woman, I don't do that. NEVER!!! If a relation end it's for a reason. Maybe i miss the person not for ever. I have a word that I always say............I don't miss the one that gone but the one that is coming!! hahahahahaha. But i don't do that. it's not nice!
• United States
17 Jun 10
Nah, I have seen similar thing for men also. Sometimes they leave the women for another one and then get all jealous when those ex's end up with someone else. I suppose it has a lot to do with psychology of humans. Now that you bring it up I will try to study more about it. Even last night I answered a question about it. But now you are making me think!
@qianyun6 (2067)
• China
17 Jun 10
One of my father's friends did things like that in the real world, but he's a man. He was not satisfied with the fact that he only had a daughter. In traditional Chinese concept, continue the family name is important. So he divorced from his ex-wife and married with another younger woman. All his friends including my father was angry with this and broke off relation as friend of him. His life got hard and one day came back to find his ex-wife. Of course he was cursed and driven away. A good horse will never turn round to graze on an old pasture!
@lissa12p (99)
• Philippines
17 Jun 10
Both men and women do this. As if they are in constant search for the perfect partner. Realizing in the end that they made a huge mistake and try to win them back. Unfortunately majority of the partners that where dumped end up to be in a better relationship than their exes whom dumped them. Can't say if its karma or maybe it's just what's supposed to happen anyway.
@alaskanray (4636)
• United States
17 Jun 10
I know what you are talking about. They have some sort of proprietary feelings about the old relationship. It's like they can't let go of the ownership. It all boils down to lack of respect for the ex's feelings. It's also a bit immaturity on their part because only the immature person begrudges another person happiness, regardless of their relationship with that person. Aesop illustrated this very well in his story of the dog in the manger.
@aamir007 (129)
• India
17 Jun 10
It is basic instinct of human nature, when we have something very near and close to us ,we are avoiding that person but when we are seeing that particular have relation someonelse that time you realize the importance of that particular one...this would be a reason....